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Men who want to stay friends with their ex's

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Tina

Paragould, AR

#1 Dec 12, 2008
I started seeing a guy who still talks to his ex girlfriend on a regular basis. He says their just friends and will never get back with her. He says he really cares for me. What do you guys think? Should it bother me that he's friends with her?

“Can I borrow a potatoe?”

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#2 Dec 12, 2008
I don't think so. I am currently single I talk to my ex, but I do only talk to her because of my son. That is all.

“Can I borrow a potatoe?”

Since: Nov 08

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#3 Dec 12, 2008
If he does it and doesn't have a connection like me, then maybe something is up. I dunno sry to post twice. Sometimes there are situations that a relationship comes to a point that it is just nothing more than a friendship it has happened to me.

Since: Nov 08

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#4 Dec 12, 2008
I don't want to interfere on this one....if he is still in contact with her u need to watch out!!! Most likely he still cares for her...otherwise he wouldn't still talk to her. Just b careful!! Yes I know i have already interfered by posting this.

Since: Nov 08

United States

#5 Dec 12, 2008
Do they have kids together?

“SHASHASHAA!!!”

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Since: Aug 08

Arlen, TX

#6 Dec 12, 2008
It bothers me when my bf talks to an ex. I let him know that it bothered me and he stopped. If they cared for them at one time then what's to say there's not some little something that is still there that could spark into something else without meaning too? I still HAVE to talk to my ex bc of our three year old but Im pretty sure EVERYONE knows how I feel about him lol So I guess it's different of you have kids, just be sure of what they talk about and make sure it's innocent, but just ex's w/o kids is another story and I'd be leary. Just let him know that it bothers you.

“Can I borrow a potatoe?”

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#7 Dec 12, 2008
Blonde75 wrote:
I don't want to interfere on this one....if he is still in contact with her u need to watch out!!! Most likely he still cares for her...otherwise he wouldn't still talk to her. Just b careful!! Yes I know i have already interfered by posting this.
A word from the wise is all your post is. Sooo its okay.
Tina

Paragould, AR

#8 Dec 12, 2008
They don't have any kids and were dating for a few years. They have only been split up for four months. He says nothing is up but I just get an uneasy feeling about it. And I'm normally not a jealous person. I just don't want to be completely stupid about it either

“Can I borrow a potatoe?”

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#9 Dec 12, 2008
Also if there is a reason for you to doubt him then there is probably a problem. Does he go places and sometimes won't give you a straight answer when u ask where hes been? Or anything similar to it?

Since: Nov 08

United States

#10 Dec 12, 2008
God Of Hell wrote:
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A word from the wise is all your post is. Sooo its okay.
I know...just don't want anyone coming bk with a rude comment!! OPPS!!(Said the wrong word) Now we will probley hear rude remarks!!(LOL)....u do need to ck into this situation...if there r no kids involved.
Tina

Paragould, AR

#11 Dec 12, 2008
God Of Hell wrote:
Also if there is a reason for you to doubt him then there is probably a problem. Does he go places and sometimes won't give you a straight answer when u ask where hes been? Or anything similar to it?
Yes sometimes. I guess I have just been trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because its been so long since I have connected with someone the way I do with him. We both have kids and ex spouse's we have to deal with but this is his ex girlfriend.

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Since: Aug 08

Arlen, TX

#12 Dec 12, 2008
Ok yeah if they were together a few years and only broke up four months ago I'd DEFINITLEY let him know you feel. I've been on both sides before so I can tell ya that you can't always just be friends with an ex. I had one ex that I tried to be friends with after we broke up but they expected more and I still had feelings for them.
Tina

Paragould, AR

#13 Dec 12, 2008
RuStY sHaCkLeFuRd wrote:
It bothers me when my bf talks to an ex. I let him know that it bothered me and he stopped. If they cared for them at one time then what's to say there's not some little something that is still there that could spark into something else without meaning too? I still HAVE to talk to my ex bc of our three year old but Im pretty sure EVERYONE knows how I feel about him lol So I guess it's different of you have kids, just be sure of what they talk about and make sure it's innocent, but just ex's w/o kids is another story and I'd be leary. Just let him know that it bothers you.
Yes it is different when children are involved. Thank you for the advise. I will definately let him know it bothers me and see if he cares enough about me to leave her alone

Since: Nov 08

United States

#14 Dec 12, 2008
I would talk to him...if he really cares for u, he will stop!! Sorry but that would not go with me!! No kids w/her...no communication. Ask him how he would feel if u still kept in contact w/your ex?
Tina

Paragould, AR

#15 Dec 12, 2008
Blonde75 wrote:
I would talk to him...if he really cares for u, he will stop!! Sorry but that would not go with me!! No kids w/her...no communication. Ask him how he would feel if u still kept in contact w/your ex?
I have...he just keeps saying there's nothing there and their just friends. Then he just asks me to please trust him and tells me how much he cares for me. I have just never been in this situation before so I wanted a third parties perspective

Since: Nov 08

United States

#16 Dec 12, 2008
Been in that situation!! I would not carry it any futher...sorry but u will get your heart broken!!!
Tina

Paragould, AR

#17 Dec 12, 2008
RuStY sHaCkLeFuRd wrote:
Ok yeah if they were together a few years and only broke up four months ago I'd DEFINITLEY let him know you feel. I've been on both sides before so I can tell ya that you can't always just be friends with an ex. I had one ex that I tried to be friends with after we broke up but they expected more and I still had feelings for them.
Wow really so what did you do?
Tina

Paragould, AR

#18 Dec 12, 2008
Blonde75 wrote:
Been in that situation!! I would not carry it any futher...sorry but u will get your heart broken!!!
Ok thanks I was thinking the same thing. Just wanted to believe him when he said he would never hurt me ya know

Since: Nov 08

United States

#19 Dec 12, 2008
Tell him it's u or her!! As simple as that...he pick's u ur a winner!! If not move on u will find better!!!
Yes Please

Paragould, AR

#20 Dec 12, 2008
Blonde75 wrote:
Tell him it's u or her!! As simple as that...he pick's u ur a winner!! If not move on u will find better!!!
Just hate to hafta give a man an ultimatum

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