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Ashamed

Owensboro, KY

#1 Jan 6, 2013
If my "friend" cheated on her sig other who she has been with forever and has a life with. It was a mistake, it's over, it won't happen again. Does she tell him and beg for forgiveness or just live with guilt and spare his feelings?
advice

Duluth, GA

#2 Jan 6, 2013
Been cheated on a bunch. Tell. Guilt will destroy you up inside.

Level 1

Since: Aug 12

United States

#3 Jan 6, 2013
Tell him. She may spare his feeling and delay the fallout for awhile but he will probably find out eventually then it will be much worse
Friendly

Owensboro, KY

#4 Jan 6, 2013
DO NOT TELL!
Forgive yourself and move on. If you tell your relationship will forever be broken and changed.
Ashamed

Owensboro, KY

#5 Jan 6, 2013
Shouldn't let the guilt be my punishment and daily reminder to never do it again...and spare his feelings?

“I'm almost awesome”

Level 5

Since: Dec 12

jersey city

#6 Jan 6, 2013
Friendly wrote:
DO NOT TELL!
Forgive yourself and move on. If you tell your relationship will forever be broken and changed.
+1

Unless you are POSITIVE it is going to come out from someone else, do NOT tell. You will for sure ruin your relationship. Apologize to yourself, learn from and don't make the same mistake and get on with your life.
NO

Duluth, GA

#7 Jan 6, 2013
Ashamed wrote:
Shouldn't let the guilt be my punishment and daily reminder to never do it again...and spare his feelings?
No .... It will be too easy to do it again. Tell and work it out and make it better
Skipper

Owensboro, KY

#8 Jan 6, 2013
Telling would be really stupid.
???

Morganfield, KY

#9 Jan 6, 2013
big package wrote:
<quoted text>+1

Unless you are POSITIVE it is going to come out from someone else, do NOT tell. You will for sure ruin your relationship. Apologize to yourself, learn from and don't make the same mistake and get on with your life.
Why the +1?
Ashamed

Owensboro, KY

#10 Jan 6, 2013
NO wrote:
<quoted text>
No .... It will be too easy to do it again. Tell and work it out and make it better
it will NEVER happen again. It makes me sick to think about it. Funny how all I could think about was something different, now I'm trying my hardest to get keep everything the same. The grass is not greener on the other side. But it made me realize if I can't make my relationship better by turning to someone else who saw things were shaky and knew the right things to say. Now I know I want to be where I'm at and that I to stop blaming him for everything that wasn't right and start seeing what I can do better.

“Sexy is as Sexy does”

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Since: May 12

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#11 Jan 6, 2013
Ashamed wrote:
If my "friend" cheated on her sig other who she has been with forever and has a life with. It was a mistake, it's over, it won't happen again. Does she tell him and beg for forgiveness or just live with guilt and spare his feelings?
Sticky tricky!

“I'm almost awesome”

Level 5

Since: Dec 12

jersey city

#12 Jan 6, 2013
[QUOTE who="???"]<quoted text>
Why the +1?[/QUOTE]

That means I agree with everything that quoted person said.

“I'm almost awesome”

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Since: Dec 12

jersey city

#13 Jan 6, 2013
Ashamed wrote:
<quoted text> it will NEVER happen again. It makes me sick to think about it. Funny how all I could think about was something different, now I'm trying my hardest to get keep everything the same. The grass is not greener on the other side. But it made me realize if I can't make my relationship better by turning to someone else who saw things were shaky and knew the right things to say. Now I know I want to be where I'm at and that I to stop blaming him for everything that wasn't right and start seeing what I can do better.
Well you already got the first part 'fixed' now swallow the rest and start trying to make things better between you two. Do what you can, and hopefully he'll see that and things will be better going forward.

Since: Nov 11

Wild Blue Yonder

#14 Jan 6, 2013
If you don't think that your relationship will withstand the truth, what does that say about the quality of the relationship you're wanting to stay with and work on? If it's built on secrets and lies, is that really what you want? When you don't trust the other person to hear the truth from you & not run away, chances are pretty strong you're in a relationship with the wrong person, anyway.

Real love is about honesty & forgiveness. If you can't be honest with them about your feelings & actions, what do you really have going for you?

Level 1

Since: Nov 12

United States

#15 Jan 6, 2013
Honesty is too important. Tell it and hope for forgiveness

“I'm almost awesome”

Level 5

Since: Dec 12

jersey city

#16 Jan 6, 2013
CastleOnACloud wrote:
If you don't think that your relationship will withstand the truth, what does that say about the quality of the relationship you're wanting to stay with and work on? If it's built on secrets and lies, is that really what you want? When you don't trust the other person to hear the truth from you & not run away, chances are pretty strong you're in a relationship with the wrong person, anyway.
Real love is about honesty & forgiveness. If you can't be honest with them about your feelings & actions, what do you really have going for you?
I fully understand what you're saying and I think in a perfect world with perfect people that's ideal.

I'm saying that she's already screwed up, realizes it and says it won't happen again. She is sorry, repentant and knows it was wrong. If all of that is true, I don't see the benefit of now hurting her husband. I just think there are things we don't all NEED to know and if sparing someone means they don't have to go through the hurt, by wouldn't you do that?

Unless it's just a pain check, then go ahead and tell him.

“I'm almost awesome”

Level 5

Since: Dec 12

jersey city

#17 Jan 6, 2013
mr tongue wrote:
Honesty is too important. Tell it and hope for forgiveness
Ok, I'm not saying you're a liar but at the very least you ARE insincere. You would not and do not tell the truth in all your relationships and I know that for a fact.

Let's use the old "does this dress make me look fat?" bit. What do you tell her? The truth? BS

My point is NOBODY tells the truth 100%. Nobody. Except Jesus Christ.
good grief

United States

#18 Jan 6, 2013
Castle, you of all people should NOT give relationship advice you couldn't even KEEP a husband!
Friendly

Owensboro, KY

#19 Jan 6, 2013
Telling would only damage your relationship. It will never be the same again. Regardless if how much that person loves you it will always be in te back of his mind! Do not do it if you want to stay in the relationship.
Ashamed

Owensboro, KY

#20 Jan 6, 2013
I know there are things he hasn't told me the truth about. Don't think he's ever cheated but I have caught him lying before and his excuse was always to spare my feelings or in his words "to keep me from worrying about things that were no big deal"

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