shout out to all the married

shout out to all the married

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no lie

Versailles, KY

#1 Dec 7, 2012
Men and women that are exclusive and faithful. Married because they were in love and knew the value of the Vows they recited.
Topic is flooded with cheaters. If you aren't satisfied at home then leave. It's that simple.
woo hoo

United States

#2 Dec 7, 2012
I'm married and I love it! I support my marriage 100%.
poor bastert

Whitestown, IN

#3 Dec 7, 2012
I'm married. Been married for years. My wife is morbidly obese, been that way since our first child was born over 10 years ago. She's lazy, messy, and refuses to work. We have no sex life. I count the hours when I'm home, until I can get back to work to be away from her. I don't hate her, and I feel sorry for her in a lot of ways, but I resent her constant guilt manipulation and refusal to do anything to better herself. I don't leave because she has made it clear she will devastate me financially and do everything in her power to turn our kids against me, if I do.

So do I still get a shout out?
no lie

United States

#4 Dec 7, 2012
Well good for you!!!
Why does anyone even bother getting married if it's not what they want?
no lie

United States

#5 Dec 7, 2012
poor bastert wrote:
I'm married. Been married for years. My wife is morbidly obese, been that way since our first child was born over 10 years ago. She's lazy, messy, and refuses to work. We have no sex life. I count the hours when I'm home, until I can get back to work to be away from her. I don't hate her, and I feel sorry for her in a lot of ways, but I resent her constant guilt manipulation and refusal to do anything to better herself. I don't leave because she has made it clear she will devastate me financially and do everything in her power to turn our kids against me, if I do.

So do I still get a shout out?
No... You should leave lol...
I mean open an account, put your money in it. Leave. If you're a good father, your children will not turn against you.
They will probably turn against her? Because that really bad parenting.. To trash talk your children's father
A Mom

Tucker, GA

#6 Dec 7, 2012
poor bastert wrote:
I'm married. Been married for years. My wife is morbidly obese, been that way since our first child was born over 10 years ago. She's lazy, messy, and refuses to work. We have no sex life. I count the hours when I'm home, until I can get back to work to be away from her. I don't hate her, and I feel sorry for her in a lot of ways, but I resent her constant guilt manipulation and refusal to do anything to better herself. I don't leave because she has made it clear she will devastate me financially and do everything in her power to turn our kids against me, if I do.

So do I still get a shout out?
Leave. She's manipulating you. Put all your money in an account under your mom's name or something, wait three or four months, and then get out. Your kids won't turn against you. Usually when one parent tries to turn the kids against the other parent it backfires. You should try for custody though. Start documenting the condition of the house, anything that she does wrong, document it. Then you can use that in court. You never know, you might get custody.
bummer

United States

#7 Dec 7, 2012
poor bastert wrote:
I'm married. Been married for years. My wife is morbidly obese, been that way since our first child was born over 10 years ago. She's lazy, messy, and refuses to work. We have no sex life. I count the hours when I'm home, until I can get back to work to be away from her. I don't hate her, and I feel sorry for her in a lot of ways, but I resent her constant guilt manipulation and refusal to do anything to better herself. I don't leave because she has made it clear she will devastate me financially and do everything in her power to turn our kids against me, if I do.
So do I still get a shout out?
If she is manipulating you, you may need to seek counseling. You need to get something on record showing any verbal abuse. Money is only an object and you can always make more. You are sacrificing your health and well being and you cannot put a price tag on that.
wondering

United States

#8 Dec 7, 2012
Anyone else that is happily married ever have the fear that it's "too good to be true?" My spouse and I have been together for 10 years and going strong but I just constantly have this fear that we'll wake up one day and be complete strangers.
no lie

Versailles, KY

#9 Dec 7, 2012
wondering wrote:
Anyone else that is happily married ever have the fear that it's "too good to be true?" My spouse and I have been together for 10 years and going strong but I just constantly have this fear that we'll wake up one day and be complete strangers.
Lol like who the bleep did I marry,

Let go of your fears and be happy!! What happens happens, live until it does
Man in Love

Madisonville, KY

#10 Dec 9, 2012
I've been with my wife for 11 years and I wouldn't dream of hurting her that way.

Since: Nov 11

Wild Blue Yonder

#11 Dec 9, 2012
Man in Love wrote:
I've been with my wife for 11 years and I wouldn't dream of hurting her that way.
I was married 11 years...he was faithful the entire time...but didn't have any problem finding other ways to hurt me. I know I am the Debby Downer, here, but cheating is not the only thing that can destroy a marriage. Be careful to respect them in more ways than just complete physical fidelity.
ice motel

Lexington, KY

#12 Dec 9, 2012
CastleOnACloud wrote:
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I was married 11 years...he was faithful the entire time...but didn't have any problem finding other ways to hurt me. I know I am the Debby Downer, here, but cheating is not the only thing that can destroy a marriage. Be careful to respect them in more ways than just complete physical fidelity.
If I had an actual account on here, I'd give this post props. I'm glad you got out of that relationship.*hugs*
well

Owensboro, KY

#13 Dec 9, 2012
CastleOnACloud wrote:
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I was married 11 years...he was faithful the entire time...but didn't have any problem finding other ways to hurt me. I know I am the Debby Downer, here, but cheating is not the only thing that can destroy a marriage. Be careful to respect them in more ways than just complete physical fidelity.
You are not the Debbie downer. I dont know of your situation but you are right, cheating is not the only way to ruin a marriage. It is hard to be in a relationship when the other person is hurtful, controlling and verbally abusive. Everything appears great on the outside but then behind closed doors it is a whole different story. I think it is much harder to get out of that type of relationship than if the other spouse was cheating.
Horny all the time

Madisonville, KY

#14 Dec 9, 2012
CastleOnACloud wrote:
<quoted text>I was married 11 years...he was faithful the entire time...but didn't have any problem finding other ways to hurt me. I know I am the Debby Downer, here, but cheating is not the only thing that can destroy a marriage. Be careful to respect them in more ways than just complete physical fidelity.
I have issues with my tone sometimes but I've noticed it is only when the tone used toward me is the same.

Since: Nov 11

Wild Blue Yonder

#15 Dec 9, 2012
ice motel wrote:
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If I had an actual account on here, I'd give this post props. I'm glad you got out of that relationship.*hugs*
Thank you.

Since: Nov 11

Wild Blue Yonder

#16 Dec 9, 2012
well wrote:
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You are not the Debbie downer. I dont know of your situation but you are right, cheating is not the only way to ruin a marriage. It is hard to be in a relationship when the other person is hurtful, controlling and verbally abusive. Everything appears great on the outside but then behind closed doors it is a whole different story. I think it is much harder to get out of that type of relationship than if the other spouse was cheating.
Well, reading your response, it sounds like you know me & my ex personally. You nailed it, more or less. I think it's made it harder for friends & family to accept our divorce because we let them see what we wanted them to see. We put on a good show for over a decade...and they bought it, for the most part. It took 10 1/2 years before I started to think maybe I actually deserved better. Then another 6 months before I finally left...and now I wouldn't go back if he won billions in the lottery & promised to let me spend all of it.

Since: Nov 11

Wild Blue Yonder

#17 Dec 9, 2012
Horny all the time wrote:
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I have issues with my tone sometimes but I've noticed it is only when the tone used toward me is the same.
I do think this is true for many people; being spoken to in a harsh, disrespectful tone does not generally tend to invoke a calm, gentle response. I won't pretend that I was a saint in my marriage but I never yelled in his face so loud that I made him flinch & back away because he was worried it would get physical next. You can control your tone when you want to...when you don't, there's nothing stopping you from causing irreparable emotional damage.
well

Owensboro, KY

#18 Dec 9, 2012
CastleOnACloud wrote:
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Well, reading your response, it sounds like you know me & my ex personally. You nailed it, more or less. I think it's made it harder for friends & family to accept our divorce because we let them see what we wanted them to see. We put on a good show for over a decade...and they bought it, for the most part. It took 10 1/2 years before I started to think maybe I actually deserved better. Then another 6 months before I finally left...and now I wouldn't go back if he won billions in the lottery & promised to let me spend all of it.
Don't know you or your ex, just had a similar situation. It was difficult and not everyone quite understands. I am in a wonderful relationship now and wouldn't change it for the world. Hope you have found that special someone you deserve!
Horny all the time

Madisonville, KY

#19 Dec 9, 2012
CastleOnACloud wrote:
<quoted text>I do think this is true for many people; being spoken to in a harsh, disrespectful tone does not generally tend to invoke a calm, gentle response. I won't pretend that I was a saint in my marriage but I never yelled in his face so loud that I made him flinch & back away because he was worried it would get physical next. You can control your tone when you want to...when you don't, there's nothing stopping you from causing irreparable emotional damage.
Luckily I've never gotten in her face and made her feel threatened unlike she used to do with me. She would break stuff and yell. If all she wanted to do was yell, I'd leave. I may have a tone but I don't yell at anyone. I hope that you didn't have to feel threatened, if you were I hope that it didn't get physical.

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