So Tired of the BS
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Frustrated

United States

#1 Mar 4, 2013
So tired of the bs. I gave you 10+ years of my life,a child,and nothing was ever good enough. I stayed and gave you chances when I had others that would've treated me better but passed them up for you. I let you take advantage of me in almost everyday cause I wanted our family together but no longer. There will be no more chances and broken promises. Now part of me hates you because I did pass the good ones up and now I have no idea how I'm ever gonna meet someone looking for what I'm looking for. It seems as though these days most men just wanna hook up or play games. I want to fall in love with someone and have them fall in love with me back. I want that connection where I find my best friend as well as a lover. Someone who will accept me as I am and my child into their life. I'm ready to build a life,get married,and know that the person I'm with is who I will spend the rest of my life with and have that security. Possibly add to the family in the perfect situation. I know topixis not where to find this but I'm just venting. I'm not a bar hopper and my life revolves around my child. Few friends left thanks to his insecurity. I'm glad to be out of a loveless relationship but heartbroken that my family is broken. How does a person in my situation ever meet someone who's ready to settle down and wants these same things?
New Beginnings
#2 Mar 4, 2013
Time is something you never get back, No rewind button. I watched a great movie & these words are words to live by.."Are you Living-or- Are you just Existing"?..The past 10yrs you have lived for someone else...Now its time to Live for you! Dont search for your Soulmate, the Soul that Perfectly fits with yours will find you. Open your Mind & Heart to New things, try something diff, step outside of your comfort zone & when you least expect it...Your Love will come through.
Frustrated

United States

#3 Mar 4, 2013
New Beginnings wrote:
Time is something you never get back, No rewind button. I watched a great movie & these words are words to live by.."Are you Living-or- Are you just Existing"?..The past 10yrs you have lived for someone else...Now its time to Live for you! Dont search for your Soulmate, the Soul that Perfectly fits with yours will find you. Open your Mind & Heart to New things, try something diff, step outside of your comfort zone & when you least expect it...Your Love will come through.
Thank you so much for your comment. You're right. I haven't been living but merely existing. I've lost so much time and am afraid I'll only continue to lose more because I am limited to meeting new people. Anyone can go to a bar and pick someone up but I'm hoping to find someone who wants to settle down,get married,raise a family,and build a life together. I want trust,lust,love,and commitment. I'm in my early 30's with a child and have no idea where to look or hope to run into someone who is looking for these same things. I'm not bad looking by no means but was a lot more confident and turned a lot more heads when I was younger. Now I feel insecure and wonder if anyone could ever find me attractive enough to want to share these things with me. I know you can't but I so wish I could turn back the hands of time.
Up Too

Owensboro, KY

#4 Mar 5, 2013
Frustrated, try to think of the last 10 years as preparing you for what comes next. The person above you has it right- live your life and love will find you. Do things you enjoy with your child. Learn something new that you've always been interested in. Take a class with your child. The schools and Parks and Recreation host fun things for parent and child. If it helps any, I was kind of in your shoes except my relationships never lasted longer than 4 years. Finally, I met my Mr Right. It took me a few years to realize he wasn't like the men I had dated before and to learn to trust him. It's been 12 years now and it gets even better every day. It will happen for you too. First, you need to get over your last relationship and become someone you are proud of and get your confidence back. Exercise is great for that and you can do it with your child. Good luck!
Frustrated

United States

#5 Mar 5, 2013
Up Too wrote:
Frustrated, try to think of the last 10 years as preparing you for what comes next. The person above you has it right- live your life and love will find you. Do things you enjoy with your child. Learn something new that you've always been interested in. Take a class with your child. The schools and Parks and Recreation host fun things for parent and child. If it helps any, I was kind of in your shoes except my relationships never lasted longer than 4 years. Finally, I met my Mr Right. It took me a few years to realize he wasn't like the men I had dated before and to learn to trust him. It's been 12 years now and it gets even better every day. It will happen for you too. First, you need to get over your last relationship and become someone you are proud of and get your confidence back. Exercise is great for that and you can do it with your child. Good luck!
Thanks for your comment as well. I do everything with my child. Coach her sports,watch our favorite tv shows and movies. She's my buddy. It's always been her and me whether I was with her daddy or not. I think he has just taken advantage of me so bad it's hard picturing getting back up or meeting someone that would actually do right by me. I mean of your child's father will do that to you then how do you meet someone that won't? I've all but given up on the prospect of ever being in a happy fulfilling relationship. The more I think about everything I let him get away with the more disgusted I am with myself. It's probably best not to expect to ever be so fortunate as to meet someone who truly cared for me as I believe now it'll never happen. Sorry I even started this thread but thanks for the positive comments. I give up.
live

Tucker, GA

#6 Mar 5, 2013
Your life for you and your child. Allow everything else to fall into place. Don't dwell on the past 10 years and focus on moving forward in your life. That person comes along when you least expect it and who knows that person might already be right in front of you. I would suggest taking some time and getting over what you went through over the last 10 years though. Just take some "me" time for yourself and your child. Things will get better for you.
Up Too

Owensboro, KY

#7 Mar 5, 2013
The feeling of disgust that you have for letting him get away with how he treated you will hopefully turn into feeling like you did everything possible to make the relationship work. In the end, that may help you to not look back and feel guilty for not 'trying harder'. You know you have done everything you could to make it work. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Jesse

Madisonville, KY

#8 Mar 5, 2013
We need to stop the bs, we need the truth, we need clarity, we need honesty, we need Al Sharpton to honestly clear up the bs by telling us what is true, we need a government program...
Farmboy

Evansville, IN

#9 Mar 5, 2013
Frustrated wrote:
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Thank you so much for your comment. You're right. I haven't been living but merely existing. I've lost so much time and am afraid I'll only continue to lose more because I am limited to meeting new people. Anyone can go to a bar and pick someone up but I'm hoping to find someone who wants to settle down,get married,raise a family,and build a life together. I want trust,lust,love,and commitment. I'm in my early 30's with a child and have no idea where to look or hope to run into someone who is looking for these same things. I'm not bad looking by no means but was a lot more confident and turned a lot more heads when I was younger. Now I feel insecure and wonder if anyone could ever find me attractive enough to want to share these things with me. I know you can't but I so wish I could turn back the hands of time.
You just got to say hi and see where it goes
tired

Tucker, GA

#10 Mar 5, 2013
Hi :)
Happy go Lucky
#11 Mar 5, 2013
Hi
tired

Tucker, GA

#12 Mar 5, 2013
How is your day going?
Farmboy

Evansville, IN

#13 Mar 5, 2013
Female?
Frustrated

United States

#14 Mar 5, 2013
tired wrote:
How is your day going?
Not good. Couldn't sleep and can't stop dwelling on what a fool I've been. I know I need to suck it up and just get over it and I plan to its just that I'm not able to do it right now. I don't understand how some people treat people the way they do especially when they're suppose to love you. I'm just more mad at myself for letting him come back and do it again for so long. Oh well,hindsights 20/20. It will be hard to ever let my guard down again.
Frustrated

United States

#15 Mar 5, 2013
Farmboy wrote:
Female?
Yes. I am a female.
alivia

Princeton, KY

#16 Mar 5, 2013
Frustrated wrote:
So tired of the bs. I gave you 10+ years of my life,a child,and nothing was ever good enough. I stayed and gave you chances when I had others that would've treated me better but passed them up for you. I let you take advantage of me in almost everyday cause I wanted our family together but no longer. There will be no more chances and broken promises. Now part of me hates you because I did pass the good ones up and now I have no idea how I'm ever gonna meet someone looking for what I'm looking for. It seems as though these days most men just wanna hook up or play games. I want to fall in love with someone and have them fall in love with me back. I want that connection where I find my best friend as well as a lover. Someone who will accept me as I am and my child into their life. I'm ready to build a life,get married,and know that the person I'm with is who I will spend the rest of my life with and have that security. Possibly add to the family in the perfect situation. I know topixis not where to find this but I'm just venting. I'm not a bar hopper and my life revolves around my child. Few friends left thanks to his insecurity. I'm glad to be out of a loveless relationship but heartbroken that my family is broken. How does a person in my situation ever meet someone who's ready to settle down and wants these same things?
Its harder to find someone when you are looking. I think when you are actively looking you are more likely to settle for someone who seems like a good idea at the time and later they arent what you thought. Go out and make friends. Girl and guy friends. Get to know people without the expectation of romance. My husband and I were truly best friends for two years before we flipped the switch to dating and i have never had a relationship so good and fun. We love being around each other and we dont have the silly drama that alot of relationships do have. So that would be my advice. Focus on you and your kid and make some new friends. Dont rush into anything and really get to know people.
wow

United States

#17 Mar 5, 2013
New Beginnings wrote:
Time is something you never get back, No rewind button. I watched a great movie & these words are words to live by.."Are you Living-or- Are you just Existing"?..The past 10yrs you have lived for someone else...Now its time to Live for you! Dont search for your Soulmate, the Soul that Perfectly fits with yours will find you. Open your Mind & Heart to New things, try something diff, step outside of your comfort zone & when you least expect it...Your Love will come through.
If you don't already have a soul mate, I think you should come and find me.
Farmboy

Evansville, IN

#18 Mar 5, 2013
I hear you, I just got out of a bad relationship. The only thing I want is to live life and have friends. But people don't understand it.
Farmboy

Evansville, IN

#19 Mar 5, 2013
Just do what right for your kid and you. You must be happy. Keep your head up and don't like it get you down.
tired

United States

#20 Mar 5, 2013
alivia wrote:
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Its harder to find someone when you are looking. I think when you are actively looking you are more likely to settle for someone who seems like a good idea at the time and later they arent what you thought. Go out and make friends. Girl and guy friends. Get to know people without the expectation of romance. My husband and I were truly best friends for two years before we flipped the switch to dating and i have never had a relationship so good and fun. We love being around each other and we dont have the silly drama that alot of relationships do have. So that would be my advice. Focus on you and your kid and make some new friends. Dont rush into anything and really get to know people.
Very well said. That's some of the best advice I have seen on here

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