Couple don't like friend's cooking

Dear Amy: My husband and I are very friendly with a couple whom we enjoy very much. Full Story
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Mia

Elmwood Park, IL

#43 Dec 20, 2008
AngelaMN wrote:
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I should have saved my comment until I read your entire post.
Mia, today I needed this humor more than anything. Layoffs and office closings this week at work, my friend snagged the cute guy I had my eye on, and I left my debit card in the ATM in downtown Minneapolis tonight, so I have to change things like... my mortgage autopay.
Please be funny tomorrow as well. Thank you in advance for your cooperation.
~Mgmt
Sometimes I'm on. I just thought how classically male: "What, am I supposed to run and fetch for you two days out of every month? Haven't you been living just fine with this since you were 14?"

But is that attitude any more offensive that the gym teachers? "Sit-ups. 50 sit-ups will work that right out!"
MsPixie

Warrens, WI

#44 Dec 21, 2008
Mia wrote:
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Sometimes I'm on. I just thought how classically male: "What, am I supposed to run and fetch for you two days out of every month? Haven't you been living just fine with this since you were 14?"
But is that attitude any more offensive that the gym teachers? "Sit-ups. 50 sit-ups will work that right out!"
Are we quite sure it was even her period? People with Chron's (my boyfriend) or ulcerative colitis (my mother) regularly get terrible cramps, and my mom says that before she started getting treated for it, the pain was worse than labor contractions.

Either way--OUCH. If it is her period, I think your assessment is totally on. That sounds like a really common, "ganz typisch" male response.:P
Lucy

Montclair, CA

#45 Dec 21, 2008
LW2- If your spouse is already IN the kitchen and you ask politely for them to bring you something while they're up, it's pretty darn rude and selfish if they refuse, cramps or no. Little things like this make or break a marriage.
MsPixie

Warrens, WI

#46 Dec 21, 2008
Lucy wrote:
LW2- If your spouse is already IN the kitchen and you ask politely for them to bring you something while they're up, it's pretty darn rude and selfish if they refuse, cramps or no. Little things like this make or break a marriage.
That's kind of what I thought. I usually compare these letters to how my parents act around one another, and I can't imagine him not making her something while he's up. H ell, I've seen him rush out at 9:45 at night to make it to Dairy Queen because his wife and two daughters really, really wanted ice cream, but mom was sick.
mimi

Seattle, WA

#47 Dec 21, 2008
LW1 Suck it up. That's what friendships are about. Either that or just don't accept dinner invitations anymore.

LW2 I totally understand bad cramps, I get them every month. For the first day I do nothing for anyone else, they are all big enough to take care of themselves. However, I CAN get food for myself.

I did have a husband once who wouldn't do anything for me no matter how hurt, sick or injured I was. Just one of the 75000 reasons he is now an EX-husband.

LW3 If its a real tattoo that was done in a licensed establishment, chances are that the niece is at least 18 and therefore legally an adult.

I think its the law in most states that they have to be 18 and in some states 16 with parental consent - in writing.

So, if she's an "adult" there's little recourse for her mother beyond yelling at her, telling he it was a "stupid" idea, etc,. etc., etc.

My son came home with his first tattoo recently. It was done by a friend with a homemade tattoo gun, India ink....just like the old days. Wish he would have waited, I would have paid for it at a shop. But he's "21 yanno," and he knows everything now. Yanno?
mimi

Seattle, WA

#48 Dec 21, 2008
Lucy wrote:
LW2- If your spouse is already IN the kitchen and you ask politely for them to bring you something while they're up, it's pretty darn rude and selfish if they refuse, cramps or no. Little things like this make or break a marriage.
Quite!
pugglewuggle

Tucson, AZ

#49 Dec 21, 2008
LW: It doesn't matter whether she was feeling well or not, a request for a snack is not too much to ask, especially when he is already in the kitchen making something for himself. If his response was out of character, chalk it up to testosterone poisoning after a day of football and the boys.
pde

Vandalia, OH

#50 Dec 22, 2008
MsPixie wrote:
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Are we quite sure it was even her period? People with Chron's (my boyfriend) or ulcerative colitis (my mother) regularly get terrible cramps, and my mom says that before she started getting treated for it, the pain was worse than labor contractions.
Heck, I get digestive pains worse than my labor contractions regularly (and no epidural here for labor). But after multiple different tests and doctors--"you have bad gas, take an antacid, regularly."

Unfortunately, antacids just make it all worse.
James Bond

Baltimore, MD

#51 Dec 22, 2008
It must of been some very awful food! Yuk!
Whatever

Fort Lauderdale, FL

#52 Dec 22, 2008
#1 - Tell your friend her cooking sucks. Then that friend will dump you and not have to worry about being a good hostess for your sorry rude self.

#2 - If you haven't figured out how to manipulate him by now you never will. Get a divorce. Please don't ever have kids or they will walk all over you, too.

#3 - MYOB. It's her problem. Let her deal with her OWN mother. You are not her mother.

Merry Freaking Christmas.
Linda

AOL

#53 Dec 22, 2008
I have found that adding a dose of white pepper to no-fat food will make it taste normal. The writer might want to carry some with her when she visits the friends' house.
pathetic

AOL

#54 Dec 27, 2008
Truth wrote:
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Boy, you sound like a prince of a guy. Let me guess - single and can't figure out why no woman wants to be around you. Talk about pathetic.
Ha! First off I'm a happily married woman with horrible cramps, where I'm basically bedridden for a day. I'm sorry after giving birth twice, if I asked husband to make me something because I wasn't feeling well and he didn't, then I would remind him of all the stuff I do for him and then let him know that I won't do a darn thing until I get my grilled cheese sandwich. She was being passive aggressive, and I'm sorry that doesn't solve anything. Maybe the guy's just a jerk. Maybe they need counseling, but instead I'll write an advice columnist over something so petty! So yeah, pathetic and boo'freakin' hoo!

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