Woman Uncovers Secret And Meets Family

Most of us grow up lucky enough to be surrounded by family, sure of our place in the world.

[chona]

What a great story! Good luck Tammy on your mission!!

[Oklahoma Girl]

I'm so happy for you Tammy! I pray you can spend the rest of your life making some wonderful memories with your new found family.

[e-town girl]

That is such a wonderful story. I am really happy that you have the chance of getting to know your family. God Bless you and your family!

[freakee]

I also was adopted and found out that if you are believed to have any Native American heritage it was quite easy to get my birth record opened. It took a trip to Bureau of Vital Statistics in OKC, a judge's signature and $10.00 and I had a copy of my original birth certificate with my biological mothers name. From that I was able to track down an uncle who in turn gave my information to my birth mother. It has had it's good and bad. I don't keep in touch with my birth mom, but I have wonderful aunts, uncles and brother.

[Munchkin2]

Nice story, congratulations.

[Jimbo]

Munchkin2 wrote:

Nice story, congratulations.

It really was. It is nice to have a feel good story to end the week on. Good luck Tammy.

[TNT1970]

That is so wonderful for you and your family, I have a similar story, however a bit diffrent involving my son who his father and his wife would not let my son know about me and then finally one day he had to have his birth certificate and my name was on it and that is the only way that he found out,he has more brothers and more family as well that he doesnt even know as well and hopefully someday he will want to meet them all. Good luck to you and your family!!!!

[musk]

But why didnt the Dad if he was so close come and find her long before that, that sucks, but at least she has her brothers

[David]

Her story was really cool, but I question her intent of wanting adoption records made more accessible. I have an adopted son whose birth family abandoned him as a baby. I do not want the possibility of their finding him (at least not until he becomes an adult) to exist.

[Young Professional]

I find this story a true blessing!!! My mother found her father and his family when she was 38!!! And I have had a close relationship with my bio father for a few years now, I always knew about him and it was my discretion when I wanted to talk or see him...But on the other hand...my parents have adopted two very precious boys from DHS and their dad molested them and their sister. We have met the family and my mom keeps their grandparents up to date with pictures and so forth. But as far as open adoption goes, these boys' parents need not to know who has these boys, nor where they are. With information on my parents, these boys wouldn't be safe!!!
This couple has had 3 more children against court order and has had them removed from the house as well because of molestation to them. And yes all of this is backed up with medical records as well as court testimony. The mother is now a "call girl" in Skiatook and the father lives in the country (he is a registered sex offender, so I can usually find where he lives).
So it would be devistating for either one of their parents to try to contact them. If they choose to try to contact their parents when they are old enough to understand, then my parents and their biological grandparents are quite ok with that and open to that. But it should be at their own discretion, not their parents.

AGAIN I SAY...THIS IS A WONDERFUL STORY AND I UNDERSTAND THE JOYS THAT COME FROM FINDING A NEW FAMILY THAT YOU ARE FROM!!! But I just don't feel it should be completely open from my brother's perspective.

[oko]

I think the story is great. But I do have a problem with easy access to birth records and adoption records. There is a reason for them. So what about the people that do not want to be found? Or how about the child you have knowing everything about there bio father but does not want to have anything to do with him? It is great for some but not always.

[Someday]

Someday I hope to meet my son.

[Munchkin2]

I'd love to know who my father is..... Oh well, will never happen.

[Hombre]

Munchkin2 wrote:

I'd love to know who my father is..... Oh well, will never happen.

Your awful strong for your height.

[jdbl]

And then there are people like my wife whose biological family is so dysfunctional and so ugly to each other that she wishes she had been given up for adoption. They told her the entire time she was growing up that she should consider herself lucky to be in the family because they almost gave her up for adoption when she was a baby. How would you like to grow up with that little gem being told you every couple weeks for years?

[Munchkin2]

Hombre wrote:

<quoted text>Your awful strong for your height.

Not bragging...but if you only knew..Yes, I am a very strong woman.

[Munchkin2]

jdbl wrote:

And then there are people like my wife whose biological family is so dysfunctional and so ugly to each other that she wishes she had been given up for adoption. They told her the entire time she was growing up that she should consider herself lucky to be in the family because they almost gave her up for adoption when she was a baby. How would you like to grow up with that little gem being told you every couple weeks for years?

I wouldn't.... as an adult..you do not have to associate with your family. It's a choice. Especially if you and your wife have children...do they hear these horrible things grandma and grandpa say about their mother? Even if they don't.... I would refuse to have anything to do with them.

I've disowned both of my brothers for various reasons I won't get into. However, I'm perfectly happy knowing I made the right choice for "my" family.

[TNT1970]

Munchkin2 wrote:

I'd love to know who my father is..... Oh well, will never happen.

You shouldnt say never,

[TNT1970]

Munchkin2 wrote:

<quoted text>
Not bragging...but if you only knew..Yes, I am a very strong woman.

you may meet him someday,

[Munchkin2]

TNT1970 wrote:

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you may meet him someday,

No, nobody knows who "he" is and everyone that could know is dead.