Thats right

Hopkinsville, KY

#22 Sep 3, 2013
ithinkilovehim wrote:
If yu confront her, be nice cuz ur guy is the one who should be in trouble. Be nice until she gets hateful of of course. But if your guy hasnt given yu a reason to not trust him, then believe him wen he says nuthin goin on.
Give her a chance to tell you her side of the story
Thats right

Hopkinsville, KY

#23 Sep 3, 2013
confused wrote:
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I really have no idea. and, unfortunately, we aren't on the same phone plan, so I can't see that information, but that would be an excellent way to check and not involve anyone else.
and I wonder that, too. if she really is psychotic, then why wouldn't he just tell me? why wouldn't he just change his phone number? block her on Facebook?
Tell him to pull it up. Let him know its bothering you and you just want peace of mind. I would go back as far as you can. If he doesnt want to pull it up then you know his not telling the whole truth. Tell him if his not going to pull it up you are just going to call her and ask her about it. Like the other person sais i would be nice unless she gets rude with you
Wonder

United States

#24 Sep 3, 2013
Janie wrote:
Leave well enough alone. It's really none of your business.
You really sound like one of those shit stirring home wrecking wh@res. All mouth and want to tell others what to do. Wonder if you're one of those GED short a$$ trouble makers
confused

Owensboro, KY

#25 Sep 3, 2013
Thats right wrote:
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Tell him to pull it up. Let him know its bothering you and you just want peace of mind. I would go back as far as you can. If he doesnt want to pull it up then you know his not telling the whole truth. Tell him if his not going to pull it up you are just going to call her and ask her about it. Like the other person sais i would be nice unless she gets rude with you
i'm trying to think of how to sound nice about it. that's part of the reason i haven't said anything. i don't know if "i know you're texting my husband, and i would appreciate it if you wouldn't" is rude or not.
Thats right

Hopkinsville, KY

#26 Sep 3, 2013
confused wrote:
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i'm trying to think of how to sound nice about it. that's part of the reason i haven't said anything. i don't know if "i know you're texting my husband, and i would appreciate it if you wouldn't" is rude or not.
I would start with hey it me -----'s wife and I don't wanna argue or anything. I just wanna know why you texting my husband. Then if she want to be a B*tch I'd let her have it. If she's cool about it tell her it bothers me that you are texting him could you please stop. And yet again if she gets rude then let her have it. But you may call and find out there is nothing to worry about. if she's just a friend it may not bother you anymore
Really

United States

#27 Sep 3, 2013
Coming from a male there is no right or wrong AWNSER he could be innocent but who knows just trust your gut feeling , then if you believe he's guilty just don't let him know then catch him red handed then do what you think is best there is no right or wrong AWNSer
Really

United States

#28 Sep 3, 2013
No it's not rude , ask her why ?
confused

Owensboro, KY

#29 Sep 3, 2013
Thats right wrote:
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I would start with hey it me -----'s wife and I don't wanna argue or anything. I just wanna know why you texting my husband. Then if she want to be a B*tch I'd let her have it. If she's cool about it tell her it bothers me that you are texting him could you please stop. And yet again if she gets rude then let her have it. But you may call and find out there is nothing to worry about. if she's just a friend it may not bother you anymore
thanks for your help. i don't think she's just a friend because he hasn't really talked about her in a friendly manner, and i've met most of his female friends.
confused

Owensboro, KY

#30 Sep 3, 2013
thanks everyone for the helpful responses. i appreciate it. i want to believe my husband, definitely. just some things didn't make sense. and i don't want to cause drama at all.
Thats right

Hopkinsville, KY

#31 Sep 3, 2013
confused wrote:
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thanks for your help. i don't think she's just a friend because he hasn't really talked about her in a friendly manner, and i've met most of his female friends.
No prob ..good luck.. Let us know how it goes
True

United States

#32 Sep 3, 2013
confused wrote:
thanks everyone for the helpful responses. i appreciate it. i want to believe my husband, definitely. just some things didn't make sense. and i don't want to cause drama at all.
Your not causing drama at all. Home wrecking wh@res causes this...ALWAYS!! Whether with the Ex wife, ex gf's, kids, their spouse, parents, extended family and friends. ALWAYS. You just hold your head high and put all this in god hands.
confused

Owensboro, KY

#33 Sep 3, 2013
i messaged her on facebook (i hate confrontations and i was nervous even doing that) and she's saying that it wasn't her and she has no idea what i'm talking about. so, don't know if that accomplished anything.
Call

Hopkinsville, KY

#34 Sep 3, 2013
Call the # and see who answers
A Mom

United States

#35 Sep 3, 2013
Honestly, your problem should be more with your husband for hiding it. She didn't make any promises or commitments to you, he did. Yes, I would probably confront her, because I wouldn't be able to leave it alone, especially if she knew he was married. But I would probably just tell her to stop texting him, not ask any questions or anything. I would be asking him plenty of questions though, and making it clear that it needs to stop immediately. If it was a mutual friend or something that would be different, but since he has been with her before, that's totally inappropriate and I would have a huge problem with it.
A Mom

United States

#36 Sep 3, 2013
confused wrote:
i messaged her on facebook (i hate confrontations and i was nervous even doing that) and she's saying that it wasn't her and she has no idea what i'm talking about. so, don't know if that accomplished anything.
I think that's your answer right there. Either she is lying and it was her and something is going on, or she is telling the truth and your husband is lying and something is going on, or she is lying and just trying to cause trouble between the two of you by making it look really bad, in which case it definitely needs to stop right now. In any case, there is a problem!
Ucould

United States

#37 Sep 3, 2013
confused wrote:
i messaged her on facebook (i hate confrontations and i was nervous even doing that) and she's saying that it wasn't her and she has no idea what i'm talking about. so, don't know if that accomplished anything.
Do a number search. It will tell you who's number it is.
confused

Owensboro, KY

#38 Sep 3, 2013
Ucould wrote:
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Do a number search. It will tell you who's number it is.
I don't have the number anymore :(
my point of view

United States

#40 Sep 3, 2013
confused wrote:
i messaged her on facebook (i hate confrontations and i was nervous even doing that) and she's saying that it wasn't her and she has no idea what i'm talking about. so, don't know if that accomplished anything.
Everyone's opinion is gonna differ on different things. I get that. Sometimes you'll agree. Sometimes u won't. My thoughts on it are this. U can love and hug and embrace a puppy and its an amazing feeling, for you both. But if you hold that puppy too tight, it's gonna squirm and eventually try to shake its way free. I'm married now. I've dated, just like the rest of you. In my experience, every relationship I've tried to control in any way or gave altimatums hasn't worked. The trust was lost. Little by little it crumbled. The best thing I ever did for myself was to allow nature to take its course, and trust the person I loved wholeheartedly. My wife can speak to who she wants, when she wants. She can go anywhere. All I have asked in return is that if she ever did decide she was unhappy with me, just to let me know...and I would go my seperate way. Of course if that ever happened, it wouldn't be easy. But that would be her following her heart. And in my view of the word LOVE, that's all I've ever wanted for her. To this point, things have not been better for me. I've never trusted her more and have no doubts whatsoever in our relationship. If something were to occur. It would suck. It would be heart wrenching. But I will not let it ruin me, my family, or my heart. IMO, which everyone's is different, I've been there before, it didn't kill me then, it sure as hell won't now. Ill move on to the next portion of my life God has in store for me. My wife knows how I feel completely. We have discussed it at length. And our bond has never been stronger. For some people, this may not be your cup of tea, and I get that. But for us, the trust we have in one another has been the greatest blessing we could ever ask for. Good things happen to good people. Good luck to you all in whichever path you choose.
How about

Hopkinsville, KY

#41 Sep 3, 2013
You text her using his phone and she how she talks to u when she thinks its him?
confused

Owensboro, KY

#42 Sep 3, 2013
my point of view wrote:
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Everyone's opinion is gonna differ on different things. I get that. Sometimes you'll agree. Sometimes u won't. My thoughts on it are this. U can love and hug and embrace a puppy and its an amazing feeling, for you both. But if you hold that puppy too tight, it's gonna squirm and eventually try to shake its way free. I'm married now. I've dated, just like the rest of you. In my experience, every relationship I've tried to control in any way or gave altimatums hasn't worked. The trust was lost. Little by little it crumbled. The best thing I ever did for myself was to allow nature to take its course, and trust the person I loved wholeheartedly. My wife can speak to who she wants, when she wants. She can go anywhere. All I have asked in return is that if she ever did decide she was unhappy with me, just to let me know...and I would go my seperate way. Of course if that ever happened, it wouldn't be easy. But that would be her following her heart. And in my view of the word LOVE, that's all I've ever wanted for her. To this point, things have not been better for me. I've never trusted her more and have no doubts whatsoever in our relationship. If something were to occur. It would suck. It would be heart wrenching. But I will not let it ruin me, my family, or my heart. IMO, which everyone's is different, I've been there before, it didn't kill me then, it sure as hell won't now. Ill move on to the next portion of my life God has in store for me. My wife knows how I feel completely. We have discussed it at length. And our bond has never been stronger. For some people, this may not be your cup of tea, and I get that. But for us, the trust we have in one another has been the greatest blessing we could ever ask for. Good things happen to good people. Good luck to you all in whichever path you choose.
i thought we had that type of relationship, too. i wasn't snooping to be snooping. it's the first time i've ever looked at his phone, and it was because something happened with one of my kids. i do trust him, but why would he not tell me that he was getting random messages? suggest to change his number if he didn't want those random messages to happen?

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