To an extent you are right, we are not computers, but if Pavlov can condition a dog to salivate for a bell and you can train your child not to write on the wall with a crayon, then a person can train a child not to use illegal drugs IF THEY WANT TO. Now I make an exception for genetics because there will always be people of diminished cognitive ability who just lack the ability to make consistent and good decisions. Otherwise, putting the needle in your arm is an affirmative act and if you have been taught not to do it, you won't.<quoted text>
Listen, people aren't computers, or robots that you program that will run by that program, and never divert from the program unless otherwise commanded to do so. We're talking about real life, flesh & blood people with their own minds. Believe it or not, some people still do what they want, even though told to do otherwise. I see your point that a lot of these cases can be traced back to bad parenting, but to just deem this woman a bad mother before knowing any facts, or history is just rediculous. Sometimes people just do stupid stuff, for no good sensible reason at all. Reguardless of their upbringing. Sometimes looking in the mirror, you find the real person at fault. We all have choices in life. You can't take credit for the good ones you make, then pass off the bad ones as bad parenting, or someone elses fault. Again, "ACCOUNTABILITY".
The sad truth is that most parents don't bother to teach their children and you see these patterns repeat themselves generation after generation after generation. Parents either excuse some drug use ("hey... it's only a little pot...") or don't get involved in their kids' lives enough to a) develop confident personalities that can resist 'peer pressure,' and b) know whetehr their 'friends' are either idiots or being raised by Bad Parents themselves.
Now these parents make all sorts of excuses about why they are too busy or hopw the child "won't let them in" or some other nonsense. But the sad truth is that if they were active and involved from day one, they would always have the time and would already "be in" their childrens' lives. When parents try to assume the role fo friend, they have failed, and have put their child on equal footing. If the kid makes bad decisions after that, whose fault is it? An untaught child or a parent who failed to act like an adult?