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serious

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#1 Jan 6, 2013
Have you ever met someone with a weird personality? Not like they are crazy or psycho but something is just "off"? I am struggling with a friendship due to how she acts. I don't know how to describe it other than she's like a gypsy. She comes and goes. She shuts down and doesn't communicate and then days or weeks later she is back like nothing happened.
doc

Paducah, KY

#2 Jan 6, 2013
That's bi-polar by friend. Treatable with meds.
Laken

Paducah, KY

#3 Jan 6, 2013
Agrees something may be wrong in her life that makes her that way if u care about the friendship just go with it, everyone has a quirk
serious

United States

#4 Jan 6, 2013
I do care about her, which is why I have stuck with her. I just find it odd because nothong else seems to be off with her. She doesn't fly into violent rages, doesn't use drugs, isn't a drama queen, etc. She is an easy going fun to be around girl. When she's "there". I do give her space just to be. I have brought it up to her and she states that is just how she is and always has been. That she just shuts down sometimes and that she acts that way with all her friends, not just me. Says it has nothing to do with me or not wanting to be in my life. Idk. Just confused.
Laken

Paducah, KY

#5 Jan 6, 2013
Honestly I'm the same way that's why I can relate to her if she is like that with everyone nd says its nothing you have done, the believe it, she sounds like a good girl and if she has days where she feels sad or lonely or wants to be alone let her, it's probably something personal within herself that makes her want that time apart. Seems like your. Good guy though and you guys will be just fine.! Just let her know I are there when she needs u
serious

United States

#6 Jan 6, 2013
Thanks. What can I do on my part? I don't push and I usually give her space. Sometimes I wait it out for days before I reach out to her but we have gone as long as 3 weeks. Sometimes she will be the one to reach back out to me but more often it is me who has to initiate contact. I just keep internalizing this.
Laken

Melrose Park, IL

#7 Jan 6, 2013
It seems like your doing what and all you can in your part about it, let her know that u understand that she needs space but that it hurts you when she is like that bc u feel like u could so more for her
serious

United States

#8 Jan 6, 2013
So that is just your personality? I really do not think she is bipolar or has any mental illness, just very withdrawn. Granted, she has lots of friends. Idk.
ahem

Owensboro, KY

#9 Jan 6, 2013
Lotsa Phd's and Md's in topix.com . Surprising.
Laken

Streamwood, IL

#10 Jan 6, 2013
I'm no doctor just giving the best advice I can :)
serious

United States

#11 Jan 6, 2013
Thanks Laken.
ahem

Owensboro, KY

#12 Jan 6, 2013
Laken wrote:
I'm no doctor just giving the best advice I can :)
If you're not a doctor the best advice you can give is to seek an expert opinion. Or even better NO advice at all.
Laken

Streamwood, IL

#13 Jan 6, 2013
No problem :) & it never hurts to pray about anything either that's the best advice
Prius

Chicago, IL

#14 Jan 6, 2013
Honestly it might be you. Please don't take that offensively but I'm in the same situation with one of my friends except Its the other way around. It's hard to break off a friendship without hurt feelings so I try to avoid her but the truth is that we have grown into 2 different people with nothing in common. I hate it, but its true. We truly have totally different lives and our conversations go nowhere.
Laken

Streamwood, IL

#15 Jan 6, 2013
Prius has a good point as well, were giving u our advice but we can't read your friends mind
IDK

Paducah, KY

#16 Jan 6, 2013
What about drugs! People that do drugs have same signs. Sorry just saying.
serious

United States

#17 Jan 6, 2013
I have decided its just ME. She hung out with other friends today. If she cared I would think she would make more of an effort.
hmmm

Roscoe, IL

#18 Jan 6, 2013
What are her initials.... sounds familiar
Doctor Jones

Iowa City, IA

#19 Jan 6, 2013
Sounds to me like you might be sweating her (unconsciously?) to be more than friends, and she (unconsciously) might be backing away from that pressure. She likes you obviously, so don't fuck it up by calling her on her shit, unless you want to bail on it. Sometimes a person doesn't WANT to give all of themselves to you, and that's their business. She can do whatever she wants, and the more you pester, the more you're going to wind up looking like a dick. On the flipside, I cared so much about a person that I pushed everything else out of my life to make them happy and be there for them as a friend- I didn't want to jump their bones or live in their crawlspace, but in hindsight, I'm pretty sure that's exactly what it looked like I was doing. Now, I don't have that friend, it's been a couple years and I'm over it, but I learned a lot about sometimes people want what people want, and you can't change their mind, so don't think you aren't enough for them- sometimes, you might just be too much, or not exactly what they want and need. There's a reason why songs are written about crazy women. They're captivating, fun, interesting... but they're also very different from 'normals', and sometimes the more they try to fit in, the more obviously they stick out.
Also

Iowa City, IA

#20 Jan 6, 2013
Just because someone acts different than the run of the mill local girl around here, that doesn't necessarily mean she's broken or there's something wrong. Different isn't always bad. Besides that, if you wish she were like all the other girls (not saying you are), then buddy up with one of them, and do her a favor by letting her be free to be her different self. Someone else out there won't mind. Although, if I were your weird girl and I knew you were writing on topix, of all places about me, I don't care what you said bad or good, I'd disown you. I'm very glad you didn't mention any names or incriminating information on her behalf, that was very thoughtful of you. Reach out to her- not us. Be honest, be brief, and try to leave out emotion. It sounds like she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but if you keep on, you might push her away, not sure.

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