why does my husband try to get with other girls?

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hurt

Duluth, GA

#1 Nov 24, 2012
Recently I looked at my husband's phone and found conversations with 2 different girls. They were really flirty and he was telling them both that I'm a cheater and he catches me with guys all the time, which isn't true, and that he's just looking for a good girl. Our relationship isn't perfect of course but I thought things were pretty good, and we have an awesome sex life. When I asked him about it he was sorry and says he wants to be with me and he was just drunk and made a stupid mistake. What's up with this?
Anonymous

Duluth, GA

#2 Nov 24, 2012
hurt wrote:
Recently I looked at my husband's phone and found conversations with 2 different girls. They were really flirty and he was telling them both that I'm a cheater and he catches me with guys all the time, which isn't true, and that he's just looking for a good girl. Our relationship isn't perfect of course but I thought things were pretty good, and we have an awesome sex life. When I asked him about it he was sorry and says he wants to be with me and he was just drunk and made a stupid mistake. What's up with this?
Once a cheater always a Cheater. And there has to be something wrong in his eyes for him to do that. U think its good but does he? Communication is the best key to a good marriage and relationship. I'm sorry this is happened to u. Hope things get better.
Been There

Dixon, CA

#3 Nov 24, 2012
hurt wrote:
Recently I looked at my husband's phone and found conversations with 2 different girls. They were really flirty and he was telling them both that I'm a cheater and he catches me with guys all the time, which isn't true, and that he's just looking for a good girl. Our relationship isn't perfect of course but I thought things were pretty good, and we have an awesome sex life. When I asked him about it he was sorry and says he wants to be with me and he was just drunk and made a stupid mistake. What's up with this?
Girl, as much as you want to believe him, don't! He'll end up breaking your heart. If he's already doing and saying that stuff it's only a matter of time before he starts physically cheating!
Well

Clifty, KY

#4 Nov 24, 2012
Really I think y'all are both just insecure. That's why you looked through his phone and that's why he sent the text messages. Maybe y'all should consider marriage counseling to get through this struggle
oh no

Owensboro, KY

#5 Nov 24, 2012
hurt wrote:
Recently I looked at my husband's phone and found conversations with 2 different girls. They were really flirty and he was telling them both that I'm a cheater and he catches me with guys all the time, which isn't true, and that he's just looking for a good girl. Our relationship isn't perfect of course but I thought things were pretty good, and we have an awesome sex life. When I asked him about it he was sorry and says he wants to be with me and he was just drunk and made a stupid mistake. What's up with this?
I've dealt with something similar to that.
hurt

Duluth, GA

#6 Nov 24, 2012
oh no wrote:
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I've dealt with something similar to that.
What did u decide to do about it and how did u start to trust him again?
hurting too

Mayfield, KY

#7 Nov 24, 2012
You can't start trusting again until they stop
hurting too

Mayfield, KY

#8 Nov 24, 2012
They need to make the choice that you are worth it to them to do what they need to keep you. Until that happens there is not much you can do.
grace

Owensboro, KY

#9 Nov 24, 2012
hurt wrote:
Recently I looked at my husband's phone and found conversations with 2 different girls. They were really flirty and he was telling them both that I'm a cheater and he catches me with guys all the time, which isn't true, and that he's just looking for a good girl. Our relationship isn't perfect of course but I thought things were pretty good, and we have an awesome sex life. When I asked him about it he was sorry and says he wants to be with me and he was just drunk and made a stupid mistake. What's up with this?
He just needs that rush you get when someone else may want you...
hmmm

Owensboro, KY

#10 Nov 24, 2012
hurt wrote:
Recently I looked at my husband's phone and found conversations with 2 different girls. They were really flirty and he was telling them both that I'm a cheater and he catches me with guys all the time, which isn't true, and that he's just looking for a good girl. Our relationship isn't perfect of course but I thought things were pretty good, and we have an awesome sex life. When I asked him about it he was sorry and says he wants to be with me and he was just drunk and made a stupid mistake. What's up with this?
well screw him email me at jc198842@yahoo.com ill do u better then he can

“Sexy is as Sexy does”

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#11 Nov 24, 2012
grace wrote:
<quoted text>He just needs that rush you get when someone else may want you...
that's some BS. If he loved her he wouldn't be doing that!
lawd

Lexington, KY

#12 Nov 24, 2012
Get rid of him. Being intoxicated is not an excuse. He is going to continue to chat with these women, but he will be a lot more secretive about it (he'll probably either a. delete the conversations afterward b. get a new phone and flirt that way or c. send his email address to them and flirt via email). Do not stay with this person; he is only going to hurt you in the end and he is not worth it.
truth

Princeton, KY

#13 Nov 24, 2012
hurt wrote:
Recently I looked at my husband's phone and found conversations with 2 different girls. They were really flirty and he was telling them both that I'm a cheater and he catches me with guys all the time, which isn't true, and that he's just looking for a good girl. Our relationship isn't perfect of course but I thought things were pretty good, and we have an awesome sex life. When I asked him about it he was sorry and says he wants to be with me and he was just drunk and made a stupid mistake. What's up with this?
Sorry, but he doesn't care about anybody but himself not even you. Get out or stay miserable. If you stay, I would never have sex with him again without a condom.
Anonymous

Duluth, GA

#15 Nov 24, 2012
SexxxxyBish75 wrote:
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that's some BS. If he loved her he wouldn't be doing that!
That is very true!
Anonymous

Duluth, GA

#16 Nov 24, 2012
lawd wrote:
Get rid of him. Being intoxicated is not an excuse. He is going to continue to chat with these women, but he will be a lot more secretive about it (he'll probably either a. delete the conversations afterward b. get a new phone and flirt that way or c. send his email address to them and flirt via email). Do not stay with this person; he is only going to hurt you in the end and he is not worth it.
Agreed
told ya so

Owensboro, KY

#17 Nov 24, 2012
Valerie! Is your hubby sneaking around on you and texting other girls AGAIN?!?! Geez.... All I can do is LMAO:-)
Ntoodeep

Duluth, GA

#18 Nov 24, 2012
It's only because he wants to fuck new pussy ! Sorry so blunt but it's true . Sex at home can be off the chart but some men will still always want to have sex with others . That's a fact ! If you have caught him at this it wld only make u wonder what all u didn't catch him at . I am a man myself and went through something like this before with my ex and I think our sex rocked ! And she showed signs she felt the same but she still texted and flirted and met up with dudes prob for sex but I always tried to think not cuz it hurt so bad but i'am sure it was . She even looked for new dick when she was carrying our child inside her , yes it was mine , DNA ! But anyways once a cheater most likely always . It broke my heart to let her go but now time has passed i'am thankful . And she has continued to do the same with new guys she's had . GET OUT NOW ! why u can walk away with your head held high . Being drunk is only a excuse , i'am a dude myself and every time I been drunk I still knew who I was fucking and if it was right or wrong . I use to cheat years ago so I guess a few does change but most will not . The main reason I quit cheating years ago is a met a very special person and I wouldn't want them to feel the pain that I once felt . Good luck !
typical redneck

Owensboro, KY

#19 Nov 24, 2012
hurt wrote:
Recently I looked at my husband's phone and found conversations with 2 different girls. They were really flirty and he was telling them both that I'm a cheater and he catches me with guys all the time, which isn't true, and that he's just looking for a good girl. Our relationship isn't perfect of course but I thought things were pretty good, and we have an awesome sex life. When I asked him about it he was sorry and says he wants to be with me and he was just drunk and made a stupid mistake. What's up with this?
Because he is as man and men will be men...
A Girl

United States

#20 Nov 25, 2012
There could be several reasons.
1, you aren't giving it up enough.
2, you think your sex life is awesome, but he doesn't.
3, he's an asshole
4, he has low self esteem and feels better about himself when other women want him.
5, he isn't in love with you anymore.
6, he likes seeing what he can get away with.
7, it's how he relieves stress.
8, he feels inadequate sexually, and cheats to prove to himself that he isn't.
9, he is gay but won't admit it even to himself so he feels like being with a lot of women will show everyone that he isn't gay.
10, he thinks you're too good for him, therefore you must be cheating so he is going to cheat too.
11, he's not actually cheating, just enjoys messing with your head.
12, he's not actually cheating, just enjoys the attention and sympathy from other women.
It could be any of those things. Idk. But you definately shouldn't just let it go, especially if it has happened more than once.
inho

Owensboro, KY

#21 Nov 25, 2012
Maybe he wants to leave and doesn't want to say so. Maybe he's trying to make you mad so you will tell him to leave so he has no guilt. Just a thought.

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