shes a man eater

“I'm almost awesome”

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Since: Dec 12

jersey city

#744 Jan 21, 2013
Dixie-me wrote:
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Pshhhh, it's just the way it is.;)
Yeah well it doesn't happen too often. Take the props and run.

Level 4

Since: Feb 12

Location hidden

#745 Jan 21, 2013
Hey Pepper, SB, GS, WHT and anyone else I may have missed. Big, I love the story.

“Still counting”

Since: Jan 13

Owensboro

#746 Jan 21, 2013
big package wrote:
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I recently drove 13 hours, not just for the date, but that was a big part of it. I was making the trip anyway, just not then.
Can't do 'long distance' relationship? Just won't work?
Gotta tell you a story. I'm on the second flight and I'm thinking about what I wrote to you. I'm 13 hours away, how could that ever work. So me and this girl Kate get on last. We're sitting across from each other in row 6 of coach talking and people saying thanks and all. So this guy like 28 or so comes back and says 'one of you needs to move up front' What, no thanks, blah blah. So she's young and real short, so she says you go. So I go up to first class, second row. That's not the story tho. LOL
Some women in the first row is talking to the guy next to her. I hear 'he's a French expat'. She says 'you live in Montreal or Quebec, there's alot of French Canadians there' He says 'I have friends there, but no I live in PA. I'm going home with my wife.' Interesting, but didn't think too much more about it.
About now someone else asks our attendant about herself. Where she's from and such. I had heard her accent and thought maybe like Portugal or something. Decent English but with a Spanish accent. Maybe like 5'7 and quite light skin. She says 'Im Mexican from Catalan, but haven't lived there in years.' So now I'm thnking. I feel like I wanna say 'I love you' to you but thats insane. That's not part of the story but it is what I'm thinking. So she's very nice and brings me a Jack and Coke and I start asking her. Turns out she's married to the French expat. He lived in Toulouse, France. They met on an English language forum. Talked for awhile and she was flying to France for Delta. They had a date. Chemistry. She came several more times. He visited her in Catalan on holiday. Still hot and it just happened. He's 16 years older than her and nothing super special. Maybe 5'6, salt and pepper hair. Ordinary in every other way. Except he's nice. To her especially. I asked her more about it. She had left an ignorant, verbally abusive and controlling husband in Mexico. Seemed to really love this guy and was very happy. Yaay.
Very nice.:)

“I'm almost awesome”

Level 5

Since: Dec 12

jersey city

#747 Jan 21, 2013
Dixie-me wrote:
Hey Pepper, SB, GS, WHT and anyone else I may have missed. Big, I love the story.
Thank you. It really took me a few to understand just how improbable their relationship was. Everything about it was cool. They were both their own people, but seemed to be very much in love. Still. I really had to reexamine things I was telling myself about limitations. I can't is really kind of bs. More correctly is probably 'I don't want to because it makes me uncomfortable or vulnerable'.

Pepper_126

“I don't do red lipstick...”

Since: Sep 12

well maybe this one time...

#748 Jan 21, 2013
GreenSkulls wrote:
<quoted text>
When I drive an hour the opposite way to work, not very easy to do.
Skulls you gotta make an effort. You can do it if you want it bad enough.
a girl

United States

#749 Jan 21, 2013
GreenSkulls wrote:
<quoted text>I'm not asking anyone to change for me. Why would I want someone that does things I don't enjoy? And why would someone want me when I do everything they don't enjoy. I will not change for anyone and I don't want anyone to change for me.
I see your posts on here a lot. You seem like a really nice guy most of the time. Here's your problem. You don't like yourself. If you don't like yourself you can't expect anyone else to like you. You say you won't change for anyone, but that seems like an excuse for either being too lazy to make changes or an excuse because you don't know where to start. Every time someone offers a suggestion, you shoot it down. Ok, you don't like bars. So go to a cafe. Or whatever. Go somewhere. Make some friends. No woman worth having wants to just jump into a relationship with a stranger. You have to get to know them on a friendly level. Stop pushing so hard for love. Stop with the whole "I want to revolve around someone." it's romantic in fiction, creepy and stalkerish in real life. Not saying that you're creepy or a stalker, but that's how you are coming across. You have got to stop complaining about how pathetic you think you are, and how nobody loves you and nothing goes right. Your life may really be horrible, and all those things you say may be true, but it comes across that you are just seeking attention and sympathy, with the subconscious hope that some woman will feel sorry for you and it will lead to a relationship. I'm not saying that's the case. I am saying that's how it comes across. I think you are a really nice person, and that you have probably not been treated very well by others. But that's not an excuse to act this way. You are not what the world has made you. You are a direct result of your choices. Your environment can only shape you if you allow it to. You're going to have to get yourself together if you want a healthy relationship. Having a girlfriend is not going to make you happy. It is not going to give you self worth. Yeah, having a relationship would be nice, but you don't have to have that to be happy. In fact, if you aren't happy with yourself, you will screw up any relationship you get into. Your lack of confidence in yourself will cause you to not trust. Your desire to revolve around someone will smother them. They will end up resenting you, and they won't feel like they can be themselves. You seriously need to get yourself together before you even think about getting with anyone else. Just what I get from seeing your posts.

Since: Feb 12

Owensboro, KY

#750 Jan 21, 2013
a girl wrote:
<quoted text>I see your posts on here a lot. You seem like a really nice guy most of the time. Here's your problem. You don't like yourself. If you don't like yourself you can't expect anyone else to like you. You say you won't change for anyone, but that seems like an excuse for either being too lazy to make changes or an excuse because you don't know where to start. Every time someone offers a suggestion, you shoot it down. Ok, you don't like bars. So go to a cafe. Or whatever. Go somewhere. Make some friends. No woman worth having wants to just jump into a relationship with a stranger. You have to get to know them on a friendly level. Stop pushing so hard for love. Stop with the whole "I want to revolve around someone." it's romantic in fiction, creepy and stalkerish in real life. Not saying that you're creepy or a stalker, but that's how you are coming across. You have got to stop complaining about how pathetic you think you are, and how nobody loves you and nothing goes right. Your life may really be horrible, and all those things you say may be true, but it comes across that you are just seeking attention and sympathy, with the subconscious hope that some woman will feel sorry for you and it will lead to a relationship. I'm not saying that's the case. I am saying that's how it comes across. I think you are a really nice person, and that you have probably not been treated very well by others. But that's not an excuse to act this way. You are not what the world has made you. You are a direct result of your choices. Your environment can only shape you if you allow it to. You're going to have to get yourself together if you want a healthy relationship. Having a girlfriend is not going to make you happy. It is not going to give you self worth. Yeah, having a relationship would be nice, but you don't have to have that to be happy. In fact, if you aren't happy with yourself, you will screw up any relationship you get into. Your lack of confidence in yourself will cause you to not trust. Your desire to revolve around someone will smother them. They will end up resenting you, and they won't feel like they can be themselves. You seriously need to get yourself together before you even think about getting with anyone else. Just what I get from seeing your posts.
I do like myself. I'm happy with who I am other than being alone. I didn't know who I was or what I liked for years. I was not allowed to do certain things living with my patents until I was out on my own. I couldn't find and express how I felt. I don't need to change who I am. I'm too set in my ways to change my ideals. There aren't many places I like to go. I go to the ones that I like. I'm not going somewhere I don't want to be to look for a woman. That's ridiculous. If I have someone, I feel very valuable. I feel I'm on top of the world with the most confidence anyone could have. I don't trust easily because every woman but one, has cheated on me. I get tired of hearing guys say that their women smother them. That's the kind of girl I want. I want one that can't go half an hour without talking to me. Cause I am that same way.

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Since: Dec 12

Location hidden

#751 Jan 21, 2013
a girl wrote:
<quoted text>I see your posts on here a lot. You seem like a really nice guy most of the time. Here's your problem. You don't like yourself. If you don't like yourself you can't expect anyone else to like you. You say you won't change for anyone, but that seems like an excuse for either being too lazy to make changes or an excuse because you don't know where to start. Every time someone offers a suggestion, you shoot it down. Ok, you don't like bars. So go to a cafe. Or whatever. Go somewhere. Make some friends. No woman worth having wants to just jump into a relationship with a stranger. You have to get to know them on a friendly level. Stop pushing so hard for love. Stop with the whole "I want to revolve around someone." it's romantic in fiction, creepy and stalkerish in real life. Not saying that you're creepy or a stalker, but that's how you are coming across. You have got to stop complaining about how pathetic you think you are, and how nobody loves you and nothing goes right. Your life may really be horrible, and all those things you say may be true, but it comes across that you are just seeking attention and sympathy, with the subconscious hope that some woman will feel sorry for you and it will lead to a relationship. I'm not saying that's the case. I am saying that's how it comes across. I think you are a really nice person, and that you have probably not been treated very well by others. But that's not an excuse to act this way. You are not what the world has made you. You are a direct result of your choices. Your environment can only shape you if you allow it to. You're going to have to get yourself together if you want a healthy relationship. Having a girlfriend is not going to make you happy. It is not going to give you self worth. Yeah, having a relationship would be nice, but you don't have to have that to be happy. In fact, if you aren't happy with yourself, you will screw up any relationship you get into. Your lack of confidence in yourself will cause you to not trust. Your desire to revolve around someone will smother them. They will end up resenting you, and they won't feel like they can be themselves. You seriously need to get yourself together before you even think about getting with anyone else. Just what I get from seeing your posts.
Wow, my sentiments exactly!! That is what I have been trying to get across for a month. Maybe since he hears it from A GIRL (lol) it might sink in..

Level 2

Since: Dec 12

Location hidden

#752 Jan 21, 2013
GreenSkulls wrote:
<quoted text>I do like myself. I'm happy with who I am other than being alone. I didn't know who I was or what I liked for years. I was not allowed to do certain things living with my patents until I was out on my own. I couldn't find and express how I felt. I don't need to change who I am. I'm too set in my ways to change my ideals. There aren't many places I like to go. I go to the ones that I like. I'm not going somewhere I don't want to be to look for a woman. That's ridiculous. If I have someone, I feel very valuable. I feel I'm on top of the world with the most confidence anyone could have. I don't trust easily because every woman but one, has cheated on me. I get tired of hearing guys say that their women smother them. That's the kind of girl I want. I want one that can't go half an hour without talking to me. Cause I am that same way.
You are creepy, smothering and stalkerish then. Good grief.

“I'm almost awesome”

Level 5

Since: Dec 12

jersey city

#753 Jan 21, 2013
Amandas Man wrote:
<quoted text>
Wow, my sentiments exactly!! That is what I have been trying to get across for a month. Maybe since he hears it from A GIRL (lol) it might sink in..
I was thinking the same thing, but he immediately started deconstructing her advice too.

Level 2

Since: Nov 12

United States

#754 Jan 21, 2013
Amandas Man wrote:
<quoted text>
Wow, my sentiments exactly!! That is what I have been trying to get across for a month. Maybe since he hears it from A GIRL (lol) it might sink in..
Doubt it he's to closed minded

“I'm almost awesome”

Level 5

Since: Dec 12

jersey city

#755 Jan 21, 2013
Amandas Man wrote:
<quoted text>
Good grief.
You're a smotherer Charlie Brown.

“Sexy is as Sexy does”

Level 4

Since: May 12

Location hidden

#756 Jan 21, 2013
Well Hello There u wrote:
I good how about you buddy
I'm perfectly great! I am snuggled up on my couch with my lil guy and a movie. What more could I ask for. Life is good to me :)

“Sexy is as Sexy does”

Level 4

Since: May 12

Location hidden

#757 Jan 21, 2013
Dixie-me wrote:
Hey Pepper, SB, GS, WHT and anyone else I may have missed. Big, I love the story.
Hey Dixie. How's your day been?

Since: Feb 12

Owensboro, KY

#758 Jan 21, 2013
Amandas Man wrote:
<quoted text>You are creepy, smothering and stalkerish then. Good grief.
I have never stalked anyone.

Pepper_126

“I don't do red lipstick...”

Since: Sep 12

well maybe this one time...

#759 Jan 21, 2013
GreenSkulls wrote:
<quoted text>
I have never stalked anyone.
Skulls you have to stop this. How old are you?

“Still counting”

Since: Jan 13

Owensboro

#761 Jan 21, 2013
Amandas Man wrote:
<quoted text>
You are creepy, smothering and stalkerish then. Good grief.
gee dont hold anything back. not that i agree with you about GS but that was funny as hell...in a sarcastic kinda way.
a girl

United States

#762 Jan 21, 2013
GreenSkulls wrote:
<quoted text>I do like myself. I'm happy with who I am other than being alone. I didn't know who I was or what I liked for years. I was not allowed to do certain things living with my patents until I was out on my own. I couldn't find and express how I felt. I don't need to change who I am. I'm too set in my ways to change my ideals. There aren't many places I like to go. I go to the ones that I like. I'm not going somewhere I don't want to be to look for a woman. That's ridiculous. If I have someone, I feel very valuable. I feel I'm on top of the world with the most confidence anyone could have. I don't trust easily because every woman but one, has cheated on me. I get tired of hearing guys say that their women smother them. That's the kind of girl I want. I want one that can't go half an hour without talking to me. Cause I am that same way.
Bullshit. You like yourself, yet you frequently complain about how much of a loser you are, how nobody loves you, how you are so miserable? No, you do not like yourself. Or you have a split personality. You have absolutely no self esteem. You don't need to change who you are. You need to change the way you feel about yourself, and if you need to work on some things in order to do that, then so be it. Making an effort to improve yourself is not changing who you are. It's growth. Nobody said you had to go places you didn't like to meet someone. You just need to expand your list of things you like to do. Take a class. Go hang out at the library. The book store. Go to the movies. Get out and try things. You don't like one thing, try something else. You can't keep doing what you have always done and expect different results. If you feel valuable only when you have someone, you are placing your self worth on someone else. You are codependent. You need someone to need you. This is not healthy, and codependent people are rarely successful in relationships. Women who smother their men are not self confident. Someone who can't go an hour without talking to their partner is not emotionally healthy. So if that is what you want, you are basically saying that you want a woman who has little to no self confidence, so she can make you feel confident about yourself. This will not work. The two of you would just make eachother's issues worse, and neither of you would be happy. I already know that you will not look into the things I said. I know that you won't think that working on yourself is worth a shot. I know that you probably will not attempt to improve your life, and will instead just continue to search for happiness in other people. You will most likely continue to complain about things while making no effort to fix the problem. And if I'm right, you will continue to scare off women who would otherwise be very interested in you, by coming across as depressed, smothering, desperate and a little obsessed. I'm not saying you are those things. I'm saying that is how you are perceived. I know this probably won't make a difference and you will have a rebuttal or excuse for everything I said. But I had to say it because I really think you are pretty cool in some aspects, and I hate to see you so unhappy. I have been wanting to say those things to you for a while now, and just couldn't stop myself. So there ya go! I hope it didn't come across too harsh or offend you. That wasn't my intention at all.
a girl

United States

#763 Jan 21, 2013
Amandas Man wrote:
<quoted text>Wow, my sentiments exactly!! That is what I have been trying to get across for a month. Maybe since he hears it from A GIRL (lol) it might sink in..
it won't. He's hardheaded. I get that. I'm pretty stubborn myself! Lol! I just had to say it cause I honestly think he could be a great guy. Just needs to get himself together.

Since: Feb 12

Owensboro, KY

#764 Jan 21, 2013
a girl wrote:
<quoted text>Bullshit. You like yourself, yet you frequently complain about how much of a loser you are, how nobody loves you, how you are so miserable? No, you do not like yourself. Or you have a split personality. You have absolutely no self esteem. You don't need to change who you are. You need to change the way you feel about yourself, and if you need to work on some things in order to do that, then so be it. Making an effort to improve yourself is not changing who you are. It's growth. Nobody said you had to go places you didn't like to meet someone. You just need to expand your list of things you like to do. Take a class. Go hang out at the library. The book store. Go to the movies. Get out and try things. You don't like one thing, try something else. You can't keep doing what you have always done and expect different results. If you feel valuable only when you have someone, you are placing your self worth on someone else. You are codependent. You need someone to need you. This is not healthy, and codependent people are rarely successful in relationships. Women who smother their men are not self confident. Someone who can't go an hour without talking to their partner is not emotionally healthy. So if that is what you want, you are basically saying that you want a woman who has little to no self confidence, so she can make you feel confident about yourself. This will not work. The two of you would just make eachother's issues worse, and neither of you would be happy. I already know that you will not look into the things I said. I know that you won't think that working on yourself is worth a shot. I know that you probably will not attempt to improve your life, and will instead just continue to search for happiness in other people. You will most likely continue to complain about things while making no effort to fix the problem. And if I'm right, you will continue to scare off women who would otherwise be very interested in you, by coming across as depressed, smothering, desperate and a little obsessed. I'm not saying you are those things. I'm saying that is how you are perceived. I know this probably won't make a difference and you will have a rebuttal or excuse for everything I said. But I had to say it because I really think you are pretty cool in some aspects, and I hate to see you so unhappy. I have been wanting to say those things to you for a while now, and just couldn't stop myself. So there ya go! I hope it didn't come across too harsh or offend you. That wasn't my intention at all.
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