Why do women Always blame the other Woman

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TWK

Pikeville, KY

#1 Sep 4, 2009
Statistics prove that when a man has an affair his wife always places all the blame on the "other" woman. The wife refers to "other" woman as s*ut, W*ore etc. Yet, you never hear them placing the blame on their husband. The only reason we can reach is that the wife cannot truly face the fact that someone you love and trust would hurt you that badly so it surely must have been the "other" woman's fault. Any thoughts.
really

Pikeville, KY

#2 Sep 4, 2009
Yeah, like their poor sap husband is spineless and just has no control. Well, it has to be the woman's fault; otherwise he never would have done such a thing. Stupid, isn't it?
Agree

Pikeville, KY

#3 Sep 4, 2009
I certainly agree with these two posts. I hope if I am ever in that situation, I will be able to see it for what it is.
Lady D

United States

#5 Sep 4, 2009
Thank GOD,I've yet to experience that but if I did MY husband would be the one I would blame,he KNEW he was married before she did!And I will NEVER say my husband would NEVER go out on me because my mom always sais"NEVER SAY NEVER!It will come back to bite you on the butt!
lol

Pikeville, KY

#6 Sep 4, 2009
really wrote:
Yeah, like their poor sap husband is spineless and just has no control. Well, it has to be the woman's fault; otherwise he never would have done such a thing. Stupid, isn't it?
Obviously whoever judged this post as clueless or nuts doesn't understand sarcasm.
Bernie

Pikeville, KY

#7 Sep 4, 2009
I think it is usually the man who gives the first look anyway. Women love attention and men usually flirt first in my opinion.
really

Pikeville, KY

#8 Sep 4, 2009
Lady D wrote:
Thank GOD,I've yet to experience that but if I did MY husband would be the one I would blame,he KNEW he was married before she did!And I will NEVER say my husband would NEVER go out on me because my mom always sais"NEVER SAY NEVER!It will come back to bite you on the butt!
It certainly is something that no married woman would ever have to deal with; but at least we recognize the responsiblity of a man in the situation.
Rain

United States

#9 Sep 4, 2009
I would first feel hurt, heart broken, disapointed, sad, depressed, unsure and MAD AS HELL at my husband. After I unleashed my wrath on his sorry azz, I'd seek revenge on the slvt.
Defender

Pikeville, KY

#10 Sep 4, 2009
Lady D wrote:
Thank GOD,I've yet to experience that but if I did MY husband would be the one I would blame,he KNEW he was married before she did!And I will NEVER say my husband would NEVER go out on me because my mom always sais"NEVER SAY NEVER!It will come back to bite you on the butt!
I am with you "never say never" but, if it happened and I found out my husband would be the one pay. He is the one that made the wedding vows.
Not another woman.
free reader

United States

#11 Sep 4, 2009
I agree with you all and its disgusting how the man lets his wife chase these other women to the point of making fools of themselves and making sure the whole world knows because it takes the attention off him when they should be ashamed they did this to their wife.
Defender

Pikeville, KY

#12 Sep 4, 2009
Bernie wrote:
I think it is usually the man who gives the first look anyway. Women love attention and men usually flirt first in my opinion.
Everyone likes to get a small amount of attention from the opposite sex. I think that is only human nature. But, if flirting goes beyond a passing glance or smile then it has gone too far. I don't care if someone rubs it all over my husband, it is his responsibility to say "no". If conversation and flirting continues between two people they are just asking for trouble.(a lifetime of it if they are married). No marriage would ever be the same after that.
Defender

Pikeville, KY

#13 Sep 4, 2009
free reader wrote:
I agree with you all and its disgusting how the man lets his wife chase these other women to the point of making fools of themselves and making sure the whole world knows because it takes the attention off him when they should be ashamed they did this to their wife.
I agree. These women who chase and threaten these other women are only embarrassing themselves. I don't think I would ever let anyone know they got to me that much. However, my husband would pay for the rest of his life and I am not sure if I could ever live with him or feel the same about him again.
Looking for a good man

United States

#14 Sep 4, 2009
TWK wrote:
Statistics prove that when a man has an affair his wife always places all the blame on the "other" woman. The wife refers to "other" woman as s*ut, W*ore etc. Yet, you never hear them placing the blame on their husband. The only reason we can reach is that the wife cannot truly face the fact that someone you love and trust would hurt you that badly so it surely must have been the "other" woman's fault. Any thoughts.
Women should have more respect for other women. No a man should not cheat, BUT, if you know a man has a gf or wife you are in the wrong, too!
lmao

Richmond, KY

#15 Sep 5, 2009
I have had a relationship with one married man in my life and I am middle aged. Never will I do it again. I think once most women realize it is a mistake, or should, they will never step in and or over that boundry ever again. He made the pass at me and I fell for it and he had done this before many times or so I found out later from his wife. You know what though that is no excuse for what I did and no I was not married. I also will say before I go getting negative reations I have honestly been with two men in the last 12 years. He was one of those two.
men

Panther, WV

#16 Sep 5, 2009
i hate w..... that sleep with married men and i hate married men that sleeo with w....., so i blame them both, it takes two....
Infidelity_Victi m

Nicholasville, KY

#17 Sep 5, 2009
Defender wrote:
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I don't think I would ever
I am a woman that is a victim of infidelity. It's easy to say I would do this or I would do that. But, when it happens to YOU, it's a different story. I use to be like most of you. I always said if my husband ever cheats on me, I am leaving. Plain and simple. To me that's the easy way out of a marriage. I could have spared myself a lot of pain by leaving. I was determined to make it work anyway. I'm glad I stayed. We are stronger for the struggles that we have faced. TOGETHER.

As far as the other woman, I was mad. I was more mad at my husband. I told her I wanted to KILL HER, but in fact, it was him that I felt so much angry toward! I didn't "kill her" I held my head high, and would walk right past her while holding my husband's arm.

It took me some time to let all the angry I had against her go. At first I acted crazy. I sent her emails, called her, drove by her house, and etc. I learnt holding on that much angry, was not healthy for ME. I was allowing her to have power over me.

It's hard to handle all the emotions of an affair. If you hold your head high enough, it makes you the better woman. One more thing, in my case the "other woman" was a friend of mine for YEARS!!
TWK

Pikeville, KY

#19 Sep 5, 2009
Looking for a good man wrote:
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Women should have more respect for other women. No a man should not cheat, BUT, if you know a man has a gf or wife you are in the wrong, too!
She only the wrong because adultery is a sin. She did not marry you. YOUR HUSBAND DID. Put the blame where the blame goes.
TWK

Pikeville, KY

#20 Sep 5, 2009
lmao wrote:
I have had a relationship with one married man in my life and I am middle aged. Never will I do it again. I think once most women realize it is a mistake, or should, they will never step in and or over that boundry ever again. He made the pass at me and I fell for it and he had done this before many times or so I found out later from his wife. You know what though that is no excuse for what I did and no I was not married. I also will say before I go getting negative reations I have honestly been with two men in the last 12 years. He was one of those two.
We all make mistakes in our lives and anyone who says they don't is lying. We learn from our mistakes. I certainly hope his wife but the blame where it should be. ON HIM. Most men who do it once will do it again and again as in this case.
My question is why would anyone stay married to someone who is always doing this. Good luck in the future.
Defender

Pikeville, KY

#21 Sep 5, 2009
Infidelity_Victim wrote:
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I am a woman that is a victim of infidelity. It's easy to say I would do this or I would do that. But, when it happens to YOU, it's a different story. I use to be like most of you. I always said if my husband ever cheats on me, I am leaving. Plain and simple. To me that's the easy way out of a marriage. I could have spared myself a lot of pain by leaving. I was determined to make it work anyway. I'm glad I stayed. We are stronger for the struggles that we have faced. TOGETHER.
As far as the other woman, I was mad. I was more mad at my husband. I told her I wanted to KILL HER, but in fact, it was him that I felt so much angry toward! I didn't "kill her" I held my head high, and would walk right past her while holding my husband's arm.
It took me some time to let all the angry I had against her go. At first I acted crazy. I sent her emails, called her, drove by her house, and etc. I learnt holding on that much angry, was not healthy for ME. I was allowing her to have power over me.
It's hard to handle all the emotions of an affair. If you hold your head high enough, it makes you the better woman. One more thing, in my case the "other woman" was a friend of mine for YEARS!!
I am so sorry you had to endure this much pain in your life and I am sure that being done this way by a "so called" friend made it even worse. However, as hurt as your were you did not completely blame her for the affair. You placed the blame where it should be. Your husband. I am glad to hear you worked it out. I don't think I could have been as big a person as you for doing that. People have no idea the pain they inflict on another when they do something like this. I wish you the very best.
Infidelity_Victi m

United States

#22 Sep 6, 2009
Defender wrote:
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I am so sorry you had to endure this much pain in your life and I am sure that being done this way by a "so called" friend made it even worse. However, as hurt as your were you did not completely blame her for the affair. You placed the blame where it should be. Your husband. I am glad to hear you worked it out. I don't think I could have been as big a person as you for doing that. People have no idea the pain they inflict on another when they do something like this. I wish you the very best.
Thank you for being nice to me.

I do not have any kind of respect for a woman that would make the decision to sleep with a married man. Not knowing a man is married is one thing, but knowing and doing it anyway in my book is horrible!!! How do they sleep at night? The nights I have cried and cried due to her and HIM. All the pain that I have been through over this. Some kind of friend I had. After she slept with my husband (before I knew), she looked me right in my eyes and promised she would NEVER do anything to hurt me. I can still get angry when I think about it. But I let it go. I have made a lot of progress. I still back slide form time to time. It can sometime be a day to day struggle. I love my husband. I feel stronger at times, but like I said I do back slide. I have good days and bad days. This only happened to me last year. I think I have come along way. I'm proud of my strength. I refuse to let this evil thing win!!! However, this isn't his first infidelity either. Can love really conquer all? Or am I just another fool?

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