Husbands dealing with cheating wives

[Kard]

This isn't a bash discussion. I've been through the pain and humiliation of being cheated on and after talking to many other guys this happens a lot more often than I thought. I would like to here from anyone who has been through this as well as the after effects. Please keep this civil.

[Sunshine]

I don't think it matters if you're a husband or wife being cheated on. It still hurts like crazy when the person that you love most in the world betrays you. I had been married for 23 years when I found out. Didn't want to believe it, but there it was. Not all women are cheaters, just like all men aren't. I've decided that it isn't men that are bad, it's people in general. So now I've been single for 3 years and still can't find anyone who is decent and trustworthy.

[spit-fire]

It takes TWO to have trouble, not just one.

[Stoic]

It make take two to tango but it doesn't necessarily take two to cause infidelity. One person can decide to cheat while the other has no clue there's even a problem. In some cases the spouse is bored, or feels neglected, or is simply histrionic and thrives on the attention or the challenge. Sometimes it's lack of communication.
The pain will leave eventually but the trust component damaged by the betrayal may always be affected and could enter into new relationships. The sun will shine for you again, Sunshine. You seem genuine and a catch, but it will take time before you can claim a full recovery. But hang in there. All men are not pigs, most are. But there's one out there just for you who will treat you the way you deserve.

[happy]

Yes, in time youll heal. Youll be stronger, as the saying goes what dont kill you will make you stronger. Look at it this way, if the other one cheats, then you know that yall werent meant to be. So many people say well, the other one treated me bad,thats why I cheated. That makes about as much sense, as someone saying well, he made me angry, so I killed him. Be for real, everyone is responsible for their own actions, no matter what someone else did, to pervoke it. People are very good actors or actresses, so dont feel like a fool. Just learn by it and move on, they fool you once shame on them, they fool you twice shame on you. May sound cruel, not ment to be. Just dont take no crap, like cheating, you deserve better, Im sure. So, hold your head high, you didnt cheat. What goes around comes around. Youll be fine. Im writing this all from, a world of exsperience.Good luck.

[Member of Piggott]

You might find this amusing
i was in a relationship where all she has done is cheat i was faithful with my all and she still went out and done her deeds.
I can say this if she has done that to you i'm sorry and yes it will hurt for sometime But she will have to deal with the guilt for the rest of her life

God says to overcome with forgiving and love
and it is possable

Here is a suggestion, Get yourself right by coming to the lord let her go for how much it hurts i know if you live with the burden of someones issues you will surely have many problems

Focus on you and gods will for your life
If she went out on you its her issue let her live with it don't let it affect your life
the Bible would call her a Whore

I been single now on almost 2 years now living life in the will of god

If you put God first you can overcome this we being in the flesh can't do it on our own so we tend to lean on a spouce to fill those needs but if you don't have God in the middle it's not the will of God it's of the human desires we have to overcome that and the only we can do that is Receive god in your heart and ask for forgiveness!!!

God Bless you Friend
Until next time

[Dimebag]

I feel your pain, man! It happened to me with my first wife....i was crushed...i made my own mistakes after that. I met a few girls after the divorce that would have given me anything, but all i did was be a male whore to make them pay for how bad i was hurting. How wrong of me, but that's how it happened. I finally got my head on striaght and found a beautiful, faithful, happy wife to spend the rest of my life with. The key is you have to understand that there was something wrong with your spouse who cheated, not wrong with you. They're the one with the problem, and their betrayal cost them everything. Keep your head up, i thought i'd never get over it but i did and now i wonder why i cared to lose her so much. Now that i look back on it, she wasn't worth my time and to have stayed with her would have just been a life of heartache. Be glad you know what you know and move on....there's a whole world out there just waiting for you! Good luck!

[Member of Piggott]

I never been married..... so that is what made it easier for me!!!

[what]

Kard wrote:

This isn't a bash discussion. I've been through the pain and humiliation of being cheated on and after talking to many other guys this happens a lot more often than I thought. I would like to here from anyone who has been through this as well as the after effects. Please keep this civil.

are you sure you didnt cheat first?useally it happens and we get revenge!

[Member of Piggott]

i havented cheated in over 5 years.... so no i didn't cheat and i know how it feels to be cheated on so i would never cheat again

[do what]

Member of Piggott wrote:

i havented cheated in over 5 years.... so no i didn't cheat and i know how it feels to be cheated on so i would never cheat again

so you would never cheat again?so you did cheat.hurts like heck to cheat on someone and for them to turn around and cheat on you.

[jsimpson4]

I'm going through this now with my wife. She cheated on me and it sucks! We're trying to work past it, but it's so hard.

[History Buff]

Yep been there myself and I tryed to stay with my now ex-husband it lasted about 4 years till I seen the signs starting to return and kicked him out. All I know is if you have that gut feeling something is WRONG. It usually is and if the 1 cheating is in denial of it and doesn't want to try and fix things then let him/her go. Go thru your recovery stages and get your life back on track. As for me I have no future plans of ever falling in love but,as they say 1 never knows what thewir future holds

[john]

LOVE hurts but so does hate.

[girl]

wat r some signs that prove hes cheating

[Informative]

girl wrote:

wat r some signs that prove hes cheating

You catch him with his penis in another women.

[Love]

I have been cheated on while I was 8 months preg. and had other kids at home. Belive me talk about a heart breaker!

[ArkansasMan]

Get rid of them and find someone else who may very well love you for you!

[himm]

cheaters give all relationships a bad name. it destroys trust in that person and anyone eles you encounter, for friends or a relationship. anyone that cheats donesnt care for the other person at all. no matter how they try to justify it. there is no justification for cheating. its shallow, immature, and it hurts. if the relationship gets that bad to where you are going to cheat, disolve the relationship to save the other some dignity and yourself. once you are known as a cheater you will always be known as a cheater. once a cheater always a cheater!

[Social Slayer]

My wife and I were married for a little over a year when i found out she was cheating on me. I dont know if im stupid but i still care for her greatly. We have a child together. It hurts me every day and i go through a world of emotions every time I see her. We have been apart for almost a year now and i still cant bring myself to date or go out. For one thing i dont think it would be fair to another person if im not ready to put my all in it.