I commend your mother for working hard to raise her family, but not all circumstances are such as you described as I'm sure you're very well aware.I completely agree it's not up to the rest of society to pay the way for those who are capable, but unwilling to help themselves. But, not all people who are receiving assistance are freeloaders. There are people who have no other choice. My father died when my siblings and I were very young, leaving my mother to care for 4 small children. For several years my mother worked many low paying jobs trying to make ends meet and it still wasn't enough. If not for government assistance, there would have been many nights we would have gone hungry. Circumstances are different for different people, and it is egregious to assume all welfare recipients are trash. This mentality nothing but spread intolerance for those who actually need assistance.
We all know people who abuse the system, are capable of working but refuse to. Go in to any ER, and you have people going there who are complaining about needing a shot for pain, or pills because their back hurts, or for a common cold and don't want to pay for a doctor's visit. Patients who are real emergencies are dying because of people who abuse the system. HUD comes in, neighborhoods that were nice because slums, crime goes up, people become afraid to be in their own homes. Those of us who are going to work every day, paying taxes have become really tired of the abuse and the welfare mentality.