men who abuse women
lady

Chicago, IL

#1 Jun 20, 2013
I wish she would just leave him already!! She's pregnant with his child and he continues to beat on her... Their fighting right now and and I can't get to her in time to help her... She has an angel neighbor however who is doing all she can to help... I'd love to show him what little girls are made of " gun powder and lead"
ridiculous

Owensboro, KY

#2 Jun 20, 2013
Why haven't you reported this? Who is the woman?
lady

Chicago, IL

#3 Jun 20, 2013
ridiculous wrote:
Why haven't you reported this? Who is the woman?
I have but every time the cops get to her she says nothing Is wrong. She protects him... This woman is a family member if mine
Sadie Saxton

Owensboro, KY

#4 Jun 20, 2013
Must be talking about Jansen Casebier.
ridiculous

Owensboro, KY

#5 Jun 20, 2013
You need to show up with the police. Abused women often feel hopeless. You being by her side may give her the courage she needs. Please help her.
ridiculous

Owensboro, KY

#6 Jun 20, 2013
If anyone truly knows these people and these allegations are true, you all are just as guilty.
lady

Chicago, IL

#7 Jun 20, 2013
ridiculous wrote:
You need to show up with the police. Abused women often feel hopeless. You being by her side may give her the courage she needs. Please help her.
I have showed up with the police... She got mad at me.. She cut ties with her mother fir showing up with the cops... This is so hard. I'm afraid she's going to lose the baby and possibly her own life... And believe me when I tell you I'm trying my best to get her away from him. She will be safe with me...
Its hard

United States

#8 Jun 20, 2013
Alot of ppl dont understand,bt its really for a woman to leave.she wont leave or stand up for herself until she is totally ready to.only she can charge it no matter how hard or how much anybody tells her.i was with my kids dad for almost 18 years taking the abuse b4 i finally left for good..all u can do is continue being there for her and being her friend.she has to see for herself that she is worth so much more and deserves a more loving and happy life than what she is living now.nobody knows how hard it is until they live that where u have so much love for that person bt scared @ the same to leave them cause they hope&pray everyday they change ir says it will get better.
been there

United States

#9 Jun 21, 2013
We are pros at lying to ourselves. We tell ourselves that it isn't really him who is abusing us. He isn't really like that. That's not who he really is. That there is so much good inside him, he just has some problems, but this time he will really change. We don't want to give up on him. To be one more person who walks out on him. To abandon him when he did say he was sorry, and he really meant it this time. And if we can just stop doing things that set him off, everything will be fine. We have to learn every single trigger, everything that annoys him. Keep a running list in our heads. And we walk on eggshells. And when the eggshells begin to crack, we try harder. And harder. And by now, who would want us? We are afraid to be alone. Alone seems lonely. How will we support ourselves? We can't do anything right, how would we keep a job? How would we figure out how to pay the bills, take care of the kids, all that stuff that we couldn't do without him, because we are stupid. We don't have any common sense. We are unattractive. We are so lucky that he puts up with us, because nobody will ever love us like he does. We don't comprehend things. Nothing we say makes any sense. And he only screams at us, hits us, keeps us from our friends and families because he is trying to help make us better. We deserve to be hit, because we are stupid. We deserve it because the house is never clean enough. Because we moved some of his stuff. Because we don't make dinner right. Because the dog pooped on the floor. Because he had a bad day at work and we didn't say exactly the right thing when he came home. We should know by now what to say. What to do. We should be able to predict what he will want us to do and say and fix for dinner.
And our friends and family just don't understand. He's not like they think he is, and they don't know the whole story. They don't know how much hurt he has inside. And the stories we hear from abused women, well they might be a little like what we deal with, but it isn't the same. Things are different for us.
And then one day we wake up. And realize that he has been lying and we have been lying to ourselves. We aren't stupid. We aren't unattractive. We have been holding things together with no help from him for years, plus dealing with him. It would be so much easier to be without him. Alone isn't lonely. It's peaceful. And we aren't undesirable. When we reach that point, sometimes we can leave. Or we stay, and continue to be abused or we die. But a friend can make all the difference. When they talk bad about our man, we get defensive. But if they let us talk instead of trying to convince us to do what they know we should do, we eventually come to realize the truth. Tell your friend or family member who is being abused what you think. Once. And then just keep reassuring them that whenever they need you, you'll be there. Any time. Any place. If and when they decide they have had enough, you'll be there. Knowing that there is someone who wants to help can make all the difference. I hope my story helps you understand a little about what goes on inside an abused woman's head, and I hope that your family member wakes up before it's too late. You are doing the right thing by trying to help her.*hugs*
experience talking

Owensboro, KY

#10 Jun 21, 2013
Since she is having a child with him it will be even more difficult for her to get him out of her life. Sadly the courts refuse to recognize the very real danger for the child and allow unsupervised visits. When this happens she will be terrorized all over again worrying about her child, and trust me, he will use that to his advantage. She needs to leave, she knows this as much as everyone else knows, but leaving isn't that simple. EPO/DVO are worthless and when violated they are only set free hours later. Having them arrested only makes them more angry and can often lead to a escalated intensity of violence. Sadly your friend is in a real living Hell.

You're going to think this suggestion is nuts, but hear me out. Have as many friends and family as possible confront him all together. Make sure she is NO WHERE in sight. Everyone needs to surround him and let him know they are aware of what's going on. Don't be overly aggressive, but do be firm. Show him you are not afraid of him and let him know you all will be checking no her every day, and follow through. Put the fear back on him and eventually he will leave. In doing this you will also help give her the courage she needs to survive.

I wish your friend the best, I sincerely do. She's lucky to have you looking out for her.
her real man

Owensboro, KY

#11 Jun 21, 2013
Brandon Henson Is a woman abusing dope cooking junkie
that f'n guy

Chicago, IL

#12 Jun 21, 2013
Women deserve equal rights..and lefts
longd

United States

#13 Jun 21, 2013
I abuse women and they like it always coming back for more

Level 2

Since: May 13

Location hidden

#14 Jun 21, 2013
Reggie Wilson...king of Domestic Violence.

Since: Jun 13

Location hidden

#15 Jun 21, 2013
Remember abuse is more than physical violence. The emotional and mental abuse you suffer lasts MUCH longer. No one is worth that hurt, but women tend to stay because we all want to be "the one" who saved him. Truth is, no one can be saved unless they want and if they are abusing you in ANY way, not only do they not want your help and loyalty, they don't deserve it.
lady

Chicago, IL

#17 Jun 21, 2013
experience talking wrote:
Since she is having a child with him it will be even more difficult for her to get him out of her life. Sadly the courts refuse to recognize the very real danger for the child and allow unsupervised visits. When this happens she will be terrorized all over again worrying about her child, and trust me, he will use that to his advantage. She needs to leave, she knows this as much as everyone else knows, but leaving isn't that simple. EPO/DVO are worthless and when violated they are only set free hours later. Having them arrested only makes them more angry and can often lead to a escalated intensity of violence. Sadly your friend is in a real living Hell.

You're going to think this suggestion is nuts, but hear me out. Have as many friends and family as possible confront him all together. Make sure she is NO WHERE in sight. Everyone needs to surround him and let him know they are aware of what's going on. Don't be overly aggressive, but do be firm. Show him you are not afraid of him and let him know you all will be checking no her every day, and follow through. Put the fear back on him and eventually he will leave. In doing this you will also help give her the courage she needs to survive.

I wish your friend the best, I sincerely do. She's lucky to have you looking out for her.
Thank you
Micheal

Chicago, IL

#18 Jun 21, 2013
My girl hit me once

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