going after a married man makes you look like a wh##re

[Just saying]

I'm a woman

[well well]

Just saying wrote:

The women who are quick to blame the "other woman," regardless of the truth of the circumstances, are the women who view men primarily as an economic resource. They can't blame him, or they would have no defense against looking like a fool when they take him back, because they need/want his income. If they can make the other woman the villain, then they can paint a portrait of a happy marriage between themselves and a lovable, yet gullible, husband, who just temporarily fell for the charms of a temptress.

And they can't imagine that another woman might look at their husband as a person, or as a lover, since they themselves don't see him that way, and haven't for years (if they ever did). They immediately assume that the "other woman" is just trying to steal their meal ticket, because that is what they truly see him as. Someone to provide them with a certain standard of living, to play the role of "daddy" as defined by them and them only, to gas up the cars, keep the oil changed, mow the grass, etc. etc. But someone to share their innermost thoughts and feelings with? That's what they have their women-friends for! And of course, they are almost all a herd of fat pigs.

I agreed with all your post except the last part... Don't get where that came from??

[Unfair]

well well wrote:

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I agreed with all your post except the last part... Don't get where that came from??

It just seems to be true. Most women who treat their men like nothing but an income, handyman & babysitter usually also only surround themselves with other "friends" who are fatter & uglier than they are to boost their low self esteem. Because this helps validate to them that they are better than others & everyone should be lucky to have them around. Look around & pay close attention to certain women & u'll see the pattern.

[Just saying]

Women who value their physical attractiveness in their husband's eyes, and who value their sexual relationship with him, don't let themselves go physically. And those that do tend to band together and tell each other that it is okay that they've done so. They tell themselves that women who take care of their appearance are selfish and vain. They tell themselves that they are too busy sacrificing themselves for their children (or whomever) that they can't possibly eat right or exercise. And they tend to run in groups.

[ashley]

well i think that husbands and wifes cheat in their marriage because the person is unattractive to their spouse. 50% of spouses have affairs then when their spouse sleeps with another Yes the other woman is to blame to, just remember wifes sometimes these ladies are lied to and decieved as well. i pray that people realize the damage done by cheating. cuz the kids suffer most. if your married get counseling, if you can't trust ur spouse end it now.

[Just saying]

I've never figured out how taking good care of your children prevents you from snacking on junk food, or how it requires that you drink lots of soft drinks or sweet tea, and that you and your friends have lots of potlucks and eat lots of desserts. And they place no value on setting a good example for their children in terms of exercise.

In other words, they do exactly what they want to do, and call it sacrificing for others.

[professionalcoun selor]

Counselor wrote:

Marriage doesn't work. 52% of marriages fail. People grow apart, some grow ugly and some get better with age. We are only loyal to our best option. Marriages that actually work are because neither had a better option.

Maybe you need to go back to school. Marriages that work out do so because both parties are willing to do the work.
Likewise, both individuals Look at the whole picture and not short-term gratification.

[Just saying]

professionalcounselor wrote:

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Maybe you need to go back to school. Marriages that work out do so because both parties are willing to do the work.
Likewise, both individuals Look at the whole picture and not short-term gratification.

But surely you would agree that there is a difference between abandoning a temporarily out-of-sorts marriage for "short-term gratification," and abandoning a relationship that has been disfunctional for years, if not from the beginning, in favor of a relationship where one feels appreciated, heard, respected, and loved both emotionally and physically.

[ashley]

My parents were going to get a divorce when I was a child, but my dad treated my mom like crap and had a affair with one woman for a year. My mom decided to get even with my dad by sleeping around. My advice is from the childs point of view. Because of my parents chooses it affected mine. My parents stayed together and they're fighting never stopped. I got married at 22, my husband cheated on me. I did right by my kid and got out before he damaged our child. He now sleeps with several woman and doesn't pay child support like he's suppose to. Like i said if you can make it work then try but if he won't change get out.

[Unfair]

Just saying wrote:

Women who value their physical attractiveness in their husband's eyes, and who value their sexual relationship with him, don't let themselves go physically. And those that do tend to band together and tell each other that it is okay that they've done so. They tell themselves that women who take care of their appearance are selfish and vain. They tell themselves that they are too busy sacrificing themselves for their children (or whomever) that they can't possibly eat right or exercise. And they tend to run in groups.

Agree

[Counselor]

Of the 48% of marriages that are still together, at least 60% aren't working. If you want to talk about happy marriages, we're literally talking about 10% of people who get married. It's a failed institution and against human nature. You can't argue with the numbers. You can only sit in delusion and hope you're one of the 10% instead of the 90%.

It only ever worked at a time when women were considered property and a marriage was considered an exchange of property between families to strengthen social ties.

[professionalcoun selor]

Counselor wrote:

Of the 48% of marriages that are still together, at least 60% aren't working. If you want to talk about happy marriages, we're literally talking about 10% of people who get married. It's a failed institution and against human nature. You can't argue with the numbers. You can only sit in delusion and hope you're one of the 10% instead of the 90%.

It only ever worked at a time when women were considered property and a marriage was considered an exchange of property between families to strengthen social ties.

The main reason that marriages fail is that people put more research into buying a new car than finding a compatible partner. Additionally, people marry before they are truly "grown up". A lot of people fail to ever get to know there true self; therefore, never really know their partners. Another reason that marriages don't is because once things go wrong people start to bail.

[Anonymous]

Your spouse wouldnt be out cheatin if you were keepin them happy.

Hmmmm wrote:

I'm in this situation and no matter what I blame them both! One couldn't do it without the other so their both at blame. Little does this cheater and homewrecker know Karma is a bitch and she will get them. Don't blame one without the other their both to blame.

[married]

professionalcounselor wrote:

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The main reason that marriages fail is that people put more research into buying a new car than finding a compatible partner. Additionally, people marry before they are truly "grown up". A lot of people fail to ever get to know there true self; therefore, never really know their partners. Another reason that marriages don't is because once things go wrong people start to bail.

I agree with this a LOT more than the other "counselor". Marriage is not an institution destined for failure. People just don't often enough respect the institution and therefore rush into/out of it and/or cheat. I've been with my husband 10 years now and we talk A LOT about marriage, cheating, loyalty and trust. There's always something a marriage should be working on, but as long as BOTH parties try and want it, it can be a successful lifelong happy marriage.

[professionalcoun selor]

I want to recommend any of Dr John Gottman's books on marriage and relationships.

[?]

Why cheat? Have a threesome! All parties have fun!

[Chrissy__]

[QUOTE who="Brittany D. "]I just like giving married guys head, love it when they tell me they wish they're wife was as good as me :)[/QUOTE]I just love how there are more trashy wh*res like you on this site than people with common sense! You are pathetic!

[Liberal Wisenheimer]

lulu wrote:

Regardless if you are married you shouldn't be having thoughts of even wanting another, that is where it begins! So if your husband,wife, gf or bf or thinking outside of the relationship, then you are a fool for even wanting someone like that!

You're a fool for thinking you can control the minds of others.

[Liberal Wisenheimer]

Counselor wrote:

Of the 48% of marriages that are still together, at least 60% aren't working. If you want to talk about happy marriages, we're literally talking about 10% of people who get married. It's a failed institution and against human nature. You can't argue with the numbers. You can only sit in delusion and hope you're one of the 10% instead of the 90%.
It only ever worked at a time when women were considered property and a marriage was considered an exchange of property between families to strengthen social ties.

Exactly.

[Liberal Wisenheimer]

Just saying wrote:

And of course, they are almost all a herd of fat pigs.

Sad, but true.