Frustrated/confused wife. Needing a male opinion.

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MarriedFemale

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#1 Dec 26, 2012
Ok, so before I get the "you must be ugly and fat" comments I want to say I am neither by societies standards.->my issue is my husband. We've been married 4 years and our sex life has never been worse. We are both in our mid twenties and reasonably healthy individuals but my husband doesn't seem interested in sex at all! I've tried everything from walking around naked, sending him very naughty pics of myself, and even just coming right out and saying "hey, let's have sex...I need it now!", but nothing works. He always has an excuse not to have sex; "I'm tired, I'm gonna play some video games, I don't feel good, etc". And when we do finally have sex it lasts LITERALLY one minute, LITERALLY. What is going on?
hey there

Gurley, AL

#2 Dec 26, 2012
MarriedFemale wrote:
Ok, so before I get the "you must be ugly and fat" comments I want to say I am neither by societies standards.->my issue is my husband. We've been married 4 years and our sex life has never been worse. We are both in our mid twenties and reasonably healthy individuals but my husband doesn't seem interested in sex at all! I've tried everything from walking around naked, sending him very naughty pics of myself, and even just coming right out and saying "hey, let's have sex...I need it now!", but nothing works. He always has an excuse not to have sex; "I'm tired, I'm gonna play some video games, I don't feel good, etc". And when we do finally have sex it lasts LITERALLY one minute, LITERALLY. What is going on?
He might be seeing another woman, or he is still hiding in the closet.

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#3 Dec 26, 2012
MarriedFemale wrote:
Ok, so before I get the "you must be ugly and fat" comments I want to say I am neither by societies standards.->my issue is my husband. We've been married 4 years and our sex life has never been worse. We are both in our mid twenties and reasonably healthy individuals but my husband doesn't seem interested in sex at all! I've tried everything from walking around naked, sending him very naughty pics of myself, and even just coming right out and saying "hey, let's have sex...I need it now!", but nothing works. He always has an excuse not to have sex; "I'm tired, I'm gonna play some video games, I don't feel good, etc". And when we do finally have sex it lasts LITERALLY one minute, LITERALLY. What is going on?
Any thing else changed in the relationship other than the sex?

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Duluth, GA

#4 Dec 26, 2012
MarriedFemale wrote:
Ok, so before I get the "you must be ugly and fat" comments I want to say I am neither by societies standards.->my issue is my husband. We've been married 4 years and our sex life has never been worse. We are both in our mid twenties and reasonably healthy individuals but my husband doesn't seem interested in sex at all! I've tried everything from walking around naked, sending him very naughty pics of myself, and even just coming right out and saying "hey, let's have sex...I need it now!", but nothing works. He always has an excuse not to have sex; "I'm tired, I'm gonna play some video games, I don't feel good, etc". And when we do finally have sex it lasts LITERALLY one minute, LITERALLY. What is going on?
Any man that doesn't want to have sex either has some emotional issues(there is a reason it isn't desired) or is getting it somewhere else.
Heart Broken

Owensboro, KY

#5 Dec 26, 2012
He is cheating.... I'm sorry
Hoosier

Louisville, KY

#6 Dec 26, 2012
MarriedFemale wrote:
Ok, so before I get the "you must be ugly and fat" comments I want to say I am neither by societies standards.->my issue is my husband. We've been married 4 years and our sex life has never been worse. We are both in our mid twenties and reasonably healthy individuals but my husband doesn't seem interested in sex at all! I've tried everything from walking around naked, sending him very naughty pics of myself, and even just coming right out and saying "hey, let's have sex...I need it now!", but nothing works. He always has an excuse not to have sex; "I'm tired, I'm gonna play some video games, I don't feel good, etc". And when we do finally have sex it lasts LITERALLY one minute, LITERALLY. What is going on?
He is cheating

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#7 Dec 26, 2012
I didn't want to skip right to that...but I would imagine you already have that suspicion... Correct?
Sorry

United States

#8 Dec 26, 2012
I know it happens women get older bodies change but my wife had developed problems with oder's so maybe you should start there. There is no easy way to talk about that either. I'd try to bring it up and she would blow up! Now we are divorced and she's not able to keep a guy. I've talked to one he asked me about it. It's a hurtful subject but the truth hurts sometimes.
jghjgj

Kuttawa, KY

#9 Dec 26, 2012
stressed/depressed. needs to see dr.
hesadumbazz

Utica, KY

#11 Dec 26, 2012
Any man that would rather play video games than have sex. Has to have something seriously wrong with them.

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#12 Dec 26, 2012
hesadumbazz wrote:
Any man that would rather play video games than have sex. Has to have something seriously wrong with them.
Maybe he has a phobia about the Sex Act...AFTER walking in on his parents WHILE they were indulging on the kitchen table.. CAN be Very frightening for a young adult seeing his parents in the act..

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jersey city

#13 Dec 26, 2012
MarriedFemale wrote:
Ok, so before I get the "you must be ugly and fat" comments I want to say I am neither by societies standards.->my issue is my husband. We've been married 4 years and our sex life has never been worse. We are both in our mid twenties and reasonably healthy individuals but my husband doesn't seem interested in sex at all! I've tried everything from walking around naked, sending him very naughty pics of myself, and even just coming right out and saying "hey, let's have sex...I need it now!", but nothing works. He always has an excuse not to have sex; "I'm tired, I'm gonna play some video games, I don't feel good, etc". And when we do finally have sex it lasts LITERALLY one minute, LITERALLY. What is going on?
Corey James gives him all he can handle. You'll need to pry that C-Dawg bitch off your man's junk.
TPP

Owensboro, KY

#14 Dec 27, 2012
MarriedFemale wrote:
Ok, so before I get the "you must be ugly and fat" comments I want to say I am neither by societies standards.->my issue is my husband. We've been married 4 years and our sex life has never been worse. We are both in our mid twenties and reasonably healthy individuals but my husband doesn't seem interested in sex at all! I've tried everything from walking around naked, sending him very naughty pics of myself, and even just coming right out and saying "hey, let's have sex...I need it now!", but nothing works. He always has an excuse not to have sex; "I'm tired, I'm gonna play some video games, I don't feel good, etc". And when we do finally have sex it lasts LITERALLY one minute, LITERALLY. What is going on?
It could be a lot of things. He could be depressed, he might be feeling resentment about something that happened between you two, he might be stressed about money, it might be ED or he might be unfaithful. I don't know but I hope that you can work it out.
Now, if you did the things to me that you do to your husband, I'd never give you a minutes peace. I don't like video games. There is nothing that I'd rather do than to give some personal attention to a beautiful woman.
Good luck with your dilemma. Happy New Year.
Yeah buddy

Owensboro, KY

#15 Dec 27, 2012
Try havin open marriage...that's what me and my wife do
testing

Calhoun, KY

#16 Dec 27, 2012
good luck
tree rat

Bellevue, WA

#17 Dec 27, 2012
Id not jump right to cheating, but it would be a strong maybe. Not necessarily physical cheating, if he loves someone else, that would make him stop sleeping with you even quicker than just a physical affair. The physical often times makes guys want even more sex. which would mean he would sleep with you even more. Could be he fell out of love. But, sounds as if, from his age, and the gaming that he's in that sulky, "i don't want to grow up" stage many twenty something men go through.

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#18 Dec 27, 2012
tree rat wrote:
Id not jump right to cheating, but it would be a strong maybe. Not necessarily physical cheating, if he loves someone else, that would make him stop sleeping with you even quicker than just a physical affair. The physical often times makes guys want even more sex. which would mean he would sleep with you even more. Could be he fell out of love. But, sounds as if, from his age, and the gaming that he's in that sulky, "i don't want to grow up" stage many twenty something men go through.
Well said rat.. I would guess that he may be bored, or feeling trapped. You said you've been married a while and are mid 20's.. That's fairly young. Just as he's hitting his prime, he's stuck. He may also be looking or getting that elsewhere for the same reasons stated above.

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#19 Dec 27, 2012
Honestly, FEEL that he realizes ..THE THRILL IS GONE!! Meaning, he doesn't find you physically alluring and he WANTS out of the marriage. But, hasn't readied himself to the point of telling YOU so..HE wants YOU to be the BAD GUY and ask for the DIVORCE. Then, he is FREE..Cruz, he DID 'T sent to hurt your feelings first..COWARD!!!
bishplease

Owensboro, KY

#20 Dec 27, 2012
I see Marti stayed off this thread. Shame she could have told you all about the signs of cheating.
outdoorman

Owensboro, KY

#22 Dec 27, 2012
im white by the way!6ft1

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