Some teens leaving foster care may fa...

Some teens leaving foster care may face homelessness

There are 81 comments on the El Paso Times story from Sep 19, 2010, titled Some teens leaving foster care may face homelessness. In it, El Paso Times reports that:

Jesus Palacios, 19, recently spent his nights on a bench in Memorial Park. Palacios "aged out" of foster care at age 18 and found himself homeless.

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SW Student

San Antonio, TX

#61 Sep 20, 2010
Let's put our feet in Palacios shoes... he was in the foster care system, which is not 100% perfect. When a child enters the foster care system this child is not going to succeed like any other ordinary child living with their biologically family support. Palacios never had and still has any family support or social relationships.
Through Erikson's developmental stages, trust vs. mistrust, as an infant a child Needs maximum comfort with minimal uncertainty to trust himself/herself, others, and the environment. Palacios did not succeed at this stage. Erikson describes the physical, emotional and psychological stages of development and relates specific issues, or developmental work or tasks, to each stage.
Palacios needs social support from his community to reach his goals.
I met Jesus Palacios, he is a motivated and hardworking youth who needs guidance from his community and that is why the Pride Center is there to guide him through the obstacle that he has come across.
People should should not judge one whom they do not know, meet this person and help this person succeed and reach goals.
Never underestimate one's reality when your reality is not perfect.
jeffrey

United States

#62 Sep 20, 2010
" Birds have nests and foxes have holes; but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head."
what lies

San Antonio, TX

#63 Sep 20, 2010
fakestory wrote:
SERIOUSLY? I am 22 years old, was in foster care for 12 years and have worked at this place called the "Pride Center". El Paso Times is probably looking for a sad story to type up because this was all BS!!! The Pride Center pays their employes $20 an hour to sit on their **** and pretend to do anything work related. I cannot believe that sorry place can pass itself off as a "resource center for foster youth." What a bunch of bull. Their director steals money from the $200,000 grant they recieved last year.. The 145 youth registered are kids that have used the center once and never went back.. They only have about 34 active youth-- Who by the way sit in the "computer lab" for the entire day looking at porn and finding new 'connects.'"
The center was originally designed to employ a staff for the first six months and then hire actual foster care youth(18+) for a permanent position, like the other centers in Texas. Instead, the director hired her own son as administrative secretary(who has been working there for 3 years!) The staff mentioned in the story are all lyers and very deceiving. The youth mentioned in the story are the favorite..meaning they get some of the perks the staff get such as gas cards/gift cards/money..
Someone needs to look into this because nothing adds up with this place. The food pantry has been shut down TWICE because it was giving away rotten food. One of the staff was dating a youth and they ended up banning the YOUTH. They refuse services to youth all the time. This place is rediculous and should be shut down.
You should learn how to keep your comments to yourself and don't get mad and start saying lies about the pride center just because you did not act in time to receive your benefits from the state..so lets add this up if the pride center is receiving a two hundred fifty thousand dollar grant for the center. How is it possible to pay a staff of four+ twenty dollars an hour. that adds up to two hundred thousand. there is no money left for the director to steal from the grant..Just how ridiculous you look lying about nonsense...
exactly

San Antonio, TX

#64 Sep 20, 2010
Tex wrote:
What happened to the Housing Authority set-aside for aging out foster children? That was set up in 2001-2002. It was supposed to provide apartments for these young adults to share.
Thank your new president for removing that to pay for Health Care Reform..
The Truth

El Paso, TX

#65 Sep 20, 2010
Look, you don't become a social worker for the money. You do your job because you want to help others, period. Just like teaching, you do it because you love teaching kids. I hate to say it but even though social workers are given a lot of work, they should do it because they want to help the needy. So, as always, as with any job, the good ones, will always stay late, work over their 40 hours a week and finish their work. Why because they think, what if that was my kid? What if it was my daughter, my son, I will try to be their support, their shoulder to lean on... Like I said, many teachers and social workers don't have the passion and just want to get paid and do almost nothing, since they feel they are being underpaid...So this is what happens, they do the minimum that their job requires and become numb to society...and do so little to help this kids to be placed in proper foster homes, who eventually adopt them...This kid, in the story, went through 20+ foster homes...No one wants to take the time to nurture these kids...They just want their monthly check to foster these kids and that's it...The teens that are aging out of foster care need to be given mentors that have been through the worst times and done good for themselves. I'm done venting...Wish me luck,,,I'm in the process of adopting 2 teens from the foster care system...I'm gonna love these kids, and do my part to help a couple of lives and be a mentor to my new children.....
parent

El Paso, TX

#66 Sep 20, 2010
its funny others on their judgements...but most of us had support to help make the right decision. What happen to the foster parents...were they in it for the money...forgot to be parent like some foster parents...why wasnt he offered to stay with his foster home...where is his support...we forget...its lonely when u grow up w/o parents....u can always turn to who we trust...but who do they trust....its easy to criticize...but try being foster parent-see how much harder it is to be a parent...asking a child to trust you is not the same as telling ur own child....im a foster parent i have adopted three children...one is autistic-so dont judge by appearence
Leonard Henderson

Depoe Bay, OR

#67 Sep 21, 2010
happy face university wrote:
<quoted text>
I don't know what Photoshop version you used to make your diploma and/or degree but you obviously don't know that "psychiatry" is not a major. Psychiatrists are MDs first then concentrate in psychiatry. Duh. And while psychiatrists assist in social work, especially with this population, they are far from doing what social workers do. But you're right, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to be a social worker, it just takes someone with enough sense to see through people like you and all those who like to criticize. Do the job for a year, you'll be crying for "out" before three months is up. Guaranteed.
Aw, aren't you the sweetest thing. And obviously brainy too.

http://familyrights.us/psych/MMPI/index.html
wa dup

El Paso, TX

#68 Sep 21, 2010
go cowboys go you can do it yay
wa dup

El Paso, TX

#69 Sep 21, 2010
cowboys are the best yay cowboys
idiot_wa_dup

El Paso, TX

#70 Sep 21, 2010
wa dup wrote:
cowboys are the best yay cowboys
oh yeah the best 0 & 2 real good get a life loser.
Tex 138

Spring, TX

#71 Sep 21, 2010
The Truth wrote:
Look, you don't become a social worker for the money. You do your job because you want to help others, period. Just like teaching, you do it because you love teaching kids. I hate to say it but even though social workers are given a lot of work, they should do it because they want to help the needy. So, as always, as with any job, the good ones, will always stay late, work over their 40 hours a week and finish their work. Why because they think, what if that was my kid? What if it was my daughter, my son, I will try to be their support, their shoulder to lean on... Like I said, many teachers and social workers don't have the passion and just want to get paid and do almost nothing, since they feel they are being underpaid...So this is what happens, they do the minimum that their job requires and become numb to society...and do so little to help this kids to be placed in proper foster homes, who eventually adopt them...This kid, in the story, went through 20+ foster homes...No one wants to take the time to nurture these kids...They just want their monthly check to foster these kids and that's it...The teens that are aging out of foster care need to be given mentors that have been through the worst times and done good for themselves. I'm done venting...Wish me luck,,,I'm in the process of adopting 2 teens from the foster care system...I'm gonna love these kids, and do my part to help a couple of lives and be a mentor to my new children.....
What about churches and other community agencies? Many help foster families and the kids.
Just a thought.
Prideful

United States

#72 Sep 21, 2010
fakestory wrote:
SERIOUSLY? I am 22 years old, was in foster care for 12 years and have worked at this place called the "Pride Center". El Paso Times is probably looking for a sad story to type up because this was all BS!!! The Pride Center pays their employes $20 an hour to sit on their **** and pretend to do anything work related. I cannot believe that sorry place can pass itself off as a "resource center for foster youth." What a bunch of bull. Their director steals money from the $200,000 grant they recieved last year.. The 145 youth registered are kids that have used the center once and never went back.. They only have about 34 active youth-- Who by the way sit in the "computer lab" for the entire day looking at porn and finding new 'connects.'"
The center was originally designed to employ a staff for the first six months and then hire actual foster care youth(18+) for a permanent position, like the other centers in Texas. Instead, the director hired her own son as administrative secretary(who has been working there for 3 years!) The staff mentioned in the story are all lyers and very deceiving. The youth mentioned in the story are the favorite..meaning they get some of the perks the staff get such as gas cards/gift cards/money..
Someone needs to look into this because nothing adds up with this place. The food pantry has been shut down TWICE because it was giving away rotten food. One of the staff was dating a youth and they ended up banning the YOUTH. They refuse services to youth all the time. This place is rediculous and should be shut down.
This must be a comment from a youth that was not given what he or she wanted! I am a youth from the pride center and you should get your story straight before you hurt the reputation of such a great place! How long did it take you to come up with all these lies? I hope I find out who you are so I can tell you this to your face! Give us your name chicken!! Sounds to me that all you are looing for is a hand out! Get a job and get a life you looser!!!!! We dont need loosers like you at the center!

“ Soon: too late to protest”

Since: Jan 09

Location hidden

#73 Sep 21, 2010
What adults in America have done to the younger generations is absolutely criminal, and they WILL pay for it.
THEIR parents fought wars for this country, but most of the adults today are lazy, gutless, and don't give a da** about anybody but themselves.
THEY are the reason the U.S. is falling apart.
They don't even try to attack the corruption that's destroying this country, and absolutely don't care what kind of country the young inherit.
They spend their entire lives waiting for somebody else to clean up the mess. They don't even complain that it's their own tax dollars being used against them.
The worst part is, they call this God’s country, giving Him the blame for the condition it’s in.
Young people have every right to be mad as he!!.
They should have, at the very least, inherited a country as strong as what their parents had.
Instead, older generations just slooowly let it slip away with plenty of time to ACT.
Social Worker

El Paso, TX

#74 Sep 22, 2010
noneya wrote:
<quoted text>
"On another note", this self-proclaimed "social worker" is revealing personal information about this persons case? Too bad this person can post anonymously - if they were caught revealing personal information whatever entity hires them could fire them for revealing personal details about this kid.
That ought to tell you something about this so-called "social worker". You ought to look at your own self, instead of trying to blame this kid for everything that has happened to him. Sure, everyone is responsible for their choices but some people don't really have much of a chance to begin with.
I hope this is not a typical example of the type of "social worker" we have in El Paso.
What I posted is not based on personal knowledge of the case but inferences from the news story
"Palacios did not have that support. He has two sisters he does not know and a mother in Juárez who wants nothing to do with him.

A disruptive student, Palacios dropped out of Burges High School. He got a fast-food job and a house with his girlfriend.

But when their daughter was born prematurely last spring and died, he stopped going to work. He lost his girlfriend and his home.

After wearing out his welcome with a friend, Palacios spent the summer sometimes going to University Medical Center and faking a back injury. When the staff did not buy it, he would ask if he could spend the night in the waiting room -- anything to be indoors.

Through it all, he said, he felt like a second-class family member, sitting at separate tables during meals and constantly being identified as something other than a true family member.

"I felt like I wasn't worth anything," Palacios said. "I was just a piece of paper."

If you read the above... what was posted in the story you can see, drama, trauma, no friendships (a friend) and he feels like he is a second class family member with 29 different placements. He made many of his choices. He needs to stop being the victim and be proactive. I am sure he had some kind of guidance but refused to listen to the advice.
Social Worker

El Paso, TX

#75 Sep 22, 2010
Ashley_fostercarealumni wrote:
<quoted text>
- I was raised in foster care, thank gosh you were not my worker. First of all "he made some poor choices" really? you think all 29 placements, he wanted to be tossed around? You obviously care alot about the youth you work with. He didn't have a family to fall back on or call when times got hard, so don't sit there and try to act like you know what it feels like to sleep on a card board box alone at night, instead of in a home were people love you. There are after care services, but not many, and even still you have to be stable enough, have an address and know your after care workers to figure how to ge access to those benefits. I seriously think you need to find a field your passionate about, because you do not seem to care about my brothers and sisters in the Texas Foster Care System. Have a wonderful day!!!!!
No child gets put in 29 different placements all over the state without being part of the problem. I am sorry you were in foster care and have "brothers and sisters" in the foster care system. He didn't have a "family" to fall back on? He had 29 families to fall back on. What is wrong with this kid. Something he did made those foster placements unsuccessful.
jesus

El Paso, TX

#76 Sep 22, 2010
bitch i dont feel sorry for my self hoe
Teacher wrote:
Ummmm.....19? Get a job and figure it out. Even teenagers that are raised with their parents and get the boot right after high school have to figure it out. I'm sorry but I feel no sympathy for a young adult who can't go out and work at Mc'Dees and sell newspapers on the weekends to make ends meet. It's called life! Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out of the whole.

Since: Jul 07

PARK RIDGE IL.

#77 Sep 22, 2010
SW Student wrote:
Let's put our feet in Palacios shoes... he was in the foster care system, which is not 100% perfect. When a child enters the foster care system this child is not going to succeed like any other ordinary child living with their biologically family support. Palacios never had and still has any family support or social relationships.
Through Erikson's developmental stages, trust vs. mistrust, as an infant a child Needs maximum comfort with minimal uncertainty to trust himself/herself, others, and the environment. Palacios did not succeed at this stage. Erikson describes the physical, emotional and psychological stages of development and relates specific issues, or developmental work or tasks, to each stage.
Palacios needs social support from his community to reach his goals.
I met Jesus Palacios, he is a motivated and hardworking youth who needs guidance from his community and that is why the Pride Center is there to guide him through the obstacle that he has come across.
People should should not judge one whom they do not know, meet this person and help this person succeed and reach goals.
Never underestimate one's reality when your reality is not perfect.
I didn't read all of the posts though perhaps everyone here has had good points in one way or another and hopefully the Center will help him.

What I wonder if the foster system is so bad, why are they not doing things to correct it?
jesus palacios

El Paso, TX

#78 Sep 29, 2010
thank u sir im jesus palacios i got a job now i have a apparment but one think u were wrong cps change alot !!!!!!!!!!
foster brother wrote:
My parents have always been Foster parents. Being a biological son, I've always seen how my parets tried helping each teen we got into our home... one in which stayed in our home for over 3 years and was pretty much part of the family. Graduation night she never came back. I've seen her around and she now has 3 kids and is not doing well ( in 3 years)... my mother offered her everything she could to help her out, but she simply decided not to come back (no good bye, no thank you, nothing). NOT TO MENTION that the gov't was offering her housing at a VERY affordable price, also financial aid would have paid for college (which includes housing). Honestly, I don't feel sorry for this person. I have (now) friends who once lived with us, that are doing good for themselves.
I hope that things turn out good for this guy, but it's his choice.
jesus palacios

El Paso, TX

#79 Sep 29, 2010
tha center is helpin me thank u for ur comments and have a nice day and by that way they find me a job and a apparment!!!!!!!!!1
MIKETOUHY wrote:
<quoted text>I didn't read all of the posts though perhaps everyone here has had good points in one way or another and hopefully the Center will help him.
What I wonder if the foster system is so bad, why are they not doing things to correct it?
Tex -

Spring, TX

#80 Sep 30, 2010
Social Worker wrote:
<quoted text>
What I posted is not based on personal knowledge of the case but inferences from the news story
"Palacios did not have that support. He has two sisters he does not know and a mother in Juárez who wants nothing to do with him.
A disruptive student, Palacios dropped out of Burges High School. He got a fast-food job and a house with his girlfriend.
But when their daughter was born prematurely last spring and died, he stopped going to work. He lost his girlfriend and his home.
After wearing out his welcome with a friend, Palacios spent the summer sometimes going to University Medical Center and faking a back injury. When the staff did not buy it, he would ask if he could spend the night in the waiting room -- anything to be indoors.
Through it all, he said, he felt like a second-class family member, sitting at separate tables during meals and constantly being identified as something other than a true family member.
"I felt like I wasn't worth anything," Palacios said. "I was just a piece of paper."
If you read the above... what was posted in the story you can see, drama, trauma, no friendships (a friend) and he feels like he is a second class family member with 29 different placements. He made many of his choices. He needs to stop being the victim and be proactive. I am sure he had some kind of guidance but refused to listen to the advice.
I haven't researched the case, but that is an awful lot for a young person to endure. Have some compassion. If you can't find any compassion in your heart, at least say a little prayer for him.
Having to sit at a separate table? That is awful unless that is what HE wanted to do. Sometimes teens don't want to sit with the family or interact.

Maybe I watched too much "Judging Amy" based on the real life of a social work and her daughter who lived and worked at jobs involving teens. One was a judge and the other was a social worker.
I was once asked to put myself on a foster list, but I worked Juvenile Detention and heard the stories of the teens who tried to set houses on fire and brought drugs and chaos into the home.
Plus, I had no place to put a teen. Many of the teen boys ended up going to the Texas Youth Council or if they had insurance, into some kind of placement for psych evals/treatment. It was very depressing to see, read and hear about the home situations. Often, they just weren't wanted by anyone. Most had never been to church, so they didn't know how to get help through a church connection.

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