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Liberal Wisenheimer
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#41 Aug 13, 2012
reflection wrote:
Wish I'd just stayed with my husband and worked it out bc I've been single years now and the grass is NOT greener and my children suffered. Sucks.
Sad story. Sometimes we make impulsive decisions with long term, even lifetime consequences. I bet your female friends were right there urging you to leave the "Bastard". Chicks are really short sighted about this kind of thing.
Really

Clearwater, FL

#42 Aug 14, 2012
Why do women think it's okay to get fat after they are married? And don't give me the excuse that having children makes you fat! I have 2 and after each one it took me less than a month to get my body back(and without any nasty stretch marks). You are not supposed to gain 50 pounds or more when you are pregnant! How hard is it to get up early and go for a run, a swim or ride a bike and eat healthy? Men are visual and looking at fat is not pretty.
Just saying

Whitestown, IN

#43 Aug 14, 2012
Really wrote:
Why do women think it's okay to get fat after they are married? And don't give me the excuse that having children makes you fat! I have 2 and after each one it took me less than a month to get my body back(and without any nasty stretch marks). You are not supposed to gain 50 pounds or more when you are pregnant! How hard is it to get up early and go for a run, a swim or ride a bike and eat healthy? Men are visual and looking at fat is not pretty.
They get fat because it is easier and easier to do so as women age. They stay fat because eating right and exercising takes discipline, and they have none. They would rather spend their energy banding together and guilt tripping men and shaming them out of calling them out on their lazy and self-indulgent behavior. And of course their favorite shaming devises are sacrificial motherhood and Christianity.
Just saying

Whitestown, IN

#44 Aug 14, 2012
and "under-active" thyroids and slow metabolisms

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#45 Aug 14, 2012
I have always weighed around 105-110 until my granmother who raised me passed away and I went through a period of depression and I got on depression meds but when I came off of it I gained 60lbs and after trying exercise, calorie diets, and diet pills nothing worked! Finally someone told me about metabolism vitamins so I got some and with those and exercise and drinking water, I am finally after 3 yrs back to my normal weight! So poor dieting and exercise isn't always the reason:(
Really

Clearwater, FL

#47 Aug 14, 2012
Just saying wrote:
<quoted text>They get fat because it is easier and easier to do so as women age. They stay fat because eating right and exercising takes discipline, and they have none. They would rather spend their energy banding together and guilt tripping men and shaming them out of calling them out on their lazy and self-indulgent behavior. And of course their favorite shaming devises are sacrificial motherhood and Christianity.
Exactly! I think when women let themselves go after being married they just don't care if their husbands find them attractive anymore. How is a marriage supposed to work if you aren't the same person you were when you got married? It's like the old "bait and switch" scam stores use. Husbands are supposed to be proud of their wives...not ashamed to be seen with them.

Women who are obese are also much more likely to be denied a job or a promotion at the job they do have. Employers link fat women with laziness, lack of self respect and no discipline. And no, it is not against any discrimination laws for employers to do this.
ridiculous

United States

#48 Aug 14, 2012
Just saying wrote:
<quoted text>They get fat because it is easier and easier to do so as women age. They stay fat because eating right and exercising takes discipline, and they have none. They would rather spend their energy banding together and guilt tripping men and shaming them out of calling them out on their lazy and self-indulgent behavior. And of course their favorite shaming devises are sacrificial motherhood and Christianity.
I see more obese men than woman and you don't see women hating on them. It is exhausting working full time, taking care of children, and a home. Maybe if men would help out more, women would have the time to exercise.
Really

Clearwater, FL

#49 Aug 14, 2012
ridiculous wrote:
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I see more obese men than woman and you don't see women hating on them. It is exhausting working full time, taking care of children, and a home. Maybe if men would help out more, women would have the time to exercise.
That's because women are judged more on their appearance than men are. Is it fair? No. But it's true. Women wear make up, have their hair and nails done, wear high heeled shoes, etc to improve their appearance while men are taken as they are. That's life so you have to deal with it. I will say if my husband started gaining weight I would tell him I didn't like it.

If you husband doesn't help you at home that is yout fault. People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. When he comes home from work tell him you're going for a run, to the gym, or to do whatever you wish to do to stay in shape, leave him with the kids and go. What's he going to do? Say no?
Just saying

Whitestown, IN

#50 Aug 14, 2012
Working full time and taking care of children might hinder your attempts to exercise, but not to eat right. All that work and childcare will have some calorie-burning benefit, if that's what you're really doing. But it is just as easy to eat healthy as it is to order pizza or eat fast food and snack food, and it is definitely cheaper.

And it is not a good analogy to say men shouldn't judge their wives on their weight, because wives don't judge their husbands on their weight. A fair analogy would be to say men value their wives' appearance the way wives value their husband's ability to provide a certain lifestyle. It's like the old joke: What do you call a woman who is married to a fat lazy bum who won't work? A fool. What do you call a man who is married to a fat lazy bum who won't work? A "good" husband.

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#51 Aug 14, 2012
guest wrote:
if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you
Not true. A lot of long term faithful marriages have spawned from an affair. Just because a man or woman cheats on you does not mean they will cheat on the next person. Ever think you may have done something to push that person to cheat?

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#52 Aug 14, 2012
Liberal Wisenheimer wrote:
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Sad story. Sometimes we make impulsive decisions with long term, even lifetime consequences. I bet your female friends were right there urging you to leave the "Bastard". Chicks are really short sighted about this kind of thing.
I agree 100%
truth

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#53 Aug 14, 2012
Just saying wrote:
Working full time and taking care of children might hinder your attempts to exercise, but not to eat right. All that work and childcare will have some calorie-burning benefit, if that's what you're really doing. But it is just as easy to eat healthy as it is to order pizza or eat fast food and snack food, and it is definitely cheaper.

And it is not a good analogy to say men shouldn't judge their wives on their weight, because wives don't judge their husbands on their weight. A fair analogy would be to say men value their wives' appearance the way wives value their husband's ability to provide a certain lifestyle. It's like the old joke: What do you call a woman who is married to a fat lazy bum who won't work? A fool. What do you call a man who is married to a fat lazy bum who won't work? A "good" husband.
Even if a man or woman gains weight, that is not a justification for cheating. Now people use every excuse to justify bad behavior. Grow up.
Just saying

Whitestown, IN

#54 Aug 14, 2012
Reasons people cheat:

1) They are no longer attracted to their spouse, or feel their spouse takes them for granted or no longer desires them, and they decide to seek that attention elsewhere. They are open to the possibility of leaving their marriage, but won't do it without a "sure thing" waiting in the wings.

2) They are unhappy in their marriage, but are taking the path of least resistance by staying in it, at least until someone good enough comes along that they're willing to go through the hell of divorce for. Ironically, it is that person who will get blamed for the break up.

3) They are okay with their marriage, but they have a very different sex drive than their spouse does, or simply an irresistible craving for variety. They want sex on the side, but don't want to leave their spouses.

4) They meet someone who moves them deeply, in some way never experienced before. Maybe they actually fall in love for the first time or experience real communication for the first time.

5) They are going through a personal identity crisis of their own: fear of aging and unattractiveness; boredom with the status quo of their lives; sowing wild oats they regret not sowing when they were younger, etc. etc. These people may or may not want out of their marriages.

NEVER the reason people cheat:

A happily married, innocently by-standing person is tricked and lured into cheating by a conniving, wily seductress or seducer against his or her will, who is then pressured and cajoled into leaving the marriage. It just doesn't happen that way, so quit blaming a third party.
Hmmm

Owensboro, KY

#55 Aug 14, 2012
mommy2012d wrote:
Your spouse wouldnt be out cheatin if you were keepin them happy.
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No I was doing everything a woman was supposed to do and We were happy just didn't work out the way it was supposed to in life. I don't give up faith cause I know that if I want something bad enough I will fight for it. We've been talking and I think we're going to go to counseling to work our marriage out I have faith and your negative.

Liberal Wisenheimer
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#56 Aug 14, 2012
Hmmm wrote:
<quoted text> No I was doing everything a woman was supposed to do and We were happy just didn't work out the way it was supposed to in life. I don't give up faith cause I know that if I want something bad enough I will fight for it. We've been talking and I think we're going to go to counseling to work our marriage out I have faith and your negative.
I doubt you were doing everything you were supposed to do,,,,,in his eyes.
Hmmm

Owensboro, KY

#57 Aug 14, 2012
Liberal Wisenheimer wrote:
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I doubt you were doing everything you were supposed to do,,,,,in his eyes.
Then that's his selfishness not mines Itried my damndest to keep out family whole he just didn't put in his all.

Liberal Wisenheimer
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#58 Aug 14, 2012
Let's see, I'm guessing you got fat, complained often and loudly, and didn't like oral sex. Am I close?
real talk

United States

#59 Aug 14, 2012
I'm married. Feel free to come after me whenever you want. Go team liberal!!!!
Hmmm

Owensboro, KY

#60 Aug 14, 2012
Liberal Wisenheimer wrote:
Let's see, I'm guessing you got fat, complained often and loudly, and didn't like oral sex. Am I close?
Nope not at all!
Love it!

Owensboro, KY

#61 Aug 14, 2012
Just saying wrote:
Reasons people cheat:

1) They are no longer attracted to their spouse, or feel their spouse takes them for granted or no longer desires them, and they decide to seek that attention elsewhere. They are open to the possibility of leaving their marriage, but won't do it without a "sure thing" waiting in the wings.

2) They are unhappy in their marriage, but are taking the path of least resistance by staying in it, at least until someone good enough comes along that they're willing to go through the hell of divorce for. Ironically, it is that person who will get blamed for the break up.

3) They are okay with their marriage, but they have a very different sex drive than their spouse does, or simply an irresistible craving for variety. They want sex on the side, but don't want to leave their spouses.

4) They meet someone who moves them deeply, in some way never experienced before. Maybe they actually fall in love for the first time or experience real communication for the first time.

5) They are going through a personal identity crisis of their own: fear of aging and unattractiveness; boredom with the status quo of their lives; sowing wild oats they regret not sowing when they were younger, etc. etc. These people may or may not want out of their marriages.

NEVER the reason people cheat:

A happily married, innocently by-standing person is tricked and lured into cheating by a conniving, wily seductress or seducer against his or her will, who is then pressured and cajoled into leaving the marriage. It just doesn't happen that way, so quit blaming a third party.
you are very wise! Love the ending!

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