need help

Cleveland, GA

#23 Apr 11, 2009
i have heard there is a behavior health service down in bowling green that could possibly help, rivendale health services, i was wondering if anyone has any info on that, i have tried pretty much everything, and the foster care situation, is the only reason i havent sent her yet, im so afraid of that, i really am, the counselor actually recommended the rivendale place, so im looking into that if anyone could help please and that you
Unending Love

United States

#24 Apr 11, 2009
need help wrote:
i have heard there is a behavior health service down in bowling green that could possibly help, rivendale health services, i was wondering if anyone has any info on that, i have tried pretty much everything, and the foster care situation, is the only reason i havent sent her yet, im so afraid of that, i really am, the counselor actually recommended the rivendale place, so im looking into that if anyone could help please and that you
I would suggest a boot camp only after close inspection of their record. Your child would forever thankful for their home and the people who love them. It does open their eyes. Good luck and God bless.
P.S. Happy, blessed Easter
Convict

Morehead, KY

#25 Apr 11, 2009
One ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure Call pathways see a social worker get help now or forever feel sorry for yourself Prison always works well that's what happen to me 12 year olds know it all when really they know nothing If you wait then it's your own fault there is help out there for both of you
need help

Morehead, KY

#26 Apr 12, 2009
i have tried pathways, she does fine there, until we leave?!!!!!!!!! Then she proceeds to freak out, ive tried everything i can think of, done everything the counselor has suggested, ive tried everything, she just well wont quit, or listen
UNDERSTANDS

United States

#27 Apr 12, 2009
I once was that 12 year old girl, the first problem is her father being a sh!thead and trust me when I tell you foster homes will NOT help they only make things worse. I only felt more unloved and unwanted already by my father that was never around but then my mother why would she do this to me? I am now 28 I understand why my mother did this but it took several years. Keep taking her to pathways and take everything away from her and make her earn it back. Maybe let her read these post to see what a jacka$$ she acting like or find someone that has been in her shoes just a little older than her for her to talk to rather than a "older" person that she feels threatened by. I really hope for both of you that she straightens up I did everything the hard way but I did learn. At 28 I have a 12 year old also but he's what changed me I just wish that I knew everything then that I do now lol!!
some help

Morehead, KY

#28 Apr 13, 2009
listen don't involve social services. they will make matters worse for you. Call Marilyn Slone if you are in Rowan or Bath CO. She is a court designated worker. She files against the child. Social services will go against you. Trust me I have an out of control teen. They will send them to juvy if necessary.
harry ball

Dahlonega, GA

#29 Apr 13, 2009
Unending Love wrote:
<quoted text>I would suggest a boot camp only after close inspection of their record. Your child would forever thankful for their home and the people who love them. It does open their eyes. Good luck and God bless.
P.S. Happy, blessed Easter
i would suggest a boot across the ass
pedro

Morehead, KY

#30 Apr 13, 2009
You've got to be kidding! When did we start to accept that it's not o.k. to be the parent and let the children control everything? We are adults. A twelve year old child deserves to be taught how to act in society and that includes how to respect their parents. Maybe you should take some parenting classes. My first suggestion is for you to show your daughter that she is living in your home and that the only thing you are required to give her are the necessities of life....that means food,shelter, and clothing. My suggestion on that:
food only has to sustain life, she does not have to like it..so get what you like..if she happens to like that-GREAT! if not, who cares?
shelter-you home will do a great job for shelter. She does not have to have anything else. It is not required for her to have her own room, bed, closet, t.v., phone,computer, or any of the extras in life.
clothing-It is only required for her to have clothing--hand me downs will work, the Goodwill sells nice things. You are allowed to pick these out if you're buying them. Pick out what you like and want her to wear.
My next suggestion is to be there for her! She needs you to be a mother and teach her about life. She needs you to help her become a respected adult. Set rules and make sure they are enforced. Set punishments for when the rules are broken and make sure to follow through with the punishments.
Next suggestion-Don't just take the easy way out by getting rid of her. Parenting is tough! You are not there to be her friend. You are there to be her mother! It is possible to work through this!
Unending Love

United States

#31 Apr 13, 2009
pedro wrote:
You've got to be kidding! When did we start to accept that it's not o.k. to be the parent and let the children control everything? We are adults. A twelve year old child deserves to be taught how to act in society and that includes how to respect their parents. Maybe you should take some parenting classes. My first suggestion is for you to show your daughter that she is living in your home and that the only thing you are required to give her are the necessities of life....that means food,shelter, and clothing. My suggestion on that:
food only has to sustain life, she does not have to like it..so get what you like..if she happens to like that-GREAT! if not, who cares?
shelter-you home will do a great job for shelter. She does not have to have anything else. It is not required for her to have her own room, bed, closet, t.v., phone,computer, or any of the extras in life.
clothing-It is only required for her to have clothing--hand me downs will work, the Goodwill sells nice things. You are allowed to pick these out if you're buying them. Pick out what you like and want her to wear.
My next suggestion is to be there for her! She needs you to be a mother and teach her about life. She needs you to help her become a respected adult. Set rules and make sure they are enforced. Set punishments for when the rules are broken and make sure to follow through with the punishments.
Next suggestion-Don't just take the easy way out by getting rid of her. Parenting is tough! You are not there to be her friend. You are there to be her mother! It is possible to work through this!
Pedro, you are so right on. Sometimes the parent needs to be reminded they are the adult and the child is just that a child.
One thing I would like to add, parents need to teach children to be independent. It is the parents job to teach them how to survive in this world once they are "weaned".
Blessings to you, Pedro.
dosent matter

Dahlonega, GA

#32 Apr 14, 2009
our daughter was out of control, we took her to court ,and in front of the judge last year. they put an ankle monitor on her ,and it worked we have got our child back, with a 4.0 grade point average.yes we would do it again..
swker

Winchester, KY

#33 Apr 20, 2009
need help wrote:
i have a 12 yr old who is out of control, i cant do anything with her at all? What can I do about this, what is the process, i heard i can take her to the court house and they will take over from there, but what happens, whats the deal please help
You need to file a petition with the court saying that your child is beyond parental control; beware if you do this social services will be involved.
been there

Morehead, KY

#34 Apr 20, 2009
I was once in this situation. At age 14 I decided rebel against my mother. I will say that involving social workers in this state is not a good idea. They will fight against you. they make it sound like they are going to help you trust me they dont. If you child gets in the social services system you fight like he** to get them back. However Ky does have a program called the scared straight program. this is what i was sent through and let me tell you it works. they will send your child to a penitentiary and they will stay there for the weekend. they are a "control cell" this is where they have inmates act as bad as possible to show the child/teenager what it is like to be locked up. Your child will NOT be hurt. like i said this is all controled and set up. however this is a good program one of the few good ones that they have. call maryln and ask her about it. she is a good person to work with. dont give up on your child there is good in them they have just ran with the wrong people and went down the wrong road. they are young and can be pulled back. just never forget to let them know you love them. i wish you the best of luck.. it worked for me i am a good person in college and working living a deceit life
snoopy

Lawrenceburg, KY

#35 Apr 20, 2009
Twelve years old is a VERY difficult time for any girl. How long has she been acting like this? When I was twelve and thirteen years old, I fought with my parents constantly. My mother offered to get me counseling and I felt so insulted! Like I wasn't normal! There is the chance that it's just an adolescent phase she's going though. But if she is doing things that could get her hurt or in trouble with the law (drugs, running away, physical violence), then she definitely needs help. Every family and every individual are different. If you feel that she is in danger, then the best thing for you to do is to try to get help for her, in any way you can. If she does get 'sent off,'she'll probably feel abandoned. But if she can finally realize that you did it for her benefit, she'll eventually come around.
Understands

Morehead, KY

#36 Apr 20, 2009
You need to avoid the court system if possible. If you feel you have no control now, wait until the court system gets through with you.

If you really want to help your child, get her and yourself into counseling. Not pathways, that's a waste of time, get a real counselor. If you don't have medical coverage or medicaid, find the extra money to get a real counselor.

It may require a sacrifice on your part to come up with the money for a couple months, but I'm sure your daughter is worth every penny of it. It may mean something to her just that you think she is worth going the extra mile.

Puberty only lasts a couple years, but the consequences of decisions made or not made during this time, can sometimes not be corrected in a lifetime.

God be with you both
intheknow

United States

#37 Apr 21, 2009
need help wrote:
i have heard there is a behavior health service down in bowling green that could possibly help, rivendale health services, i was wondering if anyone has any info on that, i have tried pretty much everything, and the foster care situation, is the only reason i havent sent her yet, im so afraid of that, i really am, the counselor actually recommended the rivendale place, so im looking into that if anyone could help please and that you
There is a place in Morehead called the Walker House. It is for out of control kids.
intheknow

United States

#38 Apr 21, 2009
Also for therapy UK has some great therapists. Just takes a while to get in to see one.
Common Sense

Dahlonega, GA

#39 Apr 23, 2009
intheknow wrote:
<quoted text>There is a place in Morehead called the Walker House. It is for out of control kids.
There was a place a few years ago called The Woodshed.
It was a place out of control teens went.
It was a family oriented atmosphere and no cost.
There was always a 100 percent success rate for out of control teens at The Woodshed.
Mailbox Money Two

United States

#40 Apr 23, 2009
Common Sense wrote:
<quoted text>
There was a place a few years ago called The Woodshed.
It was a place out of control teens went.
It was a family oriented atmosphere and no cost.
There was always a 100 percent success rate for out of control teens at The Woodshed.
Ha ha Love it!
So true! lol
Common Sense

Dahlonega, GA

#41 Apr 23, 2009
Mailbox Money Two wrote:
<quoted text>Ha ha Love it!
So true! lol
Hope you are very! Well!
intheknow

United States

#42 Apr 24, 2009
Common Sense wrote:
<quoted text>
There was a place a few years ago called The Woodshed.
It was a place out of control teens went.
It was a family oriented atmosphere and no cost.
There was always a 100 percent success rate for out of control teens at The Woodshed.
Somewhere I have heard this illegal. This is national child abuse awareness month.

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