Is It normal to have a major crush on...

Is It normal to have a major crush on someone if you are married?

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guest

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#1 Oct 22, 2008
I am happy in my marriage and have no intention of cheating I just can't get this other person out of my mind, will it go away????
guest

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#2 Oct 22, 2008
how long have you known the person?
guest 1

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#3 Oct 22, 2008
don't sound like you are real happy or you wouldn't be asking about that.

Since: Jun 08

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#4 Oct 22, 2008
its normal, trust me. I had a crush on a co-worker while married. I never acted on it, but it does happen. Granted i got divorced, yrs later, but it had nothing to do with the little crush. My crush sorta just went away after awhile, but I avoided situations where that person was and things of that sort and it passed
guest

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#5 Oct 22, 2008
I have only known them for a couple of months. I really am happy and do not want to cheat, do you think it's possible to marry young and spend your entire life with someone without ever having these feelings toward other people throughout the years? Just wondering if other people have these feelings too
guest 1

United States

#6 Oct 22, 2008
everybody has gone through this at one time. if you are happy though don't mess it up.
guest

United States

#7 Oct 22, 2008
guest 1 wrote:
everybody has gone through this at one time. if you are happy though don't mess it up.
thank you, i'm starting to not feel so alone in this
Guest 2

United States

#8 Oct 22, 2008
Absolutely, I think it's just a sign of needing some attention and feeling appreciated. Just think long and hard before and IF you act on it.
GUEST

United States

#9 Oct 22, 2008
Yes, everyone at some point in time has these feelings. Be very careful and avoid situations with them if possible. Even if you don't plan to act on it now, if you are given enough chances and put yourself in that position, it can very easily happen before you know it. I know this first hand. Nearly lost my marriage over it. It is not worth it.
lost_father

Fairmont, WV

#10 Oct 22, 2008
guest wrote:
I have only known them for a couple of months. I really am happy and do not want to cheat, do you think it's possible to marry young and spend your entire life with someone without ever having these feelings toward other people throughout the years? Just wondering if other people have these feelings too
yes its normal ima guy and i am young not married but its normal but even if u do cheat on him its ok sex is just sex unless it turns to more than just sex yak now
upnorth

Catlin, IL

#11 Oct 23, 2008
guest wrote:
I am happy in my marriage and have no intention of cheating I just can't get this other person out of my mind, will it go away????
tell us more about the man, age etc. where you see him at,your age etc
guest

United States

#12 Oct 23, 2008
lost_father wrote:
<quoted text> yes its normal ima guy and i am young not married but its normal but even if u do cheat on him its ok sex is just sex unless it turns to more than just sex yak now
thats a typical guy answer. Just sex, if your in a relationship its cheating. point blank. cheating which will also make you a liar.
Been there Still there

Jonesboro, AR

#13 Oct 23, 2008
I have had feelins for a guy that I knew before I got married, and those feelings are still there to this day. I love my husband very much and would not leave nor cheat on him, but sometimes life throws you a curve ball to see how you would react and to make you stronger.
mickey

United States

#14 Oct 23, 2008
guest wrote:
I am happy in my marriage and have no intention of cheating I just can't get this other person out of my mind, will it go away????
yea, it will go away if you put your foot down and admit to it being the wrong thing too do,too yourself. it might work? depends,just my advice,mind over matter.
mickey

United States

#15 Oct 23, 2008
guest wrote:
I have only known them for a couple of months. I really am happy and do not want to cheat, do you think it's possible to marry young and spend your entire life with someone without ever having these feelings toward other people throughout the years? Just wondering if other people have these feelings too
YES, i think everyone human being has these feelings at some point and time,but,think before you leap,pro's and con's of the situation.
mickey

United States

#16 Oct 23, 2008
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thank you, i'm starting to not feel so alone in this
your not alone,ever,just normal
guest

United States

#17 Oct 23, 2008
i think if you are married and you have a crush on somebody else you don't need to be with them you don't acctually love them, maybe they ain't treating you right but both partners don't need it..
sis

Catlin, IL

#18 Oct 23, 2008
just think about that person when you are playing with yourself but don't take it any farter than that. well maybe ifyou are around that person you couls accidentally rub up against him with your boobs or accidentally touch him between the legs then when all alone play with yourself and think about that.
we need to talk

Gregory, AR

#19 Oct 23, 2008
sis wrote:
just think about that person when you are playing with yourself but don't take it any farter than that. well maybe ifyou are around that person you couls accidentally rub up against him with your boobs or accidentally touch him between the legs then when all alone play with yourself and think about that.
i like you!!!
Just sayin

Newport, AR

#20 Oct 23, 2008
Ok I can relate to you in this situation..I was married..had the perfect life but I was with this person for 13 years and I found someone that I had a so called "crush" on and in time it went farther than just a crush..we had sex and that was by far the biggest mistake I have ever made in my life. No matter how you look at it its cheating!! I ended up divorced and me and this "crush" spent time together after that..but he turned out to be a total jerk!! They are always nice guys at first but then the real person comes out! Just think long and hard about what you have and what you are risking and might have to live without! If your not happy with your relationship then thats one thing but if you are happy and have a good life where you are why ruin it? I was lucky enough to get back what I had but not everyone is as forgiving as my husband. Its a big chance you take..make sure its worth it! I live everyday knowing how bad I hurt him and how much trust I lost in him..and it was not even close to worth it! I spent almost a year in the single world and I'm telling you the chances of getting a good man that is willing to commit to you and you only..is very very slim!

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