How hard is it for a dad to get full ...

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Since: Nov 08

Maynard

#21 Nov 18, 2008
That stuff is siK. Contact a child welfare agent. They can inquire. THERE ARE AVENUES to stop ignorant nonsense!!!
life

United States

#22 Nov 18, 2008
JOhn wrote:
Heres one for you guys/gals.
My sister and her husband divorced about a year ago. She got tired of living in motels/hotels with 4 children. No stablity for the kids or herself.
When she divorced the man the judge gave him cust of they're one child knowing this guy was a meth head and slept around on my sister.
She found her and her daughter a home and settled down hoping to get at list visiting rights to her son. But the ex told her if she wanted to see her son she had to sleep with him and let him move in with her.
She loves her little boy alot and wants him safely with her. So she gave in and allowed this ugly human being to live with her and her daughter just so she could care for her son.
The man has 2 other children from another marrige and he treats them as tax right offs and shows them know love what so ever.
His son (My sisters step son) is 13 now and his dad forst him to have sex with a girl just so he could brag about his sons thingy.(penis)
He brags about his sons penis all the time and we think maybe he might be doing things to the boy but we have know proof. When we ask for help from the local law they told us to get a lawyer.
We cant afford a lawyer and we want to get this child out of this mans hands before he does the same thing to him as he did to his other son.
This is heart breaking for our side of the family but this man knows he has us by the ,,you know whats,,, and knows we cant do anything to stop him...
We have begged bowwored anything we could think of to get enough money to fight this guy but every time we give a lawyer the money they always want more more and more.
This is grazy, this 6 yr old life could be in danger and we cant do anything because we dont have the thousands to stop this guy..
If you know of any legal help we could get at a far price please let me know...
definitely a very scary situation to be caught up in,but desperate times call for desperate measures,if my kids were in a similiar place id go the route that cost the least,he has drug issues id help him out,then phone in anonymous,once arrested,id turn it in to dhs,hopefully get the child warded to the state,from there id use a family access motion to petition custody of the child,once i got the child to safety i would then file a restraining order of no-contact to protect the mother.thats something that can be done for around 100 bucks
the truth

Paragould, AR

#23 Nov 18, 2008
If the divorce is final it is almost impossible to get custody of your child. THis comes from expericence.
life

United States

#24 Nov 18, 2008
and one better would be to get him caught with drugs/paraphenalia and the child in the same vehicle,that way he would catch the endangering the welfare plus the drug charges,like i said desperate times bring desperate measures,but if theres a will theres a way and obviously this guy doesnt play by any rules or even common decency
guest2

Calhan, CO

#25 Nov 18, 2008
How hard is it for the father to get cutody when the parents never married? She admits to being on drugs, I have them most of the time and when she does have them she drags the kids from one boyfriends house to another mostly at Franklin apartments. She threatens to take them from if I don't give her money and tells me social services told her I have no rights!
life

United States

#26 Nov 18, 2008
guest2 wrote:
How hard is it for the father to get cutody when the parents never married? She admits to being on drugs, I have them most of the time and when she does have them she drags the kids from one boyfriends house to another mostly at Franklin apartments. She threatens to take them from if I don't give her money and tells me social services told her I have no rights!
have you had a paternity test and been paying child support or been acknowledged as the kids father
dad

Collierville, TN

#27 Nov 18, 2008
guest wrote:
its not any harder for the dad to get custody than the mom anymore. As far as Joint custody goes, no judge in our district will give it, only way to get joint is it to be an agreement with both parties.It cant and wont be court ordered by a judge, except if like stated above
Even then they dont like to give joint custody. They do it sometimes but when i got it the judge tried to talk us out of it but ended up oking it
guest2

Calhan, CO

#28 Nov 18, 2008
Not had a paternity test -- was told I would have to come up with $1,500 for the test. (We have three kids and lived together for eight years) Can't afford the test and take care of the kids too. She also blackmails me for money, threatens to take the girls away from if I don't give her the cash. Think she maybe drawing a check and food stamps on them but not sure.

Since: Sep 08

Paragould, AR

#29 Nov 18, 2008
beautiful brunette wrote:
<quoted text>WOW and you tell me im strong...i think ya got it more than i do friend:) Good luck and im glad you got your baby:)
Thanks..appreciate it beautiful. As a parent you know what I'm talking about. There have been many struggles over the years, but if it came down to it...what would you do for your child?...You might be surprised at just how strong you can be. Of all the things I've done in my life, being "Dad" is by far my greatest achievement!

Since: Oct 08

Fairmont, WV

#30 Nov 18, 2008
charlie lockjaw wrote:
<quoted text>Thanks..appreciate it beautiful. As a parent you know what I'm talking about. There have been many struggles over the years, but if it came down to it...what would you do for your child?...You might be surprised at just how strong you can be. Of all the things I've done in my life, being "Dad" is by far my greatest achievement!
Your welcome:) and yes i do know what ur talkin about,theres nothing i wouldnt or havent done for my children:) i gotta agree being a momma has also been my greatest achievement...now how long does it take them 2 grow up and move out?! j/k...THANKS AGAIN:)
Sassy

Olive Branch, MS

#31 Nov 18, 2008
Have you talked to the child's teachers?
They SHOULD have an unbiased opinion as to the child's welfare and they notice things.
Also, they make good witnesses.
I know it is a long shot but... is it possible to talk to the mother's family? They may not agree with how the child is being treated either. They might surprise you.
Well, thats all I can think of now, but good luck to you.
life

United States

#32 Nov 18, 2008
guest2 wrote:
Not had a paternity test -- was told I would have to come up with $1,500 for the test.(We have three kids and lived together for eight years) Can't afford the test and take care of the kids too. She also blackmails me for money, threatens to take the girls away from if I don't give her the cash. Think she maybe drawing a check and food stamps on them but not sure.
well if your not court ordered to provide child support,and paternity hasnt been established you have no rights to the kids,id check and make sure my drivers license was valid or double check with foodstamps and such to see if they were actively searching for you for child support,if those things checked out negative,id take the kids down and have a paternity test done,establish paternity and get your name on them birth cirtificates,from there you have the same rights to the kids she does,then from there id make a suttle move,and forget to tell her where,enroll them in school and not put her on the checkout list or pickup from school list,from there it ould be she either had to straighten up and fly right or she wold lose them kids forever
life

United States

#33 Nov 18, 2008
as when there is no order from the court as far as custody goes whoever has them has them and it becomes a civil matter which police cant enforce,she couldnt even report them missing then,shed have to take you to court and pay to get a lawyer and even have to pay for you a lawyer if you were not able to...
hhhhhmmmmm

Caraway, AR

#34 Nov 18, 2008
you don't have to have 1500.00 for a dna test.jonesboro is 300.00 i know my oldest daughter and her father went through that he had to prove he was the father for some certain reson and my youngest daughters dna didnt cost a dime call a welfare office see if they will help u they did me and i went to the nearest vna office and they done mine for nothing just thought i would try to help good look....have a good one:)

Since: Sep 08

Paragould, AR

#35 Nov 18, 2008
beautiful brunette wrote:
<quoted text>Your welcome:) and yes i do know what ur talkin about,theres nothing i wouldnt or havent done for my children:) i gotta agree being a momma has also been my greatest achievement...now how long does it take them 2 grow up and move out?! j/k...THANKS AGAIN:)
lol!....Be careful what you wish for!... That "baby" as you called her earlier will be graduating soon and going to college!...lol!...I blinked my eyes and BAM!!..Where did my "little girl" go???...Enjoy every moment!

Since: Nov 08

72450

#36 Nov 19, 2008
i got 50/50 custody......the only way i got it was because i did what i was supposed to....and she cheated......and i had more money and had a female lawyer and went before a female judge.......even though i got 50/50 custody i still see it my responsibility to take care my kids......i pay for all thier stuff.......she only pays if she takes them to movie........i pay thier doc bills and visits......everything......th ats my job......too look out for my babies.....and any other real dad will say the same......but moms still get the better hand shake most 90% of time......thier moms......but all i can say is keep fighting maybe go see the female lawyer on court street.....couple blocks up from police station in old house......and make sure she gets that female judge.........cant think of her name......

Since: Oct 08

Fairmont, WV

#37 Nov 19, 2008
charlie lockjaw wrote:
<quoted text> lol!....Be careful what you wish for!... That "baby" as you called her earlier will be graduating soon and going to college!...lol!...I blinked my eyes and BAM!!..Where did my "little girl" go???...Enjoy every moment!
I got along ways 2 go before i even think about graduations!!! I try to take everything they give me in stride but they all get me sometimes at once:) I love em and wouldnt trade em for anything though:) I have lots of respect for single fathers...its supposed to come natural for a momma...i guess it does for some men also:)
Paragould resident

Paragould, AR

#38 Nov 19, 2008
legal aid in i think the base it on your income
Ashley1234

Caraway, AR

#39 Nov 19, 2008
The Courts always decide on the "Best" Interest of The Child. Whether it be Dad or Mom. Leave a great paper trail on all the things going on. When it happened, What was said, who you called. Can NOT have enough paper to back up your case !

“What's up?”

Since: Nov 08

Paragould

#40 Nov 29, 2008
i have had joint custody for almost eight years and it was granted by a judge in greene county
and it is on the papers and court record no prob

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