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nagzmundo55

Owensboro, KY

#1 Mar 20, 2013
My girlfriend is constantly accussing me of cheating ..always I take our daughter today care and am 5 minutes overdue cheating I I go anywhere and I'm GPS 'd I'm called at work and followed to school I cannot run any errands without her we do everything together grocery shopping cigarette runs Everything.Now to be completely honest with you all I have cheated on her in the past and I realize I have to earn some trust but at what point does this get ridiculous .When I say that it is killing our relationship that is so point on true .We argue Cruz I am trying so hard to prove myself and my intentions .people can change and I take full responsibility for the lies and hurt I've caused her but everyday I am bombarded with accusations I have no friends and I go nowhere but work without her we spend every minute together except when she goes to to work and even then she comes home checks my phone or Facebook or messages it is all she concentrates on and I'm at my wits end .What do I do.

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Since: Sep 12

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#2 Mar 20, 2013
Not meaning to sound like an ass but you brought it upon yourself the way it sounds to me. If the shoe was on the other foot think about what your reactions would be is the best advice I know to give you.
yourgf

Duluth, GA

#3 Mar 20, 2013
Maybe if you had a job, didn't lie and cheat, among other things...things would be different. Move out.
Junebug

Owensboro, KY

#4 Mar 20, 2013
If you care about her you will have to put up with it until she feels safe with you again. You betrayed her and now you have to prove to her that you will never hurt her again. If you are feeling isolated from your friends and/or family I suggest that you include her in these activities as well. You did the crime so now you have to do the time. You might try couples counseling whether it be with a therapist or pastor. Good luck.
nagzmundo55

Owensboro, KY

#5 Mar 20, 2013
Yeah I did bring a lot on myself and I'm trying everyday
friendofafriend

Duluth, GA

#6 Mar 20, 2013
Cheated twice
nagzmundo55

Owensboro, KY

#7 Mar 20, 2013
Thank you jubebug I've tried to reckoned counseling and it has been nixed
Junebug

Owensboro, KY

#8 Mar 20, 2013
I am surprised. It is usually the male in the relationship who refuses counseling. There are certain stages in the grief process (yes, one grieves when they are cheated on), one of them being anger so maybe right now maybe she is so angry that she can not see past it. If you care about her you will hang in there. You might try counseling for yourself. You might find out the reasons why you cheated. Sometimes cheating is just a symptom that there is something else wrong in the relationship. But it can make a shaky relationship turn REALLY BAD. Treat her the way you want to be treated.
nagzmundo55

Owensboro, KY

#9 Mar 20, 2013
To the comments by yourgf and friend of a friend u can be ugly its the same person u can bad mouth me and be ugly it doesn't change how I'm feeling .I've made mistakes and let my pride and ego get in the way I love you and am trying and have tries for the past year to show you .you comments are hurtful and petty I simply put my feelings out here so that I could get a different opinion and some sound advice .I have no friends or family to talk to about this and talking to you at times is difficult and we are both stubborn and full of pride .so continue to post ugly comments under false name but u and I know the truth.
Whipped

United States

#10 Mar 20, 2013
nagzmundo55 wrote:
My girlfriend is constantly accussing me of cheating ..always I take our daughter today care and am 5 minutes overdue cheating I I go anywhere and I'm GPS 'd I'm called at work and followed to school I cannot run any errands without her we do everything together grocery shopping cigarette runs Everything.Now to be completely honest with you all I have cheated on her in the past and I realize I have to earn some trust but at what point does this get ridiculous .When I say that it is killing our relationship that is so point on true .We argue Cruz I am trying so hard to prove myself and my intentions .people can change and I take full responsibility for the lies and hurt I've caused her but everyday I am bombarded with accusations I have no friends and I go nowhere but work without her we spend every minute together except when she goes to to work and even then she comes home checks my phone or Facebook or messages it is all she concentrates on and I'm at my wits end .What do I do.
I'm in a similar situation just not that bad. I cheated before we were married and over 10 years later she still doesn't trust me. All I do is work and spend time with her and it doesn't seem to be enough. All pleasure seems to have disappeared for me, but I Do yLove her so I'll take it. I earned it. All I can offer you is to keep trying to prove your love and devotion. Good Luck.

Since: Jul 12

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#11 Mar 20, 2013
How long ago did you cheat on her?

Unlike "yourgf" up there, I can read and I noticed you said you are followed to school and called at work and tracked through GPS. Call me crazy if you want but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship like this, as the one who cheated or the one who got cheated on. It's ridiculous to go to those lengths to make sure the person you're with isn't cheating on you and it's ridiculous to be stalked and checked up on to that extent. The fact that you've put up with this scrutiny proves you love her. I would think that should be enough. After a certain point, you either have to forgive and forget or you have to let go and move on.
yourgf

Duluth, GA

#12 Mar 20, 2013
Since you want to air dirty laundry, let's set the record straight. The first time, I tried to let it go, but yes, trust was an issue. Did I check your phone records, yes. Did I GPS your phone, yes. Did I ask and even accuse you, he!! yes. You told me you'd NEVER do it again. But then, you "felt bad" "your pride was hurt" b/c I was angry, asking questions, accusing. So what did you do? Cheated again. And not only cheated, but called the girl from OUR home, text her while I was working. Drove my car to go see her. D@mn straight I am angry, I check on you, I have major trust issues. Idk exactly what you expect honestly. And this is just a portion of what I could tell. Tell whatever you like, you and I know the truth, and I'd appreciate my business not be all over the internet, thank you. It's set straight, and I'm done.
nagzmundo55

Owensboro, KY

#13 Mar 20, 2013
To Junebug.I know the reasons I cheated and all though whatever they are it was still wrong and sloop hurtful and doesn't justify anything I can't understand why she can't see all the good I've brought to our relationship focusing day in and day out only on the negatives drains the life out of me ...us .I want this to work so badly Cruz at times she is truly amazing and she ha did so Mich for me and my state of mind and in love her but at what time do we try and work past the past and concentrate on our future?
yourgf

Duluth, GA

#14 Mar 20, 2013
Swimming With Sharks wrote:
How long ago did you cheat on her?
Unlike "yourgf" up there, I can read and I noticed you said you are followed to school and called at work and tracked through GPS. Call me crazy if you want but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship like this, as the one who cheated or the one who got cheated on. It's ridiculous to go to those lengths to make sure the person you're with isn't cheating on you and it's ridiculous to be stalked and checked up on to that extent. The fact that you've put up with this scrutiny proves you love her. I would think that should be enough. After a certain point, you either have to forgive and forget or you have to let go and move on.
15 months ago. And again a few months ago.
nagzmundo55

Owensboro, KY

#15 Mar 20, 2013
When we first met I was seeing u and another women and yes that was wrong you did except me back into your life under the premise that I would never do it again a year later of being accused of everything including the kitchen sink I did try and call that women we broke up and I slept with her you brought me back into your life again because of circumstances.....was I wrong hell yes but we bottle sat down and committed to a fresh start .we agreed that in order for me to cone home this that whatever would be done in order for us to work.you have not forgave me you have not tried to move on and you have continue to do the things that u agreed u would do that is what is frustrating because how akin to earn any trust if the past is all we focused on?
Junebug

Owensboro, KY

#16 Mar 20, 2013
Humble yourself and be strong. One of the things men crave most from women is respect. Just try and stay in the belief that you will eventually regain her respect and do not seek it from someone else. I would keep pushing the counseling.
yourgf

Duluth, GA

#17 Mar 20, 2013
nagzmundo55 wrote:
To the comments by yourgf and friend of a friend u can be ugly its the same person u can bad mouth me and be ugly it doesn't change how I'm feeling .I've made mistakes and let my pride and ego get in the way I love you and am trying and have tries for the past year to show you .you comments are hurtful and petty I simply put my feelings out here so that I could get a different opinion and some sound advice .I have no friends or family to talk to about this and talking to you at times is difficult and we are both stubborn and full of pride .so continue to post ugly comments under false name but u and I know the truth.
OK, obviously I stated in my post you cheated twice. If you "tried so hard in the past year" you wouldn't have cheated....again. Get all the opinions you like, not one single person on here can ever know the full truth, and I have only stated facts, in no way am I bad mouthing you. Nor am I posting under a "false name".
Junebug

Owensboro, KY

#18 Mar 20, 2013
In order to focus on the future (together) you must resolve the past in order for it to be the best future possible. Three months is still relatively fresh especially since it had happened before. I think the best thing you can do to improve your relationship is by improving yourself. We all want instant gratification and immediate forgiveness. It would make life so much better! Life is a journey full of loving and learning. It isn't easy and sometimes it downright sucks! Try putting more focus on areas in your life that are important to you or things you would like to do/learn (assuming these are healthy). If you are hyper-focused on this situation you may become depressed and sometimes when people become depressed and the cycle continues. Please try individual counseling. If she loves you she will come around and I think she does or she wouldn't have taken you back. There's still hope just maybe not immediate...
curious

United States

#19 Mar 21, 2013
Ok as a female from the outside looking in, take ur pride and move along. I can see why you cheated and I know neither of you. The gf sounds a little emotionally unstable and following and gpsing u sounds even worse. She's insecure and if u have apologized and tried to do better then its time move on!! If I were accused of something daily id do it too. Seriously she's never gonna get over how she feels. And if kids are involved they don't need to see the insecure crazy ways of their mother.

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Since: Sep 12

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#20 Mar 21, 2013
I can see where the both of you are coming from. As far as her being the crazy woman? I'm not so sure about that. Maybe she is really in love with you and this has caused so much hurt she has mixed emotions of love and hate. Meaning she loves you but hates your ways. I'm no counselor by any means but I have been in situations. I would suggest seeking out some type of counseling though. Whether it be individually or together as a couple. There is no way for anyone on here to ever know the full story. There is his version and her version then there is the full truth. Not saying either of you are lying either. Good luck to both of you though.

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