Should I take my husband back after h...

Should I take my husband back after he cheated?

Created by Jackie on Nov 22, 2009

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Bes to you

Irvine, KY

#1 Nov 22, 2009
Seems like I can tell the problem must be recent. You only give two choices too So you probably already got your mine made up.You don't list any other options.I'm a 57 yr. old male married about 39 yr. Never been separated or divorced. Look at some women but never been with another but my wife. He mmay not do it again but I've seen & heard it before but got some doubts about some men staying faithful but as I said I've never & too old & too much too lose now . But I stil look but don't try to catch.No knows him like you do. Hope you lots of luck though
JOSH ADAMS POST

Chesterfield, MO

#2 Nov 22, 2009
I am the ex of Josh Adams and this hits so close to home right now. He just got took to jail two nights in a row with two different women and I have learned within the last 72 hours that the man that I thought I loved, AND LOVED ME, was a lying manipulative bastard that was cheating with a multitude of women. He is now in jail because of probation violations and expects me to stand by his side after all this shit...I may have been stupid to let this happen but iam not a GD idiot that is going to allow it to go on. I have two beautiful little girls and if I didn;t stand up for myself what am i really teaching them,,,that it is ok for a man to walk all over you and be with any and every women that comes his way. NO!!!! I wont teach my girls that. Women deserve just as much respect as men do and its a safe bet that if he cheats once he is going to do it again. Its huMAN nature. a man with a wondering eye is never satisfied no matter how hard you try to make things perfect for him. I feel for all the women that are going thru the shit that i am facing right now,,it really sucks. these men need to pay and I am not sure that will ever happen but I know what I can do...I can leave the ass hole and not let him do this to me ever again and feel sorry for the next poor woman it happens to. Like I said my ex is JOSH ADAMS, if you know anything that can help me break away and prove that he is the cheater not me than please help me. post under his name,,JOSH ADAMS OR Clickheretocatchacheater I need all the help i can get.,. Us women needc to stick together not always act like compotition...sometimes we need eachother
Dave

Springfield, MA

#3 Nov 22, 2009
Although,I can feel for you,I think that while you are hurt and confused,you are looking for an easy way out of this,but I personally don't think that this is something you put up for a 'Vote'. You didn't ask people whether you could or should marry him,and even if you did,its likely that whatever the outcome of the polling,you were going to do whatever you wanted to do anyway. My point is,this is something that's between you and your husband,not something to be put up for 'Debate'. Maybe instead of asking other people who don't even know you or your husband for that matter,you should be asking,no matter what you decide,if you will be able to live with him and yourself? Someone once said,"Sometimes you can love a person so much that you end up hating yourself.." I suggest you think about that.
Caroline

United States

#4 Nov 22, 2009
Bes to you wrote:
Seems like I can tell the problem must be recent. You only give two choices too So you probably already got your mine made up.You don't list any other options.I'm a 57 yr. old male married about 39 yr. Never been separated or divorced. Look at some women but never been with another but my wife. He mmay not do it again but I've seen & heard it before but got some doubts about some men staying faithful but as I said I've never & too old & too much too lose now . But I stil look but don't try to catch.No knows him like you do. Hope you lots of luck though
If a man TRULY loves his WIFE he would NEVER cheat on her!BOTTOM LINE!!! I KNOW a man who says he LOVES his wife BUT he CHEATS...YOU ask "how do I KNOW this?" I'm the one he cheated with!!!So he might have a lot to lose but he should've thought of that! YES,EVERYONE makes mistakes but he should'nt make his wife feel guilty for doing the SAME thing HE'S doing!!!He DID it! He should GROW up and OWN it!(intials C.M.D)
METOO

Chesterfield, MO

#5 Nov 23, 2009
Dave wrote:
Although,I can feel for you,I think that while you are hurt and confused,you are looking for an easy way out of this,but I personally don't think that this is something you put up for a 'Vote'. You didn't ask people whether you could or should marry him,and even if you did,its likely that whatever the outcome of the polling,you were going to do whatever you wanted to do anyway. My point is,this is something that's between you and your husband,not something to be put up for 'Debate'. Maybe instead of asking other people who don't even know you or your husband for that matter,you should be asking,no matter what you decide,if you will be able to live with him and yourself? Someone once said,"Sometimes you can love a person so much that you end up hating yourself.." I suggest you think about that.
sounds like you have some unresolved issues. no i neverr asked anyone if i should marry my husband and I thank god for the wonderful times we had together but I also never asked him to cheat on me either. The point is ;now I can poll the situation or do what ever I want because i WONT put up with this bull and I can and will share my story with who ever i want. whemn you marry someone it should be a commitment that is carried out on both sides, not just with one. and NO I cant live with him after this. I have loved and been fathful to him just to have him go to other women and I think that is bs. Whan you devote yourself to another you should be able to trust that the other person will give you that same devotion, I dont hate myself but I do hate that he has put me thru this. I suggest you think about that
Dear Abby

Winchester, KY

#6 Nov 23, 2009
JOSH ADAMS POST wrote:
I am the ex of Josh Adams and this hits so close to home right now. He just got took to jail two nights in a row with two different women and I have learned within the last 72 hours that the man that I thought I loved, AND LOVED ME, was a lying manipulative bastard that was cheating with a multitude of women. He is now in jail because of probation violations and expects me to stand by his side after all this shit...I may have been stupid to let this happen but iam not a GD idiot that is going to allow it to go on. I have two beautiful little girls and if I didn;t stand up for myself what am i really teaching them,,,that it is ok for a man to walk all over you and be with any and every women that comes his way. NO!!!! I wont teach my girls that. Women deserve just as much respect as men do and its a safe bet that if he cheats once he is going to do it again. Its huMAN nature. a man with a wondering eye is never satisfied no matter how hard you try to make things perfect for him. I feel for all the women that are going thru the shit that i am facing right now,,it really sucks. these men need to pay and I am not sure that will ever happen but I know what I can do...I can leave the ass hole and not let him do this to me ever again and feel sorry for the next poor woman it happens to. Like I said my ex is JOSH ADAMS, if you know anything that can help me break away and prove that he is the cheater not me than please help me. post under his name,,JOSH ADAMS OR Clickheretocatchacheater I need all the help i can get.,. Us women needc to stick together not always act like compotition...sometimes we need eachother
If he going to jail that should be enough to dump him!! Why would u want to be with someone like that??
JOSH ADAMS POST

Chesterfield, MO

#7 Nov 23, 2009
dont! Sounds bad I know but I have stuck by him thru worse. but not again. Hes gone too far this time
OMG

Pikeville, KY

#8 Nov 23, 2009
Caroline wrote:
<quoted text>If a man TRULY loves his WIFE he would NEVER cheat on her!BOTTOM LINE!!! I KNOW a man who says he LOVES his wife BUT he CHEATS...YOU ask "how do I KNOW this?" I'm the one he cheated with!!!So he might have a lot to lose but he should've thought of that! YES,EVERYONE makes mistakes but he should'nt make his wife feel guilty for doing the SAME thing HE'S doing!!!He DID it! He should GROW up and OWN it!(intials C.M.D)
I think you are wrong. Men, who love their wifes do cheat.
They simply love the attention the other woman gives them. Yet, when push comes to shove they will never leave their wife. It is not because of the kids, it is not because they can't afford to as so many will lead you to believe, it is because the love their wife and don't want to leave. A man rarely leaves his spouse for the other woman, and if they do, it rarely ever works out. I agree if a man does it he should own it. He knows the outcome before he ever does it. I hate that you got involved with this man. You should find someone who will truely love you and give you a good life.
Lady D

United States

#9 Nov 23, 2009
OMG wrote:
<quoted text>I think you are wrong. Men, who love their wifes do cheat.
They simply love the attention the other woman gives them. Yet, when push comes to shove they will never leave their wife. It is not because of the kids, it is not because they can't afford to as so many will lead you to believe, it is because the love their wife and don't want to leave. A man rarely leaves his spouse for the other woman, and if they do, it rarely ever works out. I agree if a man does it he should own it. He knows the outcome before he ever does it. I hate that you got involved with this man. You should find someone who will truely love you and give you a good life.
If I hear "thats just the way men are!" one more time I will PUKE!I don't CARE who you are if you REALLY Love your wife you will NOT cheat on her!Although I would like to take credit for "Caroline's post" it wasn't me! She made a lot of good points.When the man has his hands on another woman and his pants are off ;DOES HE THINK OF HIS WIFE'S FEELINGS? NO,he doesnt!!!!There are NO grown-up men! They are always "creepin"(hope everyone knows what that means)yet when push DOES come to shove ,they RUN back home PRAYING they didn't get caught(until the NEXT time!)They can TALK the TALK but THEY crawl the WALK! ALL you "SO CALLED MEN" out there who says they LOVE their wives KEEP YOUR PANTS ON!That way when you look in your wives eyes and they will FEEL your HONESTY!I COULD type a lot more but you KNOW who you are so thats ENOUGH for me! GROW THE HELL UP!!!!!

“Go MSU Spartans!”

Since: Oct 08

Kalamazoo, MI

#11 Nov 23, 2009
OMG wrote:
<quoted text>I think you are wrong. Men, who love their wifes do cheat.
They simply love the attention the other woman gives them. Yet, when push comes to shove they will never leave their wife.
Oh, I see. So, so much for that "forsaking all others until death do us part" part of the vows.
how about

Sandy Hook, KY

#12 Nov 23, 2009
well i have went threw it for 19 years and im tired of it ,,, they dont change , wanna know the reason i stay i know i cant surport my kids by myself and even thou hes a lair , cheatin dogg
Hes damn good to his kids , they are soon 18 17 and 9 and soon i can take care of the 9 year old by myself , i ask my hubby he says he loves me , but thats hes stuiped and dont know why he does it ,,, so i dont know either , i know if u truely love someone , u would NOT wanna hurt this person ,,, so no i dont think that a man ,that cheats will stop .....
real person

Shelbiana, KY

#13 Nov 23, 2009
dolph wrote:
one word....swallow...there, I saved your marriage.
LOLOL THATS A GREAT ONE BUT SO TRUE LOLlol
OMG

Pikeville, KY

#14 Nov 23, 2009
Lady D wrote:
<quoted text>If I hear "thats just the way men are!" one more time I will PUKE!I don't CARE who you are if you REALLY Love your wife you will NOT cheat on her!Although I would like to take credit for "Caroline's post" it wasn't me! She made a lot of good points.When the man has his hands on another woman and his pants are off ;DOES HE THINK OF HIS WIFE'S FEELINGS? NO,he doesnt!!!!There are NO grown-up men! They are always "creepin"(hope everyone knows what that means)yet when push DOES come to shove ,they RUN back home PRAYING they didn't get caught(until the NEXT time!)They can TALK the TALK but THEY crawl the WALK! ALL you "SO CALLED MEN" out there who says they LOVE their wives KEEP YOUR PANTS ON!That way when you look in your wives eyes and they will FEEL your HONESTY!I COULD type a lot more but you KNOW who you are so thats ENOUGH for me! GROW THE HELL UP!!!!!
Wasn't you on another thread stating that you went out on your husband he worked too much and didn't pay enough attention to you. I believe, in your case, you are the one that runs back home and hopes you didn't get caught. You may want to go back and re-read what you have posted on other threads.
Lady D

United States

#15 Nov 23, 2009
OMG wrote:
<quoted text>Wasn't you on another thread stating that you went out on your husband he worked too much and didn't pay enough attention to you. I believe, in your case, you are the one that runs back home and hopes you didn't get caught. You may want to go back and re-read what you have posted on other threads.
TOPIX TROLL!!! Do you ACTUALLY believe EVERYTHING I post on here?If so you need to get a LIFE and not worry about mine!and don't say you don't "WORRY" about it because you OBSESS a lot about ME.You evidently have issues about truth and fiction!Take up a HOBBY ,maybe knitting,YOU would be really GOOD at it because you seemed to have DROPPED a FEW stitches!LOL!
A note ESPECIALLY for you,OMG=IF I cheated do you REALLY think a woman with as much self confedience as I do, would CARE about getting CAUGHT! IF I cared I would'nt post ANYTHING on TOPIX!
Have a HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!
the saying

Pikeville, KY

#16 Nov 23, 2009
I've had this done to me too. He has done this 3 times that I know of. One of which is in question b/c he won't admit it. I once asked my mother why he would do this to me and she said you know the saying "Behind every beautiful woman is a man sick of her" It's the truth if you think about it. Look at these women these men are married to then look at who they cheat with. It's complicated as hell and nobody will ever figure out why they do it. One thing is for sure though they will not leave their wives for a whor* They want their good little woman at home with the kids. They want us to be faithful when they are not. It's sickening! I couldn't take it anymore, I had enough I didn't want to go through this anymore. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right but I got revenge I done it back. Then I told him about it. He fell apart. It was nice to finally see him go through what I had for the past 4 years. Then I kicked him out! Cheaters will never change! Thats a fact ladies. I was stupid to stay as long as I did. Don't make the same mistake as me. Get out of that relationship. It will never stop, It only gets worse!
Jobe

Shelbiana, KY

#17 Nov 23, 2009
the saying wrote:
I've had this done to me too. He has done this 3 times that I know of. One of which is in question b/c he won't admit it. I once asked my mother why he would do this to me and she said you know the saying "Behind every beautiful woman is a man sick of her" It's the truth if you think about it. Look at these women these men are married to then look at who they cheat with. It's complicated as hell and nobody will ever figure out why they do it. One thing is for sure though they will not leave their wives for a whor* They want their good little woman at home with the kids. They want us to be faithful when they are not. It's sickening! I couldn't take it anymore, I had enough I didn't want to go through this anymore. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right but I got revenge I done it back. Then I told him about it. He fell apart. It was nice to finally see him go through what I had for the past 4 years. Then I kicked him out! Cheaters will never change! Thats a fact ladies. I was stupid to stay as long as I did. Don't make the same mistake as me. Get out of that relationship. It will never stop, It only gets worse!
I truly agree with you. My sister always said, "do it to them before they get a chance to do it to you". I never agreed with her until lately. The grass always looks greener to most men...someplace else.
Mack

Springfield, MA

#18 Nov 23, 2009
METOO wrote:
<quoted text>sounds like you have some unresolved issues. no i neverr asked anyone if i should marry my husband and I thank god for the wonderful times we had together but I also never asked him to cheat on me either. The point is ;now I can poll the situation or do what ever I want because i WONT put up with this bull and I can and will share my story with who ever i want. whemn you marry someone it should be a commitment that is carried out on both sides, not just with one. and NO I cant live with him after this. I have loved and been fathful to him just to have him go to other women and I think that is bs. Whan you devote yourself to another you should be able to trust that the other person will give you that same devotion, I dont hate myself but I do hate that he has put me thru this. I suggest you think about that
By the sound of things,I think you have your answer. Good Luck.
METOO

Chesterfield, MO

#19 Nov 23, 2009
Mack wrote:
<quoted text> By the sound of things,I think you have your answer. Good Luck.
thanks mack. I think I know what I need to do too.
OMG

Pikeville, KY

#20 Nov 23, 2009
Lady D wrote:
<quoted text>TOPIX TROLL!!! Do you ACTUALLY believe EVERYTHING I post on here?If so you need to get a LIFE and not worry about mine!and don't say you don't "WORRY" about it because you OBSESS a lot about ME.You evidently have issues about truth and fiction!Take up a HOBBY ,maybe knitting,YOU would be really GOOD at it because you seemed to have DROPPED a FEW stitches!LOL!
A note ESPECIALLY for you,OMG=IF I cheated do you REALLY think a woman with as much self confedience as I do, would CARE about getting CAUGHT! IF I cared I would'nt post ANYTHING on TOPIX!
Have a HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!
so you are saying you are a liar!(LOL). Yes, I do think you would care about getting caught.
You did say you didn't "the money is too good". You have no confidence or you would not feel the need to constantly have attention from a man. YOU ARE THE ONE THAT SAID "I get no attention". So now you are wanting to say you just made that up.
I don't which would be worse "a w--re or, a liar.
Lady D

United States

#21 Nov 23, 2009
OMG wrote:
<quoted text>so you are saying you are a liar!(LOL). Yes, I do think you would care about getting caught.
You did say you didn't "the money is too good". You have no confidence or you would not feel the need to constantly have attention from a man. YOU ARE THE ONE THAT SAID "I get no attention". So now you are wanting to say you just made that up.
I don't which would be worse "a w--re or, a liar.
~~LAUGHING OUT LOUD AT YOU~~~
You ASSUME you KNOW me!!!!Following ME AGAIN! HUN,GET A LIFE....
NOBODY KNOWS ME!!!!!!!

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