I guess every WOMAN/MAN is different! My case I was living w/my fiance in which, we had our SON...My SON was 5-1/2months when I found out his FATHER was cheatin on me! At 1st I wanted to beat the CRAP out of him(I DID HIT HIM), I threw stuff, then I thought what am I going to do,here we have a SON, and I just graduated HIGH SCHOOL, and Ive never worked...my HEART fell to my FEET! Ive worked ever since my SON is now close to 19 and Im still not married, I wanted to be able to raise my SON myself w/out depending on a STEP FATHER....I worked 2 jobs 12yrs and now Im only workin 1...now that I look back I THANK the DEAD-BEAT DAD for what/WHO I am today, but I could've NEVER married him, when I found this out all the TRUST I had for him was gone! My SON was 18yrs and 1 day old when his DAD finally tried to contact him and asked if he could come to graduation, I told him it was up to our SON and he was like I wanna see U 2...I told my SON I have to much PRIDE to ever take him or even think of taking him back!<quoted text>
I am a woman that is a victim of infidelity. It's easy to say I would do this or I would do that. But, when it happens to YOU, it's a different story. I use to be like most of you. I always said if my husband ever cheats on me, I am leaving. Plain and simple. To me that's the easy way out of a marriage. I could have spared myself a lot of pain by leaving. I was determined to make it work anyway. I'm glad I stayed. We are stronger for the struggles that we have faced. TOGETHER.
As far as the other woman, I was mad. I was more mad at my husband. I told her I wanted to KILL HER, but in fact, it was him that I felt so much angry toward! I didn't "kill her" I held my head high, and would walk right past her while holding my husband's arm.
It took me some time to let all the angry I had against her go. At first I acted crazy. I sent her emails, called her, drove by her house, and etc. I learnt holding on that much angry, was not healthy for ME. I was allowing her to have power over me.
It's hard to handle all the emotions of an affair. If you hold your head high enough, it makes you the better woman. One more thing, in my case the "other woman" was a friend of mine for YEARS!!
So thats why I say every WOMAN is different, but me I could never if Im dating someone and I find out they're cheatin thats it,'cause all the TRUST & OVE I had for them will be gone!!!