Can step parents spank

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Owensboro, KY

#1 Dec 9, 2012
I have 3 step kids. All different ages and I spank them. Do you think it's wrong to punish someones kids? I have 2 different baby moms telling me they goin get me for spanking they kids. I don't have any kids with this man, but on the weekends he gets them, they bad
Anonymous

United States

#2 Dec 9, 2012
No I don't think so. If the parent is around the kids need spankings do it. See that's what's wrong with kids now days not enough a$$ whoopins they grow up bad...
yea

Owensboro, KY

#3 Dec 9, 2012
if they r in ur house then hell yea spank them kids. someone need to apparently. if u r good enough to step up and be their step mom then i think u have the right. u gonna be round for a while so u gonna have to discipline them somehow
Holly

Owensboro, KY

#4 Dec 9, 2012
It is not ok to discipline other people's children, thy is the fathers job. We would have problems if you spanked my child. Time out is one hung, hands on is another.
Handsome Man

United States

#5 Dec 9, 2012
No. You should be arrested.

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#6 Dec 9, 2012
I wouldn't! And I'd be pi$$ed if someone laid a hand on my child.
wtfwasthat

United States

#7 Dec 9, 2012
I'd have to get the ok from biological parents first. I told my kiddos step dad to do what he needed because I trusted him and he was a good guy. However it's biological parents that should be handling that in my opinion. As a stepparent my self it's a frustrating area.
A Mom

Duluth, GA

#8 Dec 9, 2012
I discipline my step kids, but they live with me and their bio mom isn't really involved with them. When my husband is working, I'm responsible for them, so I do discipline them when necessary. As long as you aren't being mean or abusive to them or treating them differently from your own kids, I don't see a problem with it. You might want to make sure and ask their dad and their bio mom first though, especially if she is involved in their lives. She may have a huge problem with it. Honestly, if my husband and I split up and he remarried and his wife ever spanked my child I would probably have a huge problem with it. I would actually have a big problem with it if my step kids' bio mom spanked them. I just don't trust her. I guess it depends on your relationship with the bio mom and if your husband is supportive of you disciplining them. To avoid possible issues, maybe try other forms of discipline first.
ok

Owensboro, KY

#9 Dec 9, 2012
Question wrote:
I have 3 step kids. All different ages and I spank them. Do you think it's wrong to punish someones kids? I have 2 different baby moms telling me they goin get me for spanking they kids. I don't have any kids with this man, but on the weekends he gets them, they bad
My kids step-father disciplined them when they where younger( which included spanking). They are grown now and thank him for it!!!
Fun

Owensboro, KY

#10 Dec 9, 2012
I an completely against spanking or hitting in any way period by anyone including biological parents if the bio mom does not spank them do not touch them if she does spank them and u treat them good and dont hit them hard then if thats the discipline that they r used to then I dont c y u cant if they are in your care then u should have the right to discipline them however if the father is present he should be the one to do all parents involved shoild discipline the children the same way because children need consistency
jadksn

Owensboro, KY

#11 Dec 10, 2012
If you are the legal guardian, yes, you can spank the kids.
do it

United States

#12 Dec 10, 2012
Step kids will always treat you bad. I'm sure they'll resent you, but the good thing is. They'll have issues when they grow up, so don't worry about it. If the dad isn't doing anything, you should leave him
tree rat

Bellevue, WA

#13 Dec 10, 2012
Fun wrote:
I an completely against spanking or hitting in any way period by anyone including biological parents if the bio mom does not spank them do not touch them if she does spank them and u treat them good and dont hit them hard then if thats the discipline that they r used to then I dont c y u cant if they are in your care then u should have the right to discipline them however if the father is present he should be the one to do all parents involved shoild discipline the children the same way because children need consistency
Use punctuation damn it!!!!!! I almost passed out reading that!
Life

Owensboro, KY

#14 Dec 10, 2012
If you are a parent BE A PARENT! There is a huge difference between abuse and discipline. Another way to look at is this- when the kids become 12, 13 and want to stay out til whenever and basically start running the home how do you think it will be when thy same kid is 16? Control your kids now, so they don't control you later. Don't be one of those people who call the cops on their own 14 yr old because they can't control them? Step children or not you have a right to uphold rules and discipline in your home, and if the children threaten you than you must be doing something right.
Handsome Man

United States

#15 Dec 10, 2012
Life wrote:
If you are a parent BE A PARENT! There is a huge difference between abuse and discipline. Another way to look at is this- when the kids become 12, 13 and want to stay out til whenever and basically start running the home how do you think it will be when thy same kid is 16? Control your kids now, so they don't control you later. Don't be one of those people who call the cops on their own 14 yr old because they can't control them? Step children or not you have a right to uphold rules and discipline in your home, and if the children threaten you than you must be doing something right.
Wow! It's not about control, its about love and respect. If your children love and respect you, they'll do right. If not, then I guess you have to do it your way. Sad.
A Mom

Duluth, GA

#16 Dec 10, 2012
Life wrote:
If you are a parent BE A PARENT! There is a huge difference between abuse and discipline. Another way to look at is this- when the kids become 12, 13 and want to stay out til whenever and basically start running the home how do you think it will be when thy same kid is 16? Control your kids now, so they don't control you later. Don't be one of those people who call the cops on their own 14 yr old because they can't control them? Step children or not you have a right to uphold rules and discipline in your home, and if the children threaten you than you must be doing something right.
Spanking is not about controlling your children. It's about teaching them to control themselves, and teaching about consequences for their choices. If you are spanking them to control them or because you are afraid they'll be out of control later in life, you're spanking for the wrong reasons.

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