No need to comment on personal issue

There are 20 comments on the Jun 10, 2009, Chicago Tribune story titled No need to comment on personal issue. In it, Chicago Tribune reports that:

Dear Amy: More than 40 years ago, "Steve" -- a high school classmate -- attempted to rape me, and I was injured.

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“Death to humans!”

Since: Jul 08

A long way from here...

#485 Jun 12, 2009
Pixie wrote:
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I'll agree, I read your original post and didn't think you were saying that attempted rape is "less bad" than actual rape. I didn't get that tone at all. And you know me--if anybody is quick to take offense, it's me.:P
I love you, Pixie!

“Ancora Imparo”

Since: Apr 09

East Haven, CT

#486 Jun 12, 2009
Why did the sex get lost in the rest of this?

Frequency-once a week, or more if I get hubby to cooperate and get the daughter out of the house (I'm a screamer). How did I end up with a guy who is not that interested in sex? I better start helping him with the housework.

Toys-always, otherwise it would take forever to get there. I don't masturbate often, because I'd be mad if I don't get off, although sometimes it helps for cramps.

I find that I enjoy it now more than ever, because I have a reliable partner and I don't have to worry about health or social issues.

Since: Jan 09

Location hidden

#487 Jun 12, 2009
angelique770 wrote:
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I love your new pic.
Thank you!

One of my single peonies...although, the double peonies are blooming now too.

And, imagine my surprise to see that some of my roses (the ones facing due north..????) have starting blooming!

No hydrangeas yet.

Since: Jan 09

Location hidden

#488 Jun 12, 2009
BTW...thanks, domini, for injecting some in-depth factual info into the discussion!
Ahem

Chicago, IL

#489 Jun 12, 2009
TamoraRose wrote:
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Thank you!
One of my single peonies...although, the double peonies are blooming now too.
And, imagine my surprise to see that some of my roses (the ones facing due north..????) have starting blooming!
No hydrangeas yet.
Ahem- double peonies?!

I believe they are called "twins".
Alina

Evanston, IL

#490 Jun 12, 2009
Thank you Amy! You have finally showed me how to handle what I've always ignored but have felt bad about leaving hanging--when I hear from my husband that his brother told him that his wife (my sister-in-law) is upset with me. Now I have the opening that will let me deal with her directly and also let her know that her husband may be talking out of school: "I hear from my husband who heard from your husband that you're upset with me. Why don't you tell me what's on your mind?" So simple. I can't wait for the next incident so I can try it out.

Since: Jan 09

Location hidden

#491 Jun 12, 2009
Ahem wrote:
<quoted text>Ahem- double peonies?!
I believe they are called "twins".
???
Ivory Dove

San Antonio, TX

#492 Jun 12, 2009
Alina wrote:
Thank you Amy! You have finally showed me how to handle what I've always ignored but have felt bad about leaving hanging--when I hear from my husband that his brother told him that his wife (my sister-in-law) is upset with me. Now I have the opening that will let me deal with her directly and also let her know that her husband may be talking out of school: "I hear from my husband who heard from your husband that you're upset with me. Why don't you tell me what's on your mind?" So simple. I can't wait for the next incident so I can try it out.
Or, if you want to cut to the chase, "Are you
upset,(SIL's name or nickname--which hopefully
isn't a target name or one she dislikes)?"
Joan

Mesa, AZ

#493 Jun 12, 2009
I am 71 years old. I was raised in a community that thrived on ugly gossip. When I was 13 years old, a male classmate made untrue sexual statements about me in an attempt to ruin my reputation. He grew worse over the next 40 years.

When everyone else was mournfully commenting on his untimely death at a young age, I commented aloud that I was glad he was dead. He was an ugly man with an ugly mouth who beat his wife and children. He enjoyed causing pain to others by whatever means. I had no regrets then nor now.
Ivory Dove

San Antonio, TX

#494 Jun 12, 2009
Pixie wrote:
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...if anybody is quick to take offense, it's me.:P
Sensitive, yes, but you don't come across as
"quick to take offense".
Dead horse

Chicago, IL

#495 Jun 12, 2009
Ivory Dove wrote:
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Sensitive, yes, but you don't come across as
"quick to take offense".
What the heck is THAT supposed to mean?!
Raptor

North Chicago, IL

#496 Jun 12, 2009
VelvetVoice wrote:
Why did the sex get lost in the rest of this?
Frequency-once a week, or more if I get hubby to cooperate and get the daughter out of the house (I'm a screamer). How did I end up with a guy who is not that interested in sex? I better start helping him with the housework.
Toys-always, otherwise it would take forever to get there. I don't masturbate often, because I'd be mad if I don't get off, although sometimes it helps for cramps.
I find that I enjoy it now more than ever, because I have a reliable partner and I don't have to worry about health or social issues.
This was way more fun to read than wedding planning disagreements.
Ivory Dove

San Antonio, TX

#497 Jun 12, 2009
Dead horse wrote:
<quoted text>What the heck is THAT supposed to mean?!
You're visiting "Pixie"?
Anne

Portland, OR

#498 Jun 12, 2009
angelique770 wrote:
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What a horrible thing to have happen to you. Please accept my sincere condolences. I hope you have recovered fully.
Thanks for the nice thought. I was very lucky, I was shoot in the head, the bullet going through my right lower eye socket and then, as my doctor put it, "flattening out to the size of a dime and rolling through my brain". My parents were told that if I didn't die I would be a vegetable and if not that I would be blind.

None of that happened, although I do have residual vision problems and some hearing loss. I do joke that I used to be smarter. I am also pretty embeded in looking for ways to reduce the number of guns in the country and the ease of access that people have to them.

Finally, I just wanted to tell all of you that I am so glad I found this site because it is fun to see returning people who don't have all the answers but certainly better ones than Amy often does and who are so nice, usually, to each other.
Anne

Portland, OR

#499 Jun 12, 2009
Misplaced Texan wrote:
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I thoguht I was clear from the get-go that I wasn't being dismissive. However, the original responder chose to label my clarification as insincere "platitudes," and I honestly think it's because I own a dangly thing instead of a tunnel. I can appreciate the position you're coming from, but I'm glad you're able to recognize my position at the same time. Some are unable to do that.
The trouble here is that this is a highly-charged subject, so people are often unable to see the real point that another person is trying to make because of their own feelings toward the broader subject. The case of Michael Savage and his comments on mis-diagnosed autism (NOT autism itself, as most people who were offended my his comments assume) is a great example. They failed to see the hyperbole he was making because they thought he was calling their own kid a brat. Should he have done a better job? For sure, but even after that was pointed out people refused to see it because it's easier to be pizzed off at someone else rather than think through something rationally.
Sometimes its hard not to take things personally, as you seem to have here. Not to worry though. Re your reference to bias due to your male anatomy, I've been very appreciative of some "dangly" things particularly K's , when he was 28 and I was 43. Honest, I thought he was 35 or 36 due to a receding hairline, and he told me that he thought I was the same, 35 or 36. That is one good memory!

Since: Apr 09

Eau Claire, WI

#500 Jun 12, 2009
Anne wrote:
<quoted text> Thanks for the nice thought. I was very lucky, I was shoot in the head, the bullet going through my right lower eye socket and then, as my doctor put it, "flattening out to the size of a dime and rolling through my brain". My parents were told that if I didn't die I would be a vegetable and if not that I would be blind.
None of that happened, although I do have residual vision problems and some hearing loss. I do joke that I used to be smarter. I am also pretty embeded in looking for ways to reduce the number of guns in the country and the ease of access that people have to them.
Finally, I just wanted to tell all of you that I am so glad I found this site because it is fun to see returning people who don't have all the answers but certainly better ones than Amy often does and who are so nice, usually, to each other.
We are glad you are here, too!

Since: Apr 09

Eau Claire, WI

#501 Jun 12, 2009
TamoraRose wrote:
BTW...thanks, domini, for injecting some in-depth factual info into the discussion!
Thank you! Nice to be appreciated!

Since: Jan 09

Location hidden

#502 Jun 12, 2009
Anne wrote:
Finally, I just wanted to tell all of you that I am so glad I found this site because it is fun to see returning people who don't have all the answers but certainly better ones than Amy often does and who are so nice, usually, to each other.
We're glad you're here, too (both meanings of the phrase)!

Do you prefer ice tea or lemonade? I'm an Arnold Palmer fan, myself.

Since: Jan 09

Location hidden

#503 Jun 12, 2009
domini wrote:
We are glad you are here, too!
Ooooohh...great minds think alike!
Anne

Portland, OR

#504 Jun 12, 2009
TamoraRose wrote:
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We're glad you're here, too (both meanings of the phrase)!
Do you prefer ice tea or lemonade? I'm an Arnold Palmer fan, myself.
This may be a trick question and I have no clue what you mean but, if not, I'll take lemonade but would much rather have a chocolate malt with lots of whipped cream and I mean the cow kind not the manmade type.

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