Black women: Dark Skinned vs Light Sk...

Black women: Dark Skinned vs Light Skinned

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Since: Apr 11

Sanford, FL

#1 Apr 10, 2011
I don't want to know what complexion of women that men would prefer, but i'm writing a book based off of my personal experiences and I have a couple of questions for our dark and light skinned people.

Has anyone (of the same race) judged you primarily by the color of your complex? If so, would you mind sharing any examples? For me, being light skinned was like a curse. I couldn't go anywhere without darker skinned girls wanting to fight me FOR NO REASON WHATSOEVER. I've gotten in fights, spit on, my hair cut, dirty looks, threats-you name it all because of my skin color.

Since I was younger, I was always bullied by darker girls and when they befriended me, they would always say, "when i first met you, i thought you were stuck up." When asked why, they just say that I just look like it because i'm light skinned. That doesn't make since to me and I don't find that as an acceptable answer. I have never given off any type of "stuck up" vibe. So what's all that for??

I was a telemarketer for about three years after of high school and several black girls would talk trash to me at work because I sold more than them since I don't sound black (according to them). What does it mean to sound "black" anyway? Clearly that wasn't the issue. I just had patience.

Both of my parents are black, i'm 25, married, mother of one, and a Christian. I work full-time and attend school part-time. My husband and I work very hard for what we have as well as our parents worked hard for what they have. I consider myself to be a goofy, down to earth person. I'm definitely not stuck up because I clearly have other things to worry about. My appearance has never mattered to me. Just because I was lighter didn't mean I was any better than anyone. I used to wear my hair in a ponytail, wear blue jeans, sneakers and a screen tee just about every day. By dressing down, I was looked at as "thinking I was better than everyone." (?!) Being on the honor roll seemed like such crime to do for a black student, and since I was on it, I appeared to be weaker than those who chose to skip class, get held back, or just didn't even care about school. But look at them now and look at me. I don't brag about my life because I don't deserve all the credit. I couldn't do it without God, my parents, and my husband's support. Even now, Because my husband married me, girls run they mouths saying ain't black enough. I AM BLACK! Being young, happily married, and black is not a crime. It's own people that enforce these "black people" stereotypes.

I googled "dark skin vs light skin" and all these negative comments about light skinned women came up. Everyone is on here talking about light skinned women are stuck up and men would prefer to be with them. Is it a sin to be born with this shade of skin? Some people have even made me feel like I was wrong for not holding my son outside in front of the sun since his birth to give him a little "more color." People are really ridiculous.

I think that majority of our women have a complex against themselves and their way of releasing it, is by trying to hurt others that are different from them. I don't really get it, just trying to figure out the reason. Those who behave in such a manner, themselves, surely don't believe that black is beautiful. Black, comes in all shades, all shapes, and all sizes. People should be judged only by God, but if you should feel a need to judge them, it should be by their personality, not their appearance.

But lastly, to my brown skinned women, do you judge by complexion? If so, why? If not, thank you! But do you feel a certain way about color as well? Or are you like me, black is black-regardless of what shade!

Men are more than welcome to respond as well.
sarah

New Orleans, LA

#2 Nov 22, 2011
i feel bad because people are so mean to light people and i'm light.i'm just a normal black person too.what if they were me they would see how it feels.
jjj

Mansfield, UK

#3 Dec 9, 2011
i am
louise

Mansfield, UK

#4 Dec 9, 2011
i am a dark skinned 13 year old girl and i think that there are disadvantages of being light skinned and dark skinned.me myself have wanted to light skinned since i can remember although i do think dark and light skinned are both verry buitifull and that most of us dark skinned sisters if for any reason would want to be lighter is because the life we would live would be alot easer and we would feel accepted alot more.because even though we've come along way from salvery the lighter skinned person would be treated better than the darker skinned one and belive it or not it still gose on today for im still hearing phrases like preety for a dark skin girl,black and ugly, black and worthless and she's dark but she's pretty.so overall i belive even though there are disadvantages of being light skinned dark skinned girls have a more of a rough time in this day and age.
namekya

Mansfield, UK

#5 Jul 20, 2012
iv never heard of anything more ludicrus

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#6 Jul 23, 2012
How about we not worry about skin tone and focus more on literacy? The past few comments are a testament to staying in school...
sweetpearl1000

San Leandro, CA

#7 Apr 13, 2014
I am so confused and hurt the way our race treats one another. I am not light skinned nor am I dark skinned, I am just medium brown (I guess). I have long hair to my butt brown eyes, nothing special. I am in my 50's now but growing up I went to a German school and there were about three other black families of German Lutheran faith who attended the school and church. My best friend was white ( I never looked at her color, maybe I am crazy) I never had and problems until I attended junior high school and learned what racism was all about. Now both of my parents are black, my mom has long hair down to her knees, so it was normal in our house. In junior high school I had gum thrown in my hair, I was told I did not speak black enough and I had a fight every day(my dad taught us girls how to box) I had to petition the school board to allow me to go to school in Chinatown. They had better math teachers, I had no problems in this school. I met my husband he is Filipino very dark skin we married when I was 18 years old, had twins boy and a girl with dark skin and curly hair I was very happy they were not bright skinned as I thought they might have problems. We have been married 37 years now, I asked my children were they confused about their race they looked at me and said "Mom I think you need a nap, we were not raised that way" I laughed and told them I was looking at a program on the subject and thought I would ask. I think its all in how you raise you're children grandchildren etc.. I have so much sorrow in my heart to see beautiful children scared to love themselves because of the color of their skin. We must teach our children from the cradle that they are a beauty to behold, and we must instill pride in them, and if you hear them say something ignorant about someone's color backhand them and keep doing what you wewe doing, after two seconds you let them know that is not allowed in this house. Hmmm they will never bring it up again, because they know it wont be tolerated, when cut we all bleed red.
Vib_Ram

Spring, TX

#8 Apr 13, 2015
I know I'm NOT Black, so I can't relate. My skin is beautiful.

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