verbal/emotional abuse in relationship

verbal/emotional abuse in relationship

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unsure

Owensboro, KY

#1 Dec 28, 2012
Im dating this girl, and i love her very much, but i feel she takes advantage of me. If things dont go exactly how she decides, i get called names that she knows bother me, i get mentally torn down and my emotions all go toward depression. I dont know if i should stay or not... I love her so much but i cant sit through the constant put downs anymore. I know im a shitty boyfriend, my past proves it. But everything is worse than I've ever had it. Is it just payback for my past? Karma i guess? Any thoughts? Not that this part matters, but she cut off sex and seems like she gets it from someone else, but the only guys shes ever alone with are the ones who come here, and i don't know if shes cheat with me in the house. That's a bit low.

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#2 Dec 29, 2012
If she's gonna cheat it doesn't matter if its in your house or his or a friends or wherever. I'm not sure I would jump straight to the conclusion she is cheating but I would definately put a stop to her and another man being left "alone" to eliminate the possibility or temptation that she may have. If she can't respect that or gets defensive when you suggest that then chances are it is happening. Explain to her that you feel you're not allowed to have an opinion like you should and see where that goes. Give her examples of what is going through your mind and talk to her. It might help it might not but if you love her then its worth a try. Good luck. Most women can't even figure themselves out.
unsure

Owensboro, KY

#3 Dec 29, 2012
just_me_73 wrote:
If she's gonna cheat it doesn't matter if its in your house or his or a friends or wherever. I'm not sure I would jump straight to the conclusion she is cheating but I would definately put a stop to her and another man being left "alone" to eliminate the possibility or temptation that she may have. If she can't respect that or gets defensive when you suggest that then chances are it is happening. Explain to her that you feel you're not allowed to have an opinion like you should and see where that goes. Give her examples of what is going through your mind and talk to her. It might help it might not but if you love her then its worth a try. Good luck. Most women can't even figure themselves out.
I've tried all of that, it leads nowhere. I miss the times when we were happy for real.
brando24

United States

#4 Jan 1, 2013
unsure wrote:
Im dating this girl, and i love her very much, but i feel she takes advantage of me. If things dont go exactly how she decides, i get called names that she knows bother me, i get mentally torn down and my emotions all go toward depression. I dont know if i should stay or not... I love her so much but i cant sit through the constant put downs anymore. I know im a shitty boyfriend, my past proves it. But everything is worse than I've ever had it. Is it just payback for my past? Karma i guess? Any thoughts? Not that this part matters, but she cut off sex and seems like she gets it from someone else, but the only guys shes ever alone with are the ones who come here, and i don't know if shes cheat with me in the house. That's a bit low.
It's tough moving on but you will be happier for it. I've been there myself and they after a love period of being manipulated she has control of your mind. It sucks bro.
Blue

United States

#5 Jan 1, 2013
Marti J is an abusive btch she meats my meat every night dmn her
swxxxt

Ellwood City, PA

#6 Jan 2, 2013
youtube.com/watch...
Verbal abuse is a everyday event just got to roll with the punchs to get whats real
hmmm

Chicago, IL

#7 Jan 2, 2013
swxxxt wrote:
youtube.com/watch?v=AAEs_9Y-8a o
Verbal abuse is a everyday event just got to roll with the punchs to get whats real
I get called names to when he is mad! I've about had it
wondering

Madisonville, KY

#8 Jan 2, 2013
so sorry for your sadness,,but i gotta ask,,you said the only time your gf is with someone is there at your home..do you allow other people to come in your home with the two of you?..i guess im asking do you "party' with others?...if you are doing this,,maybe she feels like you dont really love her..we all make mistakes,,but if she sees how you weere in the past&your not changing maybe thats why she is hard on you,,maybe its not really that she is purposely trying to break you down,,maybe she is tryingf to fig out if you are going to repeat your old mistakes,,,women sometimes have trust issues and are insecure..they act out when something happens,,not purposely but because they are themselves scared of being hurt,,ya know,,,talk to eachother,,find out what the problem is,,,if you never talk and run from her &the isssue you will never make it,,hope this helps
unsure

Owensboro, KY

#9 Jan 2, 2013
wondering wrote:
so sorry for your sadness,,but i gotta ask,,you said the only time your gf is with someone is there at your home..do you allow other people to come in your home with the two of you?..i guess im asking do you "party' with others?...if you are doing this,,maybe she feels like you dont really love her..we all make mistakes,,but if she sees how you weere in the past&your not changing maybe thats why she is hard on you,,maybe its not really that she is purposely trying to break you down,,maybe she is tryingf to fig out if you are going to repeat your old mistakes,,,women sometimes have trust issues and are insecure..they act out when something happens,,not purposely but because they are themselves scared of being hurt,,ya know,,,talk to eachother,,find out what the problem is,,,if you never talk and run from her &the isssue you will never make it,,hope this helps
She invites guys and girls. When they get here, i usually have been tryin to cuddle and i still try. Then she will get up and go in her room with everyone except me and lock me out. I can hear her moans clear as day but i cant do shit about it....
TPP

United States

#10 Jan 2, 2013
unsure wrote:
Im dating this girl, and i love her very much, but i feel she takes advantage of me. If things dont go exactly how she decides, i get called names that she knows bother me, i get mentally torn down and my emotions all go toward depression. I dont know if i should stay or not... I love her so much but i cant sit through the constant put downs anymore. I know im a shitty boyfriend, my past proves it. But everything is worse than I've ever had it. Is it just payback for my past? Karma i guess? Any thoughts? Not that this part matters, but she cut off sex and seems like she gets it from someone else, but the only guys shes ever alone with are the ones who come here, and i don't know if shes cheat with me in the house. That's a bit low.
Get a back bone and dump her. You need to have more respect for yourself. Unless you want to live as her property that she doesn't have respect for.
TPP

United States

#11 Jan 2, 2013
unsure wrote:
<quoted text>She invites guys and girls. When they get here, i usually have been tryin to cuddle and i still try. Then she will get up and go in her room with everyone except me and lock me out. I can hear her moans clear as day but i cant do shit about it....
Why can't you do anything?
brando24

United States

#12 Jan 2, 2013
TPP wrote:
<quoted text>Get a back bone and dump her. You need to have more respect for yourself. Unless you want to live as her property that she doesn't have respect for.
'Nuff said!
satisfied

Owensboro, KY

#13 Jan 2, 2013
Get out before she puts you out. It's only a matter of time, not trying to be cold about it.
brando24

United States

#14 Jan 2, 2013
satisfied wrote:
Get out before she puts you out. It's only a matter of time, not trying to be cold about it.
That's what happened to me. Toughest thing I've ever endured.
unsure

Owensboro, KY

#15 Jan 2, 2013
I leave now im homeless. I need a girl who respects me tho. Shit, I'd go for a girl in her early 20s right now if she would respect me, and I've only ever dated girls younger than me.
AllueverNeeded

Princeton, KY

#16 Jan 2, 2013
A. Love yourself first (the more you love yourself, the less bull$h!t u will put up with)

B. Love never involves control, physical violence, Sexual abuse, jealousy, being held emotional hostage, or verbal put downs.

C. If he or she makes you feel like shit, it's time to let them go.

D. The good one's r worth waiting 4.

E. If you don't really love yourself, you will always be settling for less.
unsure

Owensboro, KY

#17 Jan 2, 2013
I never loved myself. It's very slim of a chance that i ever will.
winter

Owensboro, KY

#18 Jan 3, 2013
Do ya'll have any kids?
awesome

Hopkinsville, KY

#19 Jan 3, 2013
unsure wrote:
Im dating this girl, and i love her very much, but i feel she takes advantage of me. If things dont go exactly how she decides, i get called names that she knows bother me, i get mentally torn down and my emotions all go toward depression. I dont know if i should stay or not... I love her so much but i cant sit through the constant put downs anymore. I know im a shitty boyfriend, my past proves it. But everything is worse than I've ever had it. Is it just payback for my past? Karma i guess? Any thoughts? Not that this part matters, but she cut off sex and seems like she gets it from someone else, but the only guys shes ever alone with are the ones who come here, and i don't know if shes cheat with me in the house. That's a bit low.
Your gone unless you show her you really changed from your past!!
unsure

Owensboro, KY

#20 Jan 3, 2013
No. I just need to find a 20-22 year old woman with respect who i like

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