men who are jealous of thier own chil...
highway woman

Pikeville, KY

#62 Apr 6, 2014
Lonely wrote:
So I need to know what you guys think about a woman that sleeps with her son. Took him out of school because he didn't like going and cried every morning. Let's him stay up all night and she gets maybe two hours of sleep a night. My boy is 9. I try to get him to sleep I tried to make him go to school. When I get on to him she fights with me and takes up for him. This is the last child she is going to have we have two older girls. Now my son will not let me and my wife in the same room together. We can't talk without him getting between us. I beg my wife all the time just to come sleep with me at night when he goes to sleep. She doesn't. I beg her for a little attention you anything but I don't get anything from her. Jealous my not be the word but I am discussed. If anyone has any advice please help.
This doesnt sound right at all.
It sounds almost like your wife isnt at all happy in her marriage, and is using her son to place a wedge between you two.
A child should never be in the room with its parents when they are having private discussions, no matter what the subject, money, marriage, sex, family, anything.
And her going and getting the child from school, sleeping with him, it sounds like she has some kind of personal issue.
I hope you can work it out, but it sounds like she has her mind made up.
Maybe you can get a sitter and then have a discussion, maybe its not her being overly protective of her child, but using it as a way to keep you away.
I dont know, I shouldnt be giving advice I guess, but it just isnt right to use a child in that way, and to be manipulated by the child either.
Because by him getting between you, sounds like he knows just exactly what he needs to do to get his way.
Lisa

Chesterfield, MO

#64 Apr 6, 2014
Sad mama wrote:
My husband of 26 years is very jealous of his own son. Our son is going to be a doc, he is studying day and night for that. I am trying to help him with small things- bring cooked food couple times a month, sometimes help cleaning his place when he is too busy. I am always chastised by my husband that I am spoiling our son, he needs to grow up and I do not need me be there for him. When I spend time with my son couple of hours every other week( we also live 1 hour apart from him, so it adds another 2 hours), my husband complains that I steal this time from him. I have a feeling that something fundamentally wrong with my husband - I not sure if this is behavior or mental issues. We both work and doing OK financially. Any suggestions are appreciated.
It doesn't sound like you're spoiling your son. It sounds more like you're helping him in little ways that I'm sure he appreciates. He is studying hard to make something of himself and will have a good future. You husband should be happy and proud that his son is working hard toward a good future and not be resentful of the little time you spend with him and the little things you do for him. If your son was a deadbeat, I could understand your husband's attitude, but that's not the case. It's very hard studying and working to become a doctor. Your husband could be a little more supportive toward you and you son instead of thinking only of himself. It doesn't sound like you spend an excessive amount of time with your son, and doing a little cooking and cleaning for him isn't anything your husband should complain about.
markdennelo

Blairsville, PA

#65 Apr 7, 2014
Joan

Milwaukee, WI

#66 Apr 22, 2014
My biological father goes to church like he's going to die if he doesn't go but is the most fucked up person you will ever meet. The sound of his voice is absolutely nauseating to me. He speaks as if he thinks he is a god in such a condescending manner you want to smack him. He calls my mother names and makes fun of all his kids,(including me, of course) behind our backs. Like we never knew it! OMG he sits in his kitchen and bad mouths people, his favorite activity, as my mother sits there, too afraid to say anything or to defend anyone. When she does the bastard gives her the cold shoulder which she describes as a relief because living with him is like being in jail with a warden. He is a holy roller who has the whole house set up like a church with holy water in the hallway and pictures of Christ everywhere. What a sad joke. He disinherited me when I eloped at age 23. He only sees me because my mother forces him to, and then he pretends as if nothing is wrong, but he is too much of a phony to fool me. Anything he does for his kids is like pulling teeth and my mom has to act like a child to get her way. Sick people! I don't care if they never leave me a dime just as long as I can be away from them to heal. Better off alone than in bad company. I mean, I could write a book on all the mental abuse I endured throughout my lifetime in that house. Now I see that he has always been just a little fucked up nobody who wants to feel big so he took it out on innocent kids and a wife whom he doesn't deserve.

Since: Feb 12

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#67 Apr 22, 2014
I hate insecure people, whether they are male or female.
Katty

Ransom, KY

#68 Apr 22, 2014
To everyone on here, especially the women still with these "men", people treat you the way you let them treat you.

Someone said they're still married after 28 years of abuse and jealousy. That's insane to me, and this is coming from someone who thinks divorce is an absolute last option.(Which is an entirely different discussion.) But it's true. People will treat you the way you let them. Stand up for yourself and your children. You're all strong, don't let anyone tell you different.

Since: Feb 12

Location hidden

#69 Apr 23, 2014
Katty wrote:
To everyone on here, especially the women still with these "men", people treat you the way you let them treat you.
Someone said they're still married after 28 years of abuse and jealousy. That's insane to me, and this is coming from someone who thinks divorce is an absolute last option.(Which is an entirely different discussion.) But it's true. People will treat you the way you let them. Stand up for yourself and your children. You're all strong, don't let anyone tell you different.
Excellent post Katty. You hit the nail on the head when you wrote, "people treat you the way you let them treat you." I think so many women especially don't think they deserve to be loved or happy or whatever. They allow bad treatment because they don't know their own value.
I am a smart person

London, UK

#70 May 24, 2014
Well, in the wild do you see a male raising children. Does a man have boobs to nurse the baby. What use is he around the kids except to teach them stuff of course. A long time ago. Males just use to hunt and use the muscles for those stuff and thought the boys how to hunt. Now when males go to work. They come home nothing to hand out just money. Back then it was like fresh meat or something life saving she would be saying thank you HUSBAND and gives her a kiss or Hug or something. The children will come and say can i come hunting next time and he says no, your a girl and no son your like 8! you crazy. So the father is basically the family hero and he is in center of attention for a while thats all a man needs. BUT NOOO! Now the dad comes home. All the money in the bank. Sits down. The most kindest thing you men will get know is Hello dad. Oh when did you come i did not see you, darling don't scare me. NO stop tuching me we already have children. The earth is full of children! The house already has 3. FUCK THIS LIFE. LIFE OF BORING SHIT. SHIT.
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Tom

Birmingham, UK

#71 May 26, 2014
I am seriously shocked about the lady's comments here.
I am a man I love my child and I do anything for it.
I go to work and I help my wife I changed nappies I feed my babies this is normal to me.
My friends are the same and we are all man the question I have we're do you find this individuals you call man ?
How come you not realise there bad attitude before you got the child ?
Tom

Birmingham, UK

#72 May 26, 2014
Joan wrote:
My biological father goes to church like he's going to die if he doesn't go but is the most fucked up person you will ever meet. The sound of his voice is absolutely nauseating to me. He speaks as if he thinks he is a god in such a condescending manner you want to smack him. He calls my mother names and makes fun of all his kids,(including me, of course) behind our backs. Like we never knew it! OMG he sits in his kitchen and bad mouths people, his favorite activity, as my mother sits there, too afraid to say anything or to defend anyone. When she does the bastard gives her the cold shoulder which she describes as a relief because living with him is like being in jail with a warden. He is a holy roller who has the whole house set up like a church with holy water in the hallway and pictures of Christ everywhere. What a sad joke. He disinherited me when I eloped at age 23. He only sees me because my mother forces him to, and then he pretends as if nothing is wrong, but he is too much of a phony to fool me. Anything he does for his kids is like pulling teeth and my mom has to act like a child to get her way. Sick people! I don't care if they never leave me a dime just as long as I can be away from them to heal. Better off alone than in bad company. I mean, I could write a book on all the mental abuse I endured throughout my lifetime in that house. Now I see that he has always been just a little fucked up nobody who wants to feel big so he took it out on innocent kids and a wife whom he doesn't deserve.
Your story reminds me of my father telling me my cousines are much cleverer the me.
I was put down my hole live now he wonders why not wont to see him.
SimplyPut

Homer Glen, IL

#73 May 26, 2014
Joan, I defiantly can occur with you. I deal with a man who I have been with for 20 some years. I always new he had some kind of mental issues but excused all them to his upbringing and coming from a very abusive childhood. He always kept himself guarded especially around my family, as a matter of fact a very conning and manipulative personally. He would always blame someone else always, or say "I didn't do it'' or I didn't know, uses others to do his dirty work, by either lying to others or playing the pity game. Never ever to admit any responsibility to anything, even something he just did or said. Uses the bible constantly though, following a bizarre man-made religion which today is recognized as a "Cult'', the founder is dead, but husband still practices his teachings. There was so much there put could never put my finger on it, he is a sociopath…Of course, he will avoid at all costs to ever seek psychological therapy of any kind,to him he's perfectly fine, its their victims that know their not.
Charlie

United States

#74 Jun 19, 2014
The women who post here must be poor judges of character to to choose such loser men. Of course there are loser men out there, just like there are loser women who are out there. However, the women who are men-bashing in this thread demonstrate how shallow they are by generalizing the male population by way of anecdotes only. The negative experiences you've had are limited only to those losers you've chosen to bed with, not with the general male population.
Pickled

Lithonia, GA

#75 Aug 31, 2014
When we first met we were joined by the hip, best friends, so in love. He took me to EVERY Dr's appt during all of our pregnancies. Once they were born he never hesitated providing. Once we split, I begged him to be apart of their lives APART from me . He refused. But anytime he did come around his interest was only me. Finally, after my continued non intrest in a relationship ,he just disappears and leaves me to raise them alone. Was he jealous of the children?
sara

Burlington, Canada

#76 Oct 5, 2014
lia wrote:
Ladies..i left my husband along time ago...men can't grow up...they are jealous of their children, stepchildren...children need their mothers first, and if the father doesn't want to help out and be a dad, then leave him, put your children first always, men can come and go, but your child is yours forever! You are a mother, not a men's sex slave! I told my ex husband if you are jealous of the baby you can do 2 things..help me take care of our child, and stop complaining...or 2 you can pack up and leave! My duty is now a mother first! My child is helpless, has no one in the world but me, innocent and pure, you are a grown man, you are 6 feet tall, you can have a job, walk and cook your own meals...you should be doing these things for me, you should help me...he couldn't take me standing up to him so he left, later i found my self a good other woman my daughter was breastfed, he was jealous...NO HE CAN NOT HAVE MY BREASTMILK, THAT IS FOR MY CHILD! THIS MAN IS ALWAYS TAKING FROM MY BABY...i told him to leave!
MY CHILD IS NOW 5 AND I AM IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, SHE IS THE BEST THING, SHE COOKS HELPS ME EQUALLY IN EVERYTHING, EVEN WATCHES MY CHILD FOR ALL YOU WOMAN OUT THERE...LEAVE THE MEN...HAVE THE BABIES, THEN LEAVE THESE MEN FOR WOMEN...WOMEN ARE BETTER...MORE WOMEN TURN TO OTHER WOMAN! ITS THE BEST THING EVER..NOW MY X IS A LOSER HAS NO ONE...I WILL NEVER LET HIM NEAR MY CHILD IF A MAN IS JEALOUS OF HIS CHILD HE MAY DO DAMAGE TO THE BABY BE CAREFUL LADIES, THESE AREN'T MEN THEY ARE JEALOUS ANIMALS!
very true- they could hurt the child and they do. you are a wonderful strong woman- we need more people like you around.
sara

Burlington, Canada

#77 Oct 5, 2014
SimplyPut wrote:
Joan, I defiantly can occur with you. I deal with a man who I have been with for 20 some years. I always new he had some kind of mental issues but excused all them to his upbringing and coming from a very abusive childhood. He always kept himself guarded especially around my family, as a matter of fact a very conning and manipulative personally. He would always blame someone else always, or say "I didn't do it'' or I didn't know, uses others to do his dirty work, by either lying to others or playing the pity game. Never ever to admit any responsibility to anything, even something he just did or said. Uses the bible constantly though, following a bizarre man-made religion which today is recognized as a "Cult'', the founder is dead, but husband still practices his teachings. There was so much there put could never put my finger on it, he is a sociopath…Of course, he will avoid at all costs to ever seek psychological therapy of any kind,to him he's perfectly fine, its their victims that know their not.
leave him. please. by staying with this jerk you are only enabling his behavior and messing up your life and health. nothing is worth staying with a sociopath
Anonymous

Phoenix, AZ

#78 Oct 24, 2014
you think too much wrote:
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You are cazy and simple minded. Not to mention, disgusting. You make me sick. And I am not the parent either! I am just an outsider looking into your trashy mind, Pervert.
I agree thats just nasty minded, I light up when I see my kids, my kids rest there heads on my lap some time,Nothing sexual my 15 year old daughter is laying across my back at the moment just being silly. I am close to all 4 of my kids but my husband thinks like you when it comes to my oldest son it has been this way sense he was 10. I think the church and you need to pray for each other. There is nothing wrong with being happy to be in the presents of your children especially if you did a good job raising them with his help.
Stephanie

West Orange, NJ

#79 Jul 18, 2015
lia wrote:
Ladies..i left my husband along time ago...men can't grow up...they are jealous of their children, stepchildren...children need their mothers first, and if the father doesn't want to help out and be a dad, then leave him, put your children first always, men can come and go, but your child is yours forever! You are a mother, not a men's sex slave! I told my ex husband if you are jealous of the baby you can do 2 things..help me take care of our child, and stop complaining...or 2 you can pack up and leave! My duty is now a mother first! My child is helpless, has no one in the world but me, innocent and pure, you are a grown man, you are 6 feet tall, you can have a job, walk and cook your own meals...you should be doing these things for me, you should help me...he couldn't take me standing up to him so he left, later i found my self a good other woman my daughter was breastfed, he was jealous...NO HE CAN NOT HAVE MY BREASTMILK, THAT IS FOR MY CHILD! THIS MAN IS ALWAYS TAKING FROM MY BABY...i told him to leave!
MY CHILD IS NOW 5 AND I AM IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, SHE IS THE BEST THING, SHE COOKS HELPS ME EQUALLY IN EVERYTHING, EVEN WATCHES MY CHILD FOR ALL YOU WOMAN OUT THERE...LEAVE THE MEN...HAVE THE BABIES, THEN LEAVE THESE MEN FOR WOMEN...WOMEN ARE BETTER...MORE WOMEN TURN TO OTHER WOMAN! ITS THE BEST THING EVER..NOW MY X IS A LOSER HAS NO ONE...I WILL NEVER LET HIM NEAR MY CHILD IF A MAN IS JEALOUS OF HIS CHILD HE MAY DO DAMAGE TO THE BABY BE CAREFUL LADIES, THESE AREN'T MEN THEY ARE JEALOUS ANIMALS!
My father was abusive and jealous of both my brother and me. He made fun of us, told us we were no good, stupid, etc. My mom let this go on, and only admits now that he's 78, that he was wrong. Still does this to us now. Payback is a bitch, old man. Funny thing is he's so narcissistic, he fancies himself a much younger man. Idiot!
lordyrpplsostoop id

Chicago, IL

#81 Nov 24, 2015
Homer wrote:
Not to stray completely off topic but since this is a man bashing thread I just felt I ought to bring up a few things about some so called Mothers that are just as bad as men. My wife and I, well lets make that Ex, had a daughter. I knew something was wrong at the Hospital, and being a first time Dad, didn't really know if it was normal. They brought our new daughter in to the room and I could tell she didn't act right. She didn't even want to feed it and after a short time would call for the nurses to come get it. She didn't want me to leave her room, but was completely different toward the baby. Maybe out of necessity I stepped up and took care of the feeding. It could very well have been what brought me so close to her, but i just fell completely in love with that little gal. That Ex went back to work after two weeks of maternity leave even with me strongly suggesting that was too soon. I took an extended leave of absence to care for that little gal. Which in the long run hurt my career, but i wouldn't change one thing. After caring for this baby all day this "Mother" wouldn't even put this baby to sleep at night. Thats what i would call laying with her until she fell asleep. After she was old enough I finally returned to work but the relationship between this "Mother" and Baby was never anywhere near as close as her and I. She is older now and they are a lot closer, and I am happy they are, but not all women are mothers either. For at least a year I couldn't even sleep for longer then an hour without getting up and checking to see if she was still breathing. I was scared to death of SIDS. So lets not be so rough on these new fathers knowing some of the women are just as bad.
Thats called postpartum depression ..god why are men such frickn idiots..just shut up and go burry your head in the sand.
jealous dads kid

Naples, FL

#82 Nov 29, 2015
women 55 wrote:
Manly man can't you say anything sensible to show that you as one of them can be something other than what we will think .. Most men are nobs.. A ND you just gave us another reason to know that's true.. lol if you don't like the subject on here go play somewhere else..
My dad has always been jealous of me. I think the only reason he had kids was twofold, one, to appease my mother and two, to pass on HIS name. I moved away and he asks me what I am doing for a living, to judge me. He inquires what cars we have to judge me. His wants to be needed as a dad, but I don't need a dad anymore. I would love to just be friends, but the manipulations and judging and jealousy make be think that family (some family) is for shit. The thing that matters is people who care about you.
qwertyui1

Meriden, CT

#83 Jan 22, 2016
CCC wrote:
HAS ANYONE ELSE EXPERIENCED THIS???
yes m by dad would agnor my work in school i was straghea student and he was joilosof mebecouse is from old country he was raive a wamon is in the house from my grand parents. therfor i was impropait for beeing staght a students i humaliated hi and by the way my mom to

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