Warped

Strunk, KY

#22 Jun 28, 2011
Don't ever let sex turn into anything rough. If they like to hit your bum then they will like hitting other places too. It is a power and control thing. They love having you bent over their knee, helpless and inflicting pain. They like it even more when they can see what they have done.

I always found the spanking thing a little odd anyways. If a man likes spanking his woman does that men it gets aroused by spanking a child too?
nancy

Naugatuck, CT

#23 Jun 28, 2011
cuomo homo from new york city .
OCTO-Tighe

Helenwood, TN

#24 Jun 28, 2011
OLD but CLASSICAL:

Sadistic gent marries Masochist maiden;

Sadistic gent carris Masochist maiden into bed chamber!

Masochist maiden jumps on bed; cries out; "Beat me, BEAT ME!"

Sadistic gent stands there, stroking his jaw with thumb & fore finger - GRINS - Says: "You know? I don't think i will!"
someone

Wartburg, TN

#25 Jun 28, 2011
I want some rough sex
swallow

Strunk, KY

#26 Jun 28, 2011
someone wrote:
I want some rough sex
maybe you can buy it?
ME TOO

Oliver Springs, TN

#27 Jun 29, 2011
Almost sounds like my man,same things i go thru as well! To bad I havent gotten a name her because I think mine cheats on me..
Shamed wrote:
I have been dating a man for almost a year. He is a very gentle and loving man. He is good with my children and respectful of others. He has been married before and so have I. My ex husband was never rough during sex so this is something that I am not use to.
The man that I am dating now seems to really enjoy rough sex and this makes me very uncomfortable sometimes. It started with playful hair pulling, spanking me, and biting me. It has progressed now into slapping me, calling me names, grabbing my throat and just being forceful. We now have a safe word and this all just seems wrong to me.
Should sex be painful? I feel like he is being disrespectful and that he likes degrading me. It worries me that he associates sex with violence. He has talked about us getting married but I can't marry a man that can be violent during such an intimate, loving and trusting time.
I have told him my feelings about it. He has even seen me cry during sex a few times. He will stop and not do it for awhile but then he always starts again.
If he loves me then he should want to make love to me and associate love with sex and not violence. Am I wrong?
Old Bill

Strunk, KY

#28 Jul 3, 2011
Men aren't always the bad guys. We seem to always be made out to be the pervert. I have lived a full life, experienced many things and encountered alot of different folks. I could tell you many of a true story that would shock you. I will make this as short as possible.

I often visited with a female companion back in the day. We had casual sex and felt free to express ourselves. I told about my fetish for panty hose and she told me about how she loved rough sex. I felt strange sometimes during the sex. Even tho we weren't in a relationship I still didn't feel right being so rough with her and treating her disrespectfully.

Years later I was talking to one of her old friends and they told me things that I did not know about her. That she was raped and that about every man she dated was abusive to her. I figured that this may be why she enjoyed rough sex? I'm not a psychiatrist but this seems like a likely scenario.

At first I thought it may just be her way of not getting too close to a man but now I think it was the only way she knew how to interact with men. All I am saying is; not all men like rough sex. I would say that more women like it than men.
RoughGurl

Oliver Springs, TN

#29 Jul 3, 2011
Maybe some people just like rough sex. Just like some people like salt on their watermelon. Yeah, it may seem weird to others but that is just how they like it. If someone is uncomfortable with having rough sex then they need to make that clear and the other person shouldn't try to force or talk someone into doing something that they do not want to do.

Yes, people that enjoy rough sex have been studied/evaluated in many different ways. It is true that it can stem from being sexually abused or from being mistreated in general by men/loved ones. However, being a sex offender, a murderer, being depressed, suicidal, being abusive, being an addict, etc. can all stem from being sexually abused too.

e.g. I was sexually abused and I love rough, degrading sex. I don't like it as rough as some people but I do like the hair pulling, light spankings, being forced, etc. It seems to help me to get out of my head and I don't have to think a lot about what is going on, about the person I am with and there sure isn't any "connection," to the person at the time. I don't connect sex with love. When I am having sex, then it is just sex. Afterwards, we can kiss, hold each other and express our love.

Now, a therapist could link any and every little detail back to something bad that has happened to me. How do I know this? Because I have studied enough about this "myself" to know.

Maybe, I relate pain to love because a lot of the people I love have hurt me. So, when a man says he loves me and we have sex, I expect it to be painful? I guess I should only have sex with men that don't love me?

Maybe, I like being manipulated, degraded and controlled because that was how I was done/treated most of my life and that is all I know, the only feeling I am comfortable with?

OR maybe, I just like rough sex and there isn't any deep rooted reason!
what i know

Oneida, TN

#30 Jul 4, 2011
most men like rough sex but he will only have rough sex with women he does not respect and see as $luts. he will make love to the woman he loves.

women that like rough sex have no respect for themselves and are $luts! sex doesnt mean anything special to them. sex has no value to them.
Ridiculous

Oneida, TN

#31 Jul 5, 2011
what i know wrote:
most men like rough sex but he will only have rough sex with women he does not respect and see as $luts. he will make love to the woman he loves.
women that like rough sex have no respect for themselves and are $luts! sex doesnt mean anything special to them. sex has no value to them.
Don't know much then, do you?
someone

Wartburg, TN

#32 Jul 5, 2011
I'd like real rough sex
hisbytch

Oneida, TN

#33 Jul 5, 2011
someone wrote:
I'd like real rough sex
Male or female? What kinda rough sex do you like?
PRM

Cosby, TN

#34 Jul 5, 2011
pain and sex is good..
PRM

Cosby, TN

#35 Jul 5, 2011
someone wrote:
I'd like real rough sex
i love it wanna get together ????
Ron

Oneida, TN

#36 Jul 6, 2011
Honestly I dont know you but please for your self and your children get out of this sex is something that is suppose to be beautiful not painful and it should never leave you feeling like this im not an expert on the subject but i have had a couple of female friends that were in the same boat your in one is dead at the hands of the man that was suppose to love her and the other one is in hideing afraid to hes going to find her im giving you the best advice i can i have saw first hand where it leads and its not good have you noticed that he is losing respect for you making rude coments well next thing hes gonna want to bring in others please if for no other reason your a human being and you dont have to be beat on to enjoy sex this is something that happens between people who love one another and love is pleasure not pain
lmbo

Pine Knot, KY

#37 Jul 6, 2011
Warped wrote:
Don't ever let sex turn into anything rough. If they like to hit your bum then they will like hitting other places too. It is a power and control thing. They love having you bent over their knee, helpless and inflicting pain. They like it even more when they can see what they have done.
I always found the spanking thing a little odd anyways. If a man likes spanking his woman does that men it gets aroused by spanking a child too?
very well said!
someone

Wartburg, TN

#38 Jul 6, 2011
PRM wrote:
<quoted text>i love it wanna get together ????
Well I am gay lol
Mr Nose

Oneida, TN

#39 Jul 6, 2011
Gay men do love rough sex! They really can't have it any other way. Ride em cowboy!
someone

Wartburg, TN

#40 Jul 6, 2011
Mr Nose wrote:
Gay men do love rough sex! They really can't have it any other way. Ride em cowboy!
I like it rammed in
PRM

Cosby, TN

#41 Jul 6, 2011
someone wrote:
<quoted text>
I like it rammed in
doo..me baby love to get rammed,love to s..k ,and unload over me..the whole load..

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