Medical diagnosis can ease stress for...

Medical diagnosis can ease stress for both mom and son

There are 11 comments on the Chicago Tribune story from Mar 17, 2009, titled Medical diagnosis can ease stress for both mom and son. In it, Chicago Tribune reports that:

DEAR ABBY: Your answer to "Frustrated Mom in Virginia " was on the money. There could be a wide range of reasons for her son's "shortcomings." I can say from personal experience that it is never too late to get ...

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Donatello

San Antonio, TX

#1 Mar 17, 2009
Um, guys I know we're not supposed to like rehashes, but these
letters look kind of interesting.

“Seriously?”

Since: Feb 09

Austin, TX

#2 Mar 17, 2009
LW1: I think you are lying. If you had ADHD, your letter would have read like this "Your answer to Frustrated Mom in Virginia (Jan. 5) was on the money. There could be a wide range of reasons for her son's...O look a bike! Can I ride it? Where is my pencil, did I have a pencil?"

LW2: You are OK I guess.

LW3: "A common symptom is lack of personal space awareness, or the person may appear to be rude or insensitive. The lack of remorse after clumsily bumping into someone is also indicative of the emotional/social disconnect (lack of empathy) that is associated with this disorder."

So you are saying that everyone at the grocery store has Aspergers?

LW4: "Last year my 8-year-old son was exhibiting symptoms of ADD/ADHD -- constantly losing things, fidgeting, lack of concentration, along with a wide range of other annoying behaviors. He was hospitalized and referred to occupational therapy by a therapist who recognized his symptoms as being part of Sensory Integration Disorder."

Yeah ok...OR MAYBE HE IS A NORMAL KID DOING NORMAL KID THINGS! No, you are right, no chance of that, he obviously has a disorder.

Be careful people. When I was growing up it was the latest fashion to take every normal kid and teen behavior and label it as a disorder. Doctors will always back up your paranoia and refer you to a shrinkologist and together they will make money off you at the expense of your kid. From what I have seen, ADD, ADHD, Manic Depressive and Bi-Polar are the disorders they get tagged with most often. The worst part is that, if you DON'T have the problem you are being treated for, the treatment itself will give it to you. For example, if you have ADD they give you speed. Obviously, in a normal person, that's going to turn your kid into quite a handful. But the doctor will just say they don't have the right dosage or you need to wait awhile for it to take effect, or you need to switch to another brand of drug. Meanwhile, you are changing the way your growing child's mind functions, altering neural pathways and chemical balances. This can have some really rotten lasting effects. I'm not a doctor. I'm just telling you what I have seen. One good friend of mine actually had to be committed as a teen because the drugs his parents had him on at a young age caused massive sleep deprivation and lead to hallucinations (enforcing the theory that he had something wrong with him). He finally got a good doctor when he was 17 that took him off all medications and evaluated him "sober", found there was nothing wrong with him and he got to go back and finish school. But he emails me sometimes with horror stories about glitches and twitches he developed from the drugs that are still with him. Poor guy.
Stina

Saint Petersburg, FL

#3 Mar 17, 2009
Logic Police:

What you said. Couldn't agree more. Why does everything have to be labeled some disorder? Why can't it be that they are just being kids. Now it's like every other kid has Asperger's. In the 80s and 90s it was ADHD. Sigh...

“Illegitimi non carborundum”

Since: Jan 09

Scenic Manitowoc County WI

#4 Mar 17, 2009
I never did read the original letter, but that will not stop me from putting in my 2 cents (or sense!)

While I am sure that the origianl letter writer has seen professionals and received sencond opinions, to my ignorant and uneducated eye, there seems to be a rush to diagnos illnesses and prescrib3e medicqation to children that act out in any way.

My own daughter was having trouble socializing in pre-school and they called us in and suggested that we medicate her.

by the way she adjusted to school and is now doing quite well in the 6th grade. What would have happened if we were not educated enough to ask questions? How many children are being fed pills and altering their brain chemistry without any real need?

What a crock. Easy answer for lazy people.

“Seriously?”

Since: Feb 09

Austin, TX

#5 Mar 17, 2009
Kinder and Gentler Phil wrote:
How many children are being fed pills and altering their brain chemistry without any real need?
What a crock. Easy answer for lazy people.
The answer is: A Lot
There's something new going on in a local suburb to me. Apparently, they can "personality test" you kids without your knowledge and approval. They can then flag certain tests for an "outside opinion". If they find that your kid is borderline anything based on these arbitrary questions (who knows who came up with them) they can actually take your child away from you and force them to take pills. It sounds made up right? It's not. There is already at least one account of it. I'm trying to find the article that was emailed to me, but I think I may have deleted it. This poor girl had a little bit of attitude and made a few jokes on the test and they put her on anti-psychotics and wouldn't tell her mom where she was being held for over 6 months.

“Seriously?”

Since: Feb 09

Austin, TX

#6 Mar 17, 2009
Sorry, when I said "they" I meant the ISD (elementary and junior high, don't know about high school). I am so angry about it that my communication skills are suffering.
Not Diagnosed

United States

#7 Mar 17, 2009
I have never been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD yet I exhibt many of the symptoms. Over the past 50 years of my life I have learned to compensate. Did I have to have drugs or intervention? No, I didn't but maybe my life would have been much less painful. I do know that as a teen I started to take speed. I was self-medicating.

Please don't be so quick to judge others. I do believe that this diagnosis is HIGHLY overused but that does not negate the people who truly suffer. And we do suffer when we not only have extreme problems coping but then have to put up with self-righteous prigs telling us to get a grip.
Not Diagnosed

United States

#8 Mar 17, 2009
One more thing - girls who have ADHD quite often exhibit different symptoms than boys. They are usually, well-behaved but they are the daydreamers who can't seem to ever find the homework they did last night or remember to bring that important paper back to class. They are not always the manic, behavior-problem kids.

“Joy is the shadow cast by pain”

Level 1

Since: Dec 08

Twin Cities, MN

#9 Mar 17, 2009
I was diagnosed with ADD in the '70s, as a girl. There wasn't much to be done then. I don't think children have changed--I think society (and its individuals) has changed and now we feel the need to label all kinds of quirks and personality issues. Everything's a "disorder." Labeling so you can figure out how to work with that disorder, great. Labeling so you can get your kid out of trouble? That's baloney and lazy parenting.
Nelson

United States

#10 Mar 17, 2009
I have an innate sense of distrust for doctors who toss out prescriptions like candy, and this is more than likely based on my own personal experience with this sort of issue.
In my experience, medication is being used as the first response all too often these days. That's what happened to me, and I ended up falling a couple months behind in school because the medication I was on made me zone out so badly, I couldn't even finish a single page of reading homework (which was ridiculous, I've been an avid reader since childhood).
Luckily I was able to make the work up, and I now have a psych who doesn't pressure me into taking medication I'm not comfortable with (unlike my original doc, who told me the meds were necessary or else I'd be wild and people wouldn't like me) and works on helping me develop ways to deal with my problem. When I did try medication with her, she was understanding and made sure to help me monitor exactly how it affected me.
I think that people with mental disorders need understanding and acceptance, along with access to medical care, more so than they need drug after drug. Especially in the case of children, who are still developing. Medication should be used as a last resort, when other methods of treatment have failed, and should always be used in conjunction with counseling.
For some people, the medication is a wonderful thing that truly helps them, but a lot of the time it just isn't necessary and the negatives outweigh any positives.

“Seriously?”

Since: Feb 09

Austin, TX

#11 Mar 18, 2009
Not Diagnosed wrote:
One more thing - girls who have ADHD quite often exhibit different symptoms than boys. They are usually, well-behaved but they are the daydreamers who can't seem to ever find the homework they did last night or remember to bring that important paper back to class. They are not always the manic, behavior-problem kids.
I thought that girl ADD resulted in hyper-focus. That's what I heard anyway. An example would be that she is singularly focused on solving a problem in her head, and until she solves it she won't hear you calling her name, or will take an hour to tie her shoes, or just can't multi-task in general. It would be one thing at a time, as opposed to can't complete a task from beginning to end because she gets distracted too easily.

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