Why do women Always blame the other W...
angry

Red Jacket, WV

#84 Sep 9, 2009
if the man knows she is married, yes i blame him as much as i blame her
Simple wrote:
<quoted text>Agreed, but this thread is about women, I'm assuming you are a man so I'll ask do men blame the other man when they find their wife cheating on them?
bomb shell

Harold, KY

#85 Sep 9, 2009
I have also been cheated on but with his ex she only done it to show me she could she used the kids to do it but it still takes two to tango I dont completely blame her but it eats at me every day i.I should of just maybe ended it back then but i am thankful now that i didnt because all of us can an will make mistakes an any of you whom say Id never take one back after cheating i use to say the same so watch out what you say may come home to haunt you i hope it dont though cause the trust issue is gone an it will take time to get the trust back again if ever but actually some people have better relationships once this has happen but i still think men need to keep it in ther jeans
justme

United States

#86 Sep 9, 2009
angry wrote:
so its ok for women to cheat if they think marriage is over not a man.
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I'm not saying that it is ever the right thing to do because it is not. I am just saying that most men just leave a marriage when it is over for them but it is not as easy for some women to leave when their husbands refuse to accept that it is over. It is not fair for both parties involved for a spouse to make the other feel trapped when it is obvious that the love is gone and the marriage is over.
silly u

Pikeville, KY

#87 Sep 9, 2009
Amused wrote:
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Not to get off the subject, but you are not from our area are you? You really come up with some off the wall ideas.
i was thinking the same thing,where does he come up with this stuff on other threads too.
Simple

United States

#88 Sep 10, 2009
angry wrote:
if the man knows she is married, yes i blame him as much as i blame her
<quoted text>
Thanks for the input, so it's the same on both sides.
Simple

United States

#89 Sep 10, 2009
Infidelity_Victim wrote:
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Interesting. Have you been cheated on? If so, how did you handle it? Could you ignore it?
Unfortunately I have, I was your classic last one to know. I didn't have a clue here was the man that I had loved & was faithful to all the years we were together, I had complete trust & faith in him. When I found out what was going on it broke my heart (honestly until then I didn't know just how bad a man could hurt you & I was mid 40's) & to make matters worse I later found out that she was just one of many, had been going on for years. He was a great deceiver, he not only fooled me but all our families & friends as well Handle it, I asked him to leave the same day I found out, because I knew that no matter how we might try that I would never be able to completely forget it & that it could never be what it was. It took a year for me to recover, but I did & I have no regrets about my decision it was the right one for me.
hurt Logan WV

Winchester, KY

#90 Sep 10, 2009
No it is not ok for either one to cheat it hurts everyone. My husband has cheated with someone that lives by us and I have to go by her house everyday and it hurts. she is married and has kids this has been going on for years he said it was over time and time again now we live our live as if we are just room mates I can't make myself go i don't know what keeps me their. I Love him. i don't feel that he loves me or he don't show it. I would love to have my life back the way it was when we were first married and had our kids
been hurt

Pikeville, KY

#91 Sep 10, 2009
Simple wrote:
<quoted text>Unfortunately I have, I was your classic last one to know. I didn't have a clue here was the man that I had loved & was faithful to all the years we were together, I had complete trust & faith in him. When I found out what was going on it broke my heart (honestly until then I didn't know just how bad a man could hurt you & I was mid 40's) & to make matters worse I later found out that she was just one of many, had been going on for years. He was a great deceiver, he not only fooled me but all our families & friends as well Handle it, I asked him to leave the same day I found out, because I knew that no matter how we might try that I would never be able to completely forget it & that it could never be what it was. It took a year for me to recover, but I did & I have no regrets about my decision it was the right one for me.
I wish I were as strong as you.
Simple

United States

#92 Sep 11, 2009
been hurt wrote:
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I wish I were as strong as you.
I don't know if it was strong or weak, just self-preservation I guess. I knew I couldn't survive that again.
Deanna

Macon, GA

#93 Sep 15, 2009
I was in that situatin and I blamed both not just her... You have to blame the woman too if she knew the guy was married......
Agree

United States

#94 Sep 17, 2009
If the woman knows he is married (I think most women know if the man is married or not), and yes "the other woman" is to be blames also. My husband cheated on me more than once, and each woman KNEW!! I blamed them as well as him. I put more of the blame on him. Even if the other woman thinks they are cathing a lot of He ll from us..Trust me the man is hearing about to. In my situation, my husband is still hearing about it. I don't think I am going to be able to stay with him. I don't know what I am going to do..I'm still trying to figure it out. It's a hard decision to make.....
lol

Kimper, KY

#95 Sep 17, 2009
they blame the other woman because they want to stay with the man .
lol2

Jackson, KY

#96 Sep 17, 2009
lol wrote:
they blame the other woman because they want to stay with the man .
I agree. That is the easy way to handle it. Say you are supporting the husband that he is sorry and don't deal with it.
wondering

Pikeville, KY

#97 Sep 17, 2009
TWK wrote:
Statistics prove that when a man has an affair his wife always places all the blame on the "other" woman. The wife refers to "other" woman as s*ut, W*ore etc. Yet, you never hear them placing the blame on their husband. The only reason we can reach is that the wife cannot truly face the fact that someone you love and trust would hurt you that badly so it surely must have been the "other" woman's fault. Any thoughts.
What statistics or survey or clinical study did you get those facts from?
Curious

Morehead, KY

#98 Sep 20, 2009
That's just the thing the woman does need to put the blame on her husband b/c he is the one that vowed to be faithful to her but what the other woman (if she knew he was married) should just be looked at as an innocent bystander. I think not!!! When I caught my husband in bed with another woman it was horrible. She was like 8 months pregnant with some other guys kid and was known for sleeping with married or taken men. Supposedly my husband was drinking with some friends and she came over with one of hers. It was a coincidence that they were at the same place but b/c he was drinking when she came onto him he ended up sleeping with her. Drunk or not IS NOT AN EXCUSE so don't let a man tell you that!!!! But the thing was that after I decided to let him come back home the crazy whore got online writing all this shit about how much she loved him ... One night and she was in love ... Then one night after he got off work she was outside and had a small handgun ... She told him that if he ever left her for me again that she would kill him ... He had to call the police ... So it can be the other woman in some situations that needs to be blamed. As I said me and my husband are together and I did blame him more that I did her but she was one of those girls who fell in love in like 5 mins. and enjoyed the fight and drama of sleeping with another woman's man so yea in this case I think that she was just as much to blame. There are alot of girls like this out there and they are nasty !!!!
angela gordon

United States

#99 Sep 20, 2009
Infidelity_Victim wrote:
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Thank you for being nice to me.
I do not have any kind of respect for a woman that would make the decision to sleep with a married man. Not knowing a man is married is one thing, but knowing and doing it anyway in my book is horrible!!! How do they sleep at night? The nights I have cried and cried due to her and HIM. All the pain that I have been through over this. Some kind of friend I had. After she slept with my husband (before I knew), she looked me right in my eyes and promised she would NEVER do anything to hurt me. I can still get angry when I think about it. But I let it go. I have made a lot of progress. I still back slide form time to time. It can sometime be a day to day struggle. I love my husband. I feel stronger at times, but like I said I do back slide. I have good days and bad days. This only happened to me last year. I think I have come along way. I'm proud of my strength. I refuse to let this evil thing win!!! However, this isn't his first infidelity either. Can love really conquer all? Or am I just another fool?
what do you mean backslide are you saying this wont go away even after a year you still think about it? Angela gordon from robinson creek slept with my husband and ruined my family I don't know how to handle it? Anger is a small word for it.
seriously folks

United States

#100 Sep 20, 2009
You really need to listen to the lyrics of love stinks!!! Sorry folks but that is just the way it goes there is no such thing as happy ever after...the is only to comfortable or scared to leave ever after...and for those who are going to get on here and say otherwise I am sorry but you are just to blind to see the truth. Relationships are always one sided. One will always love more and give more while the other loves less and takes more.
they all cheat

Pikeville, KY

#101 Sep 21, 2009
seriously folks wrote:
You really need to listen to the lyrics of love stinks!!! Sorry folks but that is just the way it goes there is no such thing as happy ever after...the is only to comfortable or scared to leave ever after...and for those who are going to get on here and say otherwise I am sorry but you are just to blind to see the truth. Relationships are always one sided. One will always love more and give more while the other loves less and takes more.
you are sooo right!!
they all cheat

Pikeville, KY

#102 Sep 21, 2009
wondering wrote:
<quoted text>What statistics or survey or clinical study did you get those facts from?
It's not they don't place the blame on their husbands, it's just easier to forgive someone you love. The other woman is blamed for trying to take what is yours. And yes, when your married your husband is yours. It's easy for someone to look at someone elses life and want what they have. It's also easy for a man to be tempted into something new and exciting, but they never intend on the wife finding out or never intending leaving his wife. Most men don't leave. Most of the time the other woman didn't even mean anything to them other than a piece of ass. Sure they will tell them what they want to hear. In the end it's usually the wife who wins. What is her trophy? A life of distrust, living with someone who you wonder if they really love you or not, in other words HELL!
Magic

Durban, South Africa

#103 Sep 21, 2009
My husband admitted recently that eleven years ago(!) he had an affair with the wife of a couple we were really friendly with. The affair last 8 months. It was clear to me (and her husband) that there was a big attraction between them, but I hoped that they wouldn't actually start something more serious. I didn't want to accuse either of them or confront them, as there was no definite proof, and after a while it was clear that he was cooling off. That was when she began to get desperate and acting like a silly fool - simpering, flirting, phoning him, staring at him... I told him I was sick of her and didn't want to see this couple any more and he agreed. So we made excuses each time they invited us out and after she confronted me asking what she'd done to earn my coolness towards her (!!!!) I told her that, although there was no proof, I was sick of her flirting with my husband and I really didn't want to see her anymore or even be in the same room as her.

I'm glad he denied the affair all these years because if he had confirmed it then, I may have divorced him. Now we are like honeymooners (after 25 years of marriage) and I'm glad he's told the truth. And I do blame her because she was the one who encouraged the affair, who tried to persuade him to leave me, who pretended to be my friend. And although he was attracted to her, he wouldn't have taken it as far as it went if she hadn't initiated it. Btw, she divorced her husband when she met someone else and I really hope her new man cheats on her.(Neither my husband nor I ever contacted her or her husband again, so didn't act like a lunatic towards her. I'm glad about that).

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