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Grown kids still living at home in their 30s

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disgusted

Tyler, TX

#1 Jan 26, 2010
This is to all of you parents who are raising your children to be bums... STOP!!

Why do people allow their grown a$$ kids to stay at home and be irresponsible way into their 30's? Do you parents really think you're helping them? Of course not!

It's time for parents to stop being spineless cowards and take your responsibility and raise your children. Our job as a parent is to raise our children in preparation for the real world. Prepare them morally and socially for marriage and family life, employment, and financial decisions. Allowing your 32 year old son to live at home where you wash his dishes, do his laundry, cook his supper, pay his bills, and wipe his butt is not helping him. You're hurting him. He's not prepared (and probably too lazy now) to actually live as an adult in the real world.(I have the same opinion towards 32 year old women still bumming off mom and dad. It just seems to be much more common in men now.) These grown ups (who still live like children) are a disgrace, and parents who are enabling and teaching their children to be this way are a disgrace as well. Kick their butts out and let them grow up. We all know that you're doing what you're doing for yourself. You're too selfish to let go! It's not love that makes you enable your children to be lazy lowlifes; it's laziness and selfishness on your part as well. Cut the cord and be a parent!

(If this offended you... I'm sorry that you're weak and irresponsible, but this had to be said.)
Penny Pincher

United States

#2 Jan 26, 2010
You ever thought that this guy/gal could be spending over half of his/her pay-check on child support. Picture this- Man making $10.00 a hour, divorced with 2 kids, maybe a car payment of $200.00 a month, insurance for the car, rent, electric, water, food, etc,. You tell me how in the hell is he/she suppose to make it? Without any kids it would be hard for any man or woman to support themselves. Oh yeah and that was a scenario when someone was lucky enough to have a job!
Disgusted, PLEASE post any job opening that you have that pay above minimun wage or explain how in the heck people are suppose to make ends meet!
my opinion

Arlington, TX

#3 Jan 26, 2010
disgusted wrote:
This is to all of you parents who are raising your children to be bums... STOP!!
Why do people allow their grown a$$ kids to stay at home and be irresponsible way into their 30's? Do you parents really think you're helping them? Of course not!
It's time for parents to stop being spineless cowards and take your responsibility and raise your children. Our job as a parent is to raise our children in preparation for the real world. Prepare them morally and socially for marriage and family life, employment, and financial decisions. Allowing your 32 year old son to live at home where you wash his dishes, do his laundry, cook his supper, pay his bills, and wipe his butt is not helping him. You're hurting him. He's not prepared (and probably too lazy now) to actually live as an adult in the real world.(I have the same opinion towards 32 year old women still bumming off mom and dad. It just seems to be much more common in men now.) These grown ups (who still live like children) are a disgrace, and parents who are enabling and teaching their children to be this way are a disgrace as well. Kick their butts out and let them grow up. We all know that you're doing what you're doing for yourself. You're too selfish to let go! It's not love that makes you enable your children to be lazy lowlifes; it's laziness and selfishness on your part as well. Cut the cord and be a parent!
(If this offended you... I'm sorry that you're weak and irresponsible, but this had to be said.)
Wow! Your not raising or paying for these grown children, so it's really none of your beez wax what goes on. Times are getting harder, and if my grown children needed a place to go, they would ALWAYS be welcome.
shut up

Paris, TX

#4 Jan 26, 2010
disgusted wrote:
This is to all of you parents who are raising your children to be bums... STOP!!
Why do people allow their grown a$$ kids to stay at home and be irresponsible way into their 30's? Do you parents really think you're helping them? Of course not!
It's time for parents to stop being spineless cowards and take your responsibility and raise your children. Our job as a parent is to raise our children in preparation for the real world. Prepare them morally and socially for marriage and family life, employment, and financial decisions. Allowing your 32 year old son to live at home where you wash his dishes, do his laundry, cook his supper, pay his bills, and wipe his butt is not helping him. You're hurting him. He's not prepared (and probably too lazy now) to actually live as an adult in the real world.(I have the same opinion towards 32 year old women still bumming off mom and dad. It just seems to be much more common in men now.) These grown ups (who still live like children) are a disgrace, and parents who are enabling and teaching their children to be this way are a disgrace as well. Kick their butts out and let them grow up. We all know that you're doing what you're doing for yourself. You're too selfish to let go! It's not love that makes you enable your children to be lazy lowlifes; it's laziness and selfishness on your part as well. Cut the cord and be a parent!
(If this offended you... I'm sorry that you're weak and irresponsible, but this had to be said.)
My son is 34 and he was in an accident 8 years ago. His father and I pay his bills, cook his supper, wash his dishes, pay his bills and yes we even wipe his butt. Not everything is black and white. Theres gray in between. Sometimes life happens, things happen and your children end up needing help. Since youre not having to assist with helping, let others take care of their own households and you take care of yours.
disgusted

Tyler, TX

#5 Jan 26, 2010
I'm sorry I should've clarified the ones I was referring to... the people with no kids, no child support, aren't going to college, don't help their parents take care of the place, and don't contribute to their household or society. I thought that was obvious. I'm not talking about the people who have tried and fell on bad times or the ones with disabilities. I'm talking about the ones who have nothing better to do than drink and party on their struggling parent's paychecks... you know? The ones who think they're too good to work for minimum wage. The ones who have never been taught that you work for what you get... even if it is just minimum wage. For those of you who don't realize this,$7.50 an hour is $300 more a week than ZERO.
Nunya

Arlington, TX

#6 Jan 26, 2010
disgusted wrote:
This is to all of you parents who are raising your children to be bums... STOP!!
Why do people allow their grown a$$ kids to stay at home and be irresponsible way into their 30's? Do you parents really think you're helping them? Of course not!
It's time for parents to stop being spineless cowards and take your responsibility and raise your children. Our job as a parent is to raise our children in preparation for the real world. Prepare them morally and socially for marriage and family life, employment, and financial decisions. Allowing your 32 year old son to live at home where you wash his dishes, do his laundry, cook his supper, pay his bills, and wipe his butt is not helping him. You're hurting him. He's not prepared (and probably too lazy now) to actually live as an adult in the real world.(I have the same opinion towards 32 year old women still bumming off mom and dad. It just seems to be much more common in men now.) These grown ups (who still live like children) are a disgrace, and parents who are enabling and teaching their children to be this way are a disgrace as well. Kick their butts out and let them grow up. We all know that you're doing what you're doing for yourself. You're too selfish to let go! It's not love that makes you enable your children to be lazy lowlifes; it's laziness and selfishness on your part as well. Cut the cord and be a parent!
(If this offended you... I'm sorry that you're weak and irresponsible, but this had to be said.)
Did you even consider the fact that some kids live with their parents to help the PARENTS???? Maybe the parents are seriously ill and after doctor visits and prescription meds are paid they dont have enough left to survive on? maybe the kids would prefer living on their own but this is their way of helping? Instead of paying rent, etc, they help support their parents? You should be ashamed to even start a thread like this because it only shows that you are not only disgusted, but are DISGUSTING.
disgusted

Tyler, TX

#7 Jan 26, 2010
Penny Pincher wrote:
You ever thought that this guy/gal could be spending over half of his/her pay-check on child support. Picture this- Man making $10.00 a hour, divorced with 2 kids, maybe a car payment of $200.00 a month, insurance for the car, rent, electric, water, food, etc,. You tell me how in the hell is he/she suppose to make it? Without any kids it would be hard for any man or woman to support themselves. Oh yeah and that was a scenario when someone was lucky enough to have a job!
Disgusted, PLEASE post any job opening that you have that pay above minimun wage or explain how in the heck people are suppose to make ends meet!
I wasn't referring to someone who makes $10 hr and pays child support on two kids and pays for a "car payment of $200.00 a month, insurance for the car, rent, electric, water, food, etc,". I'm talking about the grown children who pay nothing, buy nothing, and contribute nothing! The ones I'm talking about live at home with thier parents with all bills and meals paid. If they're paying their own way (like your example), they don't even fit into this topic.
Hmmm

United States

#8 Jan 26, 2010
disgusted wrote:
This is to all of you parents who are raising your children to be bums... STOP!!
Why do people allow their grown a$$ kids to stay at home and be irresponsible way into their 30's? Do you parents really think you're helping them? Of course not!
It's time for parents to stop being spineless cowards and take your responsibility and raise your children. Our job as a parent is to raise our children in preparation for the real world. Prepare them morally and socially for marriage and family life, employment, and financial decisions. Allowing your 32 year old son to live at home where you wash his dishes, do his laundry, cook his supper, pay his bills, and wipe his butt is not helping him. You're hurting him. He's not prepared (and probably too lazy now) to actually live as an adult in the real world.(I have the same opinion towards 32 year old women still bumming off mom and dad. It just seems to be much more common in men now.) These grown ups (who still live like children) are a disgrace, and parents who are enabling and teaching their children to be this way are a disgrace as well. Kick their butts out and let them grow up. We all know that you're doing what you're doing for yourself. You're too selfish to let go! It's not love that makes you enable your children to be lazy lowlifes; it's laziness and selfishness on your part as well. Cut the cord and be a parent!
(If this offended you... I'm sorry that you're weak and irresponsible, but this had to be said.)
I won't say sorry if this offends you....Don't care if I do...

I can only pray you weren't fruitful & mulitplied!
LOUIE

Fort Worth, TX

#9 Jan 26, 2010
You started it, so why don`t you just name who the hell your talking about.
disgusted

Tyler, TX

#10 Jan 26, 2010
Nunya wrote:
<quoted text> Did you even consider the fact that some kids live with their parents to help the PARENTS???? Maybe the parents are seriously ill and after doctor visits and prescription meds are paid they dont have enough left to survive on? maybe the kids would prefer living on their own but this is their way of helping? Instead of paying rent, etc, they help support their parents? You should be ashamed to even start a thread like this because it only shows that you are not only disgusted, but are DISGUSTING.
Of course I thought about that. Again, I've clearly stated that I'm ONLY talking about the 30-40 year old ADULTS who DONT help their parents and who DONT pay their way. I, myself, help my parents every single week. I don't live with them, and they don't live with me but they would be more than welcome to come live with me if they needed to. That is a totally different story! I guess there are quite a few people who don't want to help their children grow up and become independent adults because you guys sure are defending this.

“This too shall pass”

Since: Aug 09

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#11 Jan 26, 2010
disgusted wrote:
<quoted text>
Of course I thought about that. Again, I've clearly stated that I'm ONLY talking about the 30-40 year old ADULTS who DONT help their parents and who DONT pay their way. I, myself, help my parents every single week. I don't live with them, and they don't live with me but they would be more than welcome to come live with me if they needed to. That is a totally different story! I guess there are quite a few people who don't want to help their children grow up and become independent adults because you guys sure are defending this.
I understand what you're saying and I know a woman that fits that description. Some parents think if they don't do it how will the child make it. It's my opinion that these people are truly co-dependent and need help themselves. The one I know say she just doesn't know what to do. I tell her kick him to the curb and let him sink or swim, but she won't do it.
wow

Paris, TX

#12 Jan 26, 2010
Penny Pincher wrote:
You ever thought that this guy/gal could be spending over half of his/her pay-check on child support. Picture this- Man making $10.00 a hour, divorced with 2 kids, maybe a car payment of $200.00 a month, insurance for the car, rent, electric, water, food, etc,. You tell me how in the hell is he/she suppose to make it? Without any kids it would be hard for any man or woman to support themselves. Oh yeah and that was a scenario when someone was lucky enough to have a job!
Disgusted, PLEASE post any job opening that you have that pay above minimun wage or explain how in the heck people are suppose to make ends meet!
Have you ever thought about the mother of those children that must pay all the bills AND raise the kids? Childcare is NOT cheap and child support off of $10 an hour for 2 kids is still only about $1.50 an hour. I get $240 a month from my child's deadbeat father. He lives at home well into his 30's with his mom and dad. He doesn't pay them a dime to live there and doesn't even see his child. As for having money to pay bills because of paying half of their income in child support, they can't order 50% by the way, and I don't know about you, but I spend MUCH more than 50% of my income raising my child! If you can't handle the responsibility of being a parent, then don't have kids or give the child up for adoption to someone who is willing to give that child everything they deserve in life and not be a bum like the parent!
oh wow

Dodd City, TX

#13 Jan 26, 2010
Ok...let's say that the parents can pay their bills and make it fine without the help of the children. It's the adult kids who just don't want to move out because it will cause them to be responsible for themselves and become adults. It's the adult children who don't want to grow up and quit partying. What about these adult children??
There is something seriously wrong when they just don't want to grow up!!!
R U Stuck

Lindon, UT

#14 Jan 27, 2010
oh wow wrote:
Ok...let's say that the parents can pay their bills and make it fine without the help of the children. It's the adult kids who just don't want to move out because it will cause them to be responsible for themselves and become adults. It's the adult children who don't want to grow up and quit partying. What about these adult children??
There is something seriously wrong when they just don't want to grow up!!!
You nailed that one.
Not Stuck

Paris, TX

#15 Jan 27, 2010
Sometimes the parents don't want the kids to grow up. It's like a co-dependency thing. Maybe they are afraid of being alone.

The movie Waterboy is an example, but I have seen some pretty close in real life.

Fred

Paris, TX

#16 Jan 27, 2010


It reminds me of the Movie, Drop Dead Fred.
Curious

Paris, TX

#17 Jan 27, 2010
I wonder how many parents would actually fake illness in themselves, or create/exploit illness in their adult kids to make them come home, or to get attention from them?

I wonder how many would actually bribe their kids home?

In dysfunctional families, there is usually one with a tremendous need for a caretaker. It could be a drug or alcohol problem that the kid needs someone to take care of them, and they will manipulate that all kinds of ways to be taken care of.

Then there is the tremendous co-dependent that might manipulate/exploit all kinds of ways so that they can find a way to take care of someone.
Mythbuster

Paris, TX

#18 Jan 27, 2010
Munchausen, and Munchausen by proxy.
Mythbuster

Paris, TX

#19 Jan 27, 2010


Orange County, my favorite dysfunction movie.
Mythbuster

Paris, TX

#20 Jan 27, 2010
Judged by the dysfunctional around the world. LOL!

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