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Need Opinion

Owensboro, KY

#1 Nov 27, 2013
My boyfriend is very cheap if I ask for anything it's always am excuse why I can't have it or why he won't buy it. It makes me feel totally unappreciated!! What do I do? Any other Guy I've ever dated have me everything I ever wanted. Even if I didn't ask they would surprise me. I miss that...Am I wrong ?
Imagine-that

United States

#2 Nov 27, 2013
Quit being greedy.
loli

Owensboro, KY

#4 Nov 27, 2013
Need Opinion wrote:
My boyfriend is very cheap if I ask for anything it's always am excuse why I can't have it or why he won't buy it. It makes me feel totally unappreciated!! What do I do? Any other Guy I've ever dated have me everything I ever wanted. Even if I didn't ask they would surprise me. I miss that...Am I wrong ?
things arnt everything! You know just be happy you have a boyfriend! Be happy with a simple hug

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Since: Aug 11

Owensboro, KY

#5 Nov 27, 2013
Need Opinion wrote:
My boyfriend is very cheap if I ask for anything it's always am excuse why I can't have it or why he won't buy it. It makes me feel totally unappreciated!! What do I do? Any other Guy I've ever dated have me everything I ever wanted. Even if I didn't ask they would surprise me. I miss that...Am I wrong ?
You're not wrong, you seem materialistic. Apparently you feel one values one's feelings about you based upon monetary investment in you.
Perhaps your boyfriend sees what you think you need as unnecessary. Can you give an example of what items you've had turned down that you seem to feel is indicative of your boyfriend's disdain towards you?
SuzyPrincess

Owensboro, KY

#7 Nov 27, 2013
I used to have a man that wouldn't buy me anything but always bought himself everything he wanted. I asked for a car and he said no, but he'd have new Jordan's every time they came out. I asked for a diamond ring and he said he couldn't afford it. I asked him to pay for my rent but he refused. He was from a rich family and could afford it. He wouldn't buy me a house either. When I asked for a new Coach purse he said no. My mom told me what to do and I did and now I get everything I want. I poked holes in his condoms and had his baby and now his family gives me all the money that used to go to him. Now I sit around all day and just buy stuff online and make him pay child support which I use to pay to get my hair and nails done.
Answer is

United States

#8 Nov 27, 2013
Need Opinion wrote:
My boyfriend is very cheap if I ask for anything it's always am excuse why I can't have it or why he won't buy it. It makes me feel totally unappreciated!! What do I do? Any other Guy I've ever dated have me everything I ever wanted. Even if I didn't ask they would surprise me. I miss that...Am I wrong ?
quit depending on someone to do for you and grow up and do for yourself. Sound like a greedy little kid.
Gold digger

Hopkinsville, KY

#9 Nov 27, 2013
Get a job. Maybe he's thrifty. A gift is not the way you should measure you feelings. If you value yourself by what a man buys you then you will struggle with self worth. Does he remember your birthday and other holidays? If its a no he is a jerk. But if he does and you like him cut him some slack.
yolanda

Owensboro, KY

#10 Nov 27, 2013
find you a new man
Shanty mean

Owensboro, KY

#11 Dec 3, 2013
Nothing wrong with wanting things from time to time girl. And idk your situation but a good man will spoil his women if he really cares for ya. If he don't move on!!! People will assume your greedy broke or materialistic but what bitch isn't to some degree I mean really though. If he's both handling the business best believe another man will!! Do you girl!!!
Shanty mean

Owensboro, KY

#12 Dec 3, 2013
yolanda wrote:
find you a new man
Don't give up! Give it time !
Comment

Owensboro, KY

#13 Dec 3, 2013
Need Opinion wrote:
My boyfriend is very cheap if I ask for anything it's always am excuse why I can't have it or why he won't buy it. It makes me feel totally unappreciated!! What do I do? Any other Guy I've ever dated have me everything I ever wanted. Even if I didn't ask they would surprise me. I miss that...Am I wrong ?
Not at all... Does he work? How long you two been together?can I ask

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Since: Aug 11

Owensboro, KY

#14 Dec 4, 2013
Shanty mean wrote:
Nothing wrong with wanting things from time to time girl. And idk your situation but a good man will spoil his women if he really cares for ya. If he don't move on!!! People will assume your greedy broke or materialistic but what bitch isn't to some degree I mean really though. If he's both handling the business best believe another man will!! Do you girl!!!
So, by what you've said, you're telling "bitches" that if their man doesn't spoil them with material objects to find one that does? Don't women complain about themselves being objectified? Then they, seem to, turn around and demand objects, essentially, in return for their company and/or loyalty? So a man has to pay for the company and, therein implied, sexual intercourse? Isn't that prostitution?
If the relationship itself is not enough that you have to be given bribes to stay in the relationship, maybe it's not your counterpart that is the problem, maybe it is the way you approach a relationship. And yes, that is materialistic. There may be something else in the relationship that is missing from either side that, no matter how much you wish, will not be filled by jewelry, ridiculous shoes/purses/etc., cell phone minutes or whatever the hell one demands of the other.
And I'm still really anxious to hear examples of what these things are that cannot be lived without and must be furnished by one's significant other...
ScrewHim

Owensboro, KY

#16 Dec 4, 2013
If he ain't gonna pay then he can jack it instead of getting the goods. He can go date some penniless tramp. I need things and if my man ain't gonna buy them then he ain't gonna be my man for very long. It ain't cheap being this hot.
A Mom

United States

#17 Dec 5, 2013
Need Opinion wrote:
My boyfriend is very cheap if I ask for anything it's always am excuse why I can't have it or why he won't buy it. It makes me feel totally unappreciated!! What do I do? Any other Guy I've ever dated have me everything I ever wanted. Even if I didn't ask they would surprise me. I miss that...Am I wrong ?
Why are you asking your boyfriend for things? That's just not cool. Gifts should be given because he wants to give them to you. It's very bad manners to ask for gifts. You really shouldn't do that. I mean if you're out together and you really need something like some water or a snack or something, it might be ok to ask if you really need it, but other than that, you should never ask for anything. It probably makes him not want to buy things for you.
leo

Hopkinsville, KY

#18 Dec 5, 2013
I wouldnt buy her a thing. Any woman who puts a price on there goods is nothing but a prostitute. If you judge a man by what he buys you then you werent raised right. I like a woman who can hold there own, has confidence in herself and is won over not by diamonds but by devotion and affection. The gifts are just an added bonus. Any woman who has this attitude needs to get with some rich oldman.

“Don't read what's to the right”

Level 8

Since: Aug 11

Owensboro, KY

#19 Dec 5, 2013
ScrewHim wrote:
If he ain't gonna pay then he can jack it instead of getting the goods. He can go date some penniless tramp. I need things and if my man ain't gonna buy them then he ain't gonna be my man for very long. It ain't cheap being this hot.
I just got out of a 5 year relationship and am now "on the market". If you and some of the other girls on this thread are any litmus test to how women are around here I feel very disheartened.
Lisa

Owensboro, KY

#20 Dec 5, 2013
ScrewHim wrote:
If he ain't gonna pay then he can jack it instead of getting the goods. He can go date some penniless tramp. I need things and if my man ain't gonna buy them then he ain't gonna be my man for very long. It ain't cheap being this hot.
I feel that!! If you've been in a relationship for nearly a year or over he should buy whatever you ask for. And anyone can say otherwise. Y'all probably don't get Shit or deserve it!! My ass does forsure.. I'm a stay at home Mom I take care of this house and feed this man. Best believe if I want it's he will get it!!!
Leo

Hopkinsville, KY

#21 Dec 5, 2013
Lisa wrote:
<quoted text> I feel that!! If you've been in a relationship for nearly a year or over he should buy whatever you ask for. And anyone can say otherwise. Y'all probably don't get Shit or deserve it!! My ass does forsure.. I'm a stay at home Mom I take care of this house and feed this man. Best believe if I want it's he will get it!!!
You take care of the house and feed him. Thats not hard. Staying at home all day and doing a little housework is nothing compared to women who work fulltime jobs and still come home and do the cooking and cleaning.

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Level 8

Since: Aug 11

Owensboro, KY

#22 Dec 7, 2013
Lisa wrote:
<quoted text> I feel that!! If you've been in a relationship for nearly a year or over he should buy whatever you ask for. And anyone can say otherwise. Y'all probably don't get Shit or deserve it!! My ass does forsure.. I'm a stay at home Mom I take care of this house and feed this man. Best believe if I want it's he will get it!!!
Forgive me if I seem crass, but do you really think that is a strong point?
You stay at home. You clean. You cook. That's all well and good... but what does your husband do? What is it that he does, presumably most days for most of the day? Does he bust his ass working so that you can have a house to clean? So that you may have food to cook?
Ask yourself something- if it weren't for the ~half of his shit and his money that a court would have to give you in the event of a divorce, do you think you could make it on your own? I'm not trying to demean your or anything, but if he didn't have you I'm sure he'd be just fine.
You should consider yourself lucky, in my opinion. Don't tell some 'girl' that her boyfriend needs to buy her all sorts of crap just because you get what you want. You're lucky you get what you want, and you made a commitment to your husband via the institution of marriage; this is this girl's _boyfriend_, she's made no such commitment.
And like I said, I'm not trying to belittle your role nor existence, but you are just lucky to be in such a, in this day and age, rare situation.

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Since: Jul 11

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#23 Dec 7, 2013
The women on this thread seem very shallow and uneducated. Men are looking for more than that at least the smart ones are. Your looks will fade, you're ability to hold up your end of a conversation shouldn't. Take a class, read a book for god's sake.

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