I agree Ruby. I'm not so touchy about the "R" word. My brother was called that and everything else in the book, when in fact he was brain-damaged from being thrown from a car during an accident which happened when he was 2 weeks old and was classified as emotionally disturbed, which I think WAS the correct diagnosis (jmho).I want to make a comment about using the word retarded~~
When I was a kid, the word was used for all types
of disabilities. Softer kinder words such as mentally challenged had not been "invented" yet.
In it's context it could go like this:
"Mrs. Smith has a retarded son who is 45, she worries about what will happen when she is gone."
It was not said with malice.
The first time I heard the term, Downs Syndrome,
was in the late 60's early 70's.
Hopefully, when we know better, we do better.
It was the rude remarks made by teachers in front of the whole class publicly humiliating them when these same teachers knew full well ahead of time what kind of children they would be teacher. I thought it was insensitive for them to do so when they are supposed to be the adult and set an example. I also thought some of them were trying to get a laugh in front of the class at my child's expense. What kind of person does that in front of a class to a child no less?
Also, these children are stigmatized as being dumb, stupid and lazy which couldn't be further than the truth. Who would choose to be stupid, slow, or dumb on purpose? I've seen the difference in their struggles and my daughter's ability to just breeze through the same assignment without so much as a backward glance at the assignment. It's pointed out that they must try harder. Ha! That's the understatement of the year. They usually need to learn memorization skills (imho), which will improve their chances. Some can handle it. Some get tired and give up, embarrassed to ask questions over and over again, and do not understand why the rest of the class gets (with ease) what it takes them forever to understand.