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Apr 1, 2013
 
I'm married but just as well be single. My wife never wants to have sex. She always has a reason as to why we can't do it. I use to have guilty thoughts about cheating. I still have thoughts about cheating but I no longer feel guilty about it. My wife is hot. I still have a strong physical attraction to her but her attraction to me must have faded. I often think about girls I could cheat with but haven't acted on it yet. I know it wouldn't be the right thing to do and the idea of my wife finding out doesn't scare me anymore. I guess the moment just hasn't been right. Should the moment arise I will most likely give in to temptation. If I continue to be unhappy I feel like it's my own fought for choosing to follow the same path I've been on. I'm not a man whore just looking to get some on the side. I just have wants and needs without any satisfaction. If I had a girl that could fulfill my sexual desires the time I spend with my wife could be more enjoyable. Maybe divorce would be the unselfish and right thing to do but I really love her. From a female's perspective, ladies, what should I do? I don't really need most guys input because I know how most of it will go.
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#2
Apr 1, 2013
 
She probably feels the same. Maybe you should talk to her about it.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
Yellow wrote:
She probably feels the same. Maybe you should talk to her about it.
We talk about it all the time and she agrees we should have more sex. She always promises we will start doing it more but she never actually will. In order for it to work she would have to want it more but she doesn't. She just feels like we should do it more based on the number of times we do it instead of her desire to do it.
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#4
Apr 1, 2013
 
Leave her. Life sucks to much to get stuck. I got myself in that position and it doesn't get better. All she wants is for you to work while she does whatever she wants. You are her paycheck.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
made a mistake wrote:
Leave her. Life sucks to much to get stuck. I got myself in that position and it doesn't get better. All she wants is for you to work while she does whatever she wants. You are her paycheck.
Actually she is college educated and has a professional career. Money is never really an issue with us. We are both successful with good paying jobs and no kids.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
That being said, I do feel stuck and it's not getting any better. And no end in sight.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
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That being said, I do feel stuck and it's not getting any better. And no end in sight.
It won't get any better. If your relationship is going bad get counseling now or get out. The longer it goes like that the less you will have to connect on and the more you will resent her. If you let it go without doing anything you will end up like me, stuck and suicidal.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
made a mistake wrote:
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It won't get any better. If your relationship is going bad get counseling now or get out. The longer it goes like that the less you will have to connect on and the more you will resent her. If you let it go without doing anything you will end up like me, stuck and suicidal.
How long have you been married?
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Apr 1, 2013
 
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<quoted text>How long have you been married?
11 years to the first and 9 to the second
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#10
Apr 1, 2013
 
15 for me. Which is a long time by todays standards
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Apr 1, 2013
 
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15 for me. Which is a long time by todays standards
As her to have a 3some.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
I read your post a few time and at time I could totally relate to the feels your are having. I myself have been married along time. Something that I did was one weekend when we were both off work. I got up early and packed her an over night bag, I packed mine the night before. When she woke up I climbed into bed told her we were going away for the day. She said were I said its a Suprise. All I told her was we have a flight to catch at 10. She jumped up got ready. We were on our way.0f course when we got to the terminal she new where we were going. New York city was amazing we ended up staying for 4 days. Just talking, having fun, making love, and getting connected. The element Of my Suprise and the take charge in my attitude really threw her. Sounds to me lIke you don't want to cheat on your wife. You just want to be wanted by her. Make her want you. Remind her with your sauve ways of what she is missing. My trip was two years ago and the fire I was able to relight in my romance is burning stronger than ever.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
Been there wrote:
I read your post a few time and at time I could totally relate to the feels your are having. I myself have been married along time. Something that I did was one weekend when we were both off work. I got up early and packed her an over night bag, I packed mine the night before. When she woke up I climbed into bed told her we were going away for the day. She said were I said its a Suprise. All I told her was we have a flight to catch at 10. She jumped up got ready. We were on our way.0f course when we got to the terminal she new where we were going. New York city was amazing we ended up staying for 4 days. Just talking, having fun, making love, and getting connected. The element Of my Suprise and the take charge in my attitude really threw her. Sounds to me lIke you don't want to cheat on your wife. You just want to be wanted by her. Make her want you. Remind her with your sauve ways of what she is missing. My trip was two years ago and the fire I was able to relight in my romance is burning stronger than ever.
That sounds like a great idea. Now I'll have to start planning a getaway. Even if it's just for a weekend. If I plan anything longer without her knowing she won't be able to re-schedule her work in time.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
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That sounds like a great idea. Now I'll have to start planning a getaway. Even if it's just for a weekend. If I plan anything longer without her knowing she won't be able to re-schedule her work in time.
make sure to be cool about It james bond style. One day is enough. It's the take charge romantic way that turns a woman on. Womenlike to be taken care of emotionally. Just remember like James bond. Also say you Suprise her and there is no way she can go. Remember you get the credit for the idea just go with it and give her a great time at home. Go get a massage, then a nice lunch, go with her to get her nails done, go to Spencer's and get some fun toys that you buy together. Go for a walk. Then whatever else. Just have fun be smooth and don't take anything personal.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
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That sounds like a great idea. Now I'll have to start planning a getaway. Even if it's just for a weekend. If I plan anything longer without her knowing she won't be able to re-schedule her work in time.
sounds like bullsh** to me, anytime your not getting laid at home its caus someone else is doing a better job on her than you at work or when ur not around
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Apr 1, 2013
 
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<quoted text>sounds like bullsh** to me, anytime your not getting laid at home its caus someone else is doing a better job on her than you at work or when ur not around
May be but I sure hope not. I could be wrong but I don't think she's cheating. I can account for most of her time.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
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May be but I sure hope not. I could be wrong but I don't think she's cheating. I can account for most of her time.
don't start thinking that way. It only mess's things up. Just remember give her attention from your heart and she will give you lovin. It always works we as people just want connection. People who give cheater advice are usually scorned lovers due to there own demise.
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Apr 1, 2013
 
Why no children? Just wondering
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Apr 1, 2013
 
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Why no children? Just wondering
Medical issues. Just wasn't in our deck of cards. And we never have been certain that we wanted to raise children. Never have taken precautions to avoid pregnancy and found out this year we can't.
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#20
Apr 1, 2013
 
:( sad. I say light a fire under her ass! If your certain that no kids isn't bothering her and she's not having an affair. Oh and if you don't mind, how old are you and her?

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