Thank you for sharing with me. I just left him and tonight he was<quoted text>
My dad had dementia for a number of years. He became extremely confused when he was hospitalized. Since the hospital didn't have sitters at night, my poor mom would have to sit with him all night. Then he'd call her so many times during the day, that she never got any rest. He fell frequently and she'd have to call fire rescue to get him up. The man was over six feet and dead weight. My mom and I are only 5'3", so even with both of us, it was difficult. The last days, it was a nightmare. My daughter and I took turns going over there and helping her. When he started going back into CHF, my husband said there was not a lot he could do for him. He said we could take him back to the hospital and he'd order some diuretics for him but he told both of us that it would only delay his death for a very short time. My. Dad was lucid enough to know he was dying and he kept screaming "I don't want to die". I felt very guilty just listening, knowing that there was nothing I could do.
so much like the old self it breaks my heart. But ten mimutes later
he can turn on me and it is not safe to be caught alone.
The one reason I am talking about this is to make some of you aware that you need to make plans and check out your affairs now.
Not after something happens. It can be very hard trying to deal
with the person and all the things you have to do.Things like guardianship or poa can be done when both people can discus it.
Thanks to all. Your words help.