Child Support Should Go on Debit Card...

Child Support Should Go on Debit Cards to be Monitored.

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Columbus, OH

#1 Nov 6, 2009
I wonder how many moms out there have children just to get that child support check to spend on whatever they like? I think that the check should be traced so that the spendings actually go to the child...instead of drugs, clothes for herself..etc.
Steveland Cleamer

United States

#2 Nov 6, 2009
I agree to an extent. To many women and men who get paid child support are venerable targets for deadbeats who romance them, move in and mooch. Buying Joe Bob's beer is not what that money is for.

I think at least 75% of child support recieved should be verfied with reciepts that the money was spent on goods and services of which the child could benefit. That's not to say Joe Bob couldn't eat the groceries but at least the kid might get a meal out of it.

PS, if you are mooching off someone trying to raise a child, you're a dick. You should go kill yourself.
Casey

Logan, WV

#3 Nov 6, 2009
My child support does go on a debit card. But it wouldn't matter anyways, when I do get the money it's spent on my son. That's IF I get the money. He rarely pays anything.
Me too

Inez, KY

#4 Nov 6, 2009
I think there should be a way to monitor child support and AFDC. Any money that is paid to someone on the behalf of a child should be used solely toward the good of that child. There are alot of people that do this the way it was intended but alot sit back waiting for the money to spend on their own personal pleasures. The childrendo not see much if any of it.
Seriously

United States

#5 Nov 6, 2009
Do you who are being negative on this forum even have children? IF not then you really should leave your comments out of this. I have children and me and their father divorced and no I didnt have them just to recieve some type of payment.. When and I say when I receive my child support it is spent on my children be it in the form of my bills or for gas to get them where they wanna go. Does that make me a bad parent? No it dont.. The majority of countys are putting child support on a debit card and afdc is now placed on the food stamp card(i believe).. You people can find anything to talk about and gossip about cant you!
hmmm

Prestonsburg, KY

#6 Nov 6, 2009
I damn sure agree with that, I know a few people who had checks from SSI ( for disability's they didn't have ) and that money was spent on the parents.

I even tried to turn them into the SSI office, and nothing ever happened.

drawing 3 SSI checks, one of them was for a child that no longer lived with them, and had his own apartment in his friends name, but they lied and kept the SSI checks anyway.

Child support and SSI income needs to be watched, to make sure its not a cheep cop out so they dont have to work, and buy things for there self and not the child it was meant for.
mom

Lawrenceburg, KY

#7 Nov 6, 2009
i get child support for my son every month, his money goes for his tuition (he goes to paintsville) and the rest goes to other school costs, field trips, football, and if u look at him you'll see he is well taken care of with the name brand DC clothing. and to be quite honest, the child support alone dont cover the cost of raising a growing teenage boy a every month.
yes he has the best of the best, but that is HIS money and that's what HE wants to spend it on after his necessities are paid for.
Brad

Paintsville, KY

#8 Nov 6, 2009
this is the greatest concept ever...I agree 120% percent..have receipts showing what these mothers are spending the money on..
seriously

United States

#9 Nov 6, 2009
For you "mom", there are other things that children need more than name brand clothing!!! Child support is meant for the child, i totally agree. I do receive my child support (every now and then), but by the time I actually do get it I have to try to catch up on so much of the bills that I honestly cant afford to buy name brands for them. I have three children by the way so it is a little harder to stretch what little bit that I get! And yes their step dad and I have incomes but it is still not enough to support two teenagers and a preteen. And no neither of us are on drugs or alcoholics. But it really kills me to hear someone act as though a mother is so horrible if they have to use child support moneys to pay a bill. I do agree that the parents that are on drugs should be monitored, but honestly if someone is so bad on drugs then why would they be allowed to have custody of their children in the first place.
good idea

United States

#10 Nov 6, 2009
let's vote on it
mom

Lawrenceburg, KY

#11 Nov 6, 2009
seriously wrote:
For you "mom", there are other things that children need more than name brand clothing!!! Child support is meant for the child, i totally agree. I do receive my child support (every now and then), but by the time I actually do get it I have to try to catch up on so much of the bills that I honestly cant afford to buy name brands for them. I have three children by the way so it is a little harder to stretch what little bit that I get! And yes their step dad and I have incomes but it is still not enough to support two teenagers and a preteen. And no neither of us are on drugs or alcoholics. But it really kills me to hear someone act as though a mother is so horrible if they have to use child support moneys to pay a bill. I do agree that the parents that are on drugs should be monitored, but honestly if someone is so bad on drugs then why would they be allowed to have custody of their children in the first place.
i totally agree with you and i understand, i have 4 children all together (2 of which are my step children) that we take care of, and yes all of them have their name brand clothes. that is how WE chose to take care of our kids. im just making the point that i am not one of these mothers who has kids for welfare, i dont live off of the system at all. im just glad and thankful that i am able to provide for my child this way without doing the whole drug ordeal. there is nothing wrong with paying the power bill ..water bill or anything else that may contribute to ur kids. and yes mam i use it to put gas in my car to take him to and from school...to pay car insurance..and to haul my @ss to every single football game he has (he rides the bus there but i bring him home)....its things like that the money needs to be spent on....
Steveland Cleamer

Salyersville, KY

#12 Nov 7, 2009
All these things these women have mentioned are perfectly legitimate things which benefit the child. There should be no problem submitting reciepts for any of them so long as those reciepts don't include Jethro's beer or smokes.

I would hope that one day all women would awake to these kinds of men. Men don't change. If he's not working and responsible when you meet him, nothing you do will change him. No vagina is that special. He will mooch and frustrate until he is so interlaced in your life, you couldn't run him off with swine flu.

Have respect for yourself and your child even if your ex did not. You don't need additional child in your life. Thess guys are scavengers and will bleed you dry.

“Your approval isn't necessary.”

Since: Jan 09

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#13 Nov 7, 2009
it wouldn't bother me a bit to submit receipts IF I ever got child support... my ex is over 12 thousand dollars behind and one of his excuses was that he was afraid they wouldn't get it... I even offered, in front of a judge, to put it all in a savings account for them, but he just wanted an excuse... the very few times I did get support, I cashed the check and gave each child half of it to spend.. I didn't touch a dime of it for my self
Paula Newsome Goble

Whitman, WV

#14 Nov 7, 2009
what does people think the child support is for to support the child like the rent the electric the water their clothes i don't think their is much left over to waste as people call it unless the mother provides everything and then yes it is ok for her to spend it the way she wants get a life i know been down that road
nyc dad

Bayonne, NJ

#15 May 2, 2012
i am a father has consistently paid his child support on time from the start. i dont have a problem with the amount of support i have to pay. my issue is that every cent a man makes is put under the microscope but none of the money the women recieved is monitored.money should be put in an account with a debit card. the statement should be accessible to both the custodial and noncustodial parent. this would keep abusers of the system from misusing the money recieved. many men feel a sense of disgust with the system because they are uncertain of where the money really goes. i personally feel that more men would be willing to pay if they were assured that their money is being completely used in the right way. also many women take the father back to court every year but dont even have incomes for themselves. i think the judge should be required to investigate why the mother has not attained a job before awarding more money. its an unfair system in a sense that all the accountability falls on the man an there is no accountability on the women. there are many good mothers but there are also abusers of the system.
hilarious

Pikeville, KY

#16 May 3, 2012
Maybe the woman has not attained a job because she is busy raising a child ALONE!
Agree

Staffordsville, KY

#17 May 3, 2012
You raise a good point and i agree with ya. until they do something like this they may as well prepare for more of the same.
Steveland Cleamer

Salyersville, KY

#18 May 3, 2012
In the old days, of a deadbeat moved in with a single mom and mooched, the first morning there would be a bundle of switches set on the porch. If he was still there that night, they used them to whip his sorry ass.

Ladies. Wait for a good man. These bums are stealing food right out of your kid's mouths.

Since: Apr 12

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#19 May 3, 2012
Just put a lunchbox and a suitcase by the door and tell him to pick one.
Steveland Cleamer

Salyersville, KY

#20 May 4, 2012
Lonesome Butterfly wrote:
Just put a lunchbox and a suitcase by the door and tell him to pick one.
"Oh well, Honey I've got a bad back, bipolar, lead on a good paying job coming up, this excuse, that excuse. By the way, can we move in a friend of mine? She's a good person and we are just friends. That would be alright, wouldn't it?"

Yeah, somehow, he can afford beer and cigs and his "friend" needs a place to stay but she appears to have hundreds of dollars worth of tattoos.

Wake up, ladies. Listen to your parents. They will always be the ones that care. He's just using you for food, shelter, and to feed his habits with money meant to feed your kids.

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