Man Kills Self At Wife's Grave

A local man who helped create the Terri Brodeur Breast Cancer Foundation in memory of his wife, who died of the disease in 2005, fatally shot himself at her grave over the weekend, police said. Full Story
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mike

Southington, CT

#1 Jan 15, 2008
Tragic. Cancer kills as many people as 100 9-11s every year. That's the real threat, well that and we rank last in preventable deaths.

Since: Jul 07

Canton

#2 Jan 15, 2008
How sad. It certainly sounds as if he just couldn't go on without her, but to leave behind 3 kids without a parent is truly the tragic piece of this story.
disappointed

Southington, CT

#4 Jan 15, 2008
How could he not think of his poor children, What a selfish man. Now the poor kids have that they have to live with now too.

Since: Dec 07

United States

#6 Jan 15, 2008
disappointed wrote:
How could he not think of his poor children, What a selfish man.
My first thoughts, also. Obviously many other things were tormenting this man.
Traci

Taunton, MA

#7 Jan 15, 2008
How sad, I understand the pain of losing a parent to cancer my mom died at the age of 31 I was 10 when she died Its very hard to grow up with out a parent Now these children dont have a father either.These poor poor children. My prayers are with them
Anthony

Newington, CT

#8 Jan 15, 2008
My heart goes out to this family.
And I know how this looks on the man who committed suicide, but it's undfair for any of us to judge him for what he did.
Best of luck to his children. I hope they'll be able to eventually pick up the pieces of their lost family and move on. Hopefully, this will bring the children closer than ever. It's all up to the high-schooler now.
anonymous

Peabody, MA

#9 Jan 15, 2008
A tragedy for all who knew the family. I am hopeful that friends, family, and the community will pull together and stay focused on providing kindness and support to the family and friends of Mr. Brodeur. Please remember him as the kind and loving husband and father that he was, and judge no one unless you walk in their shoes.
jane

Hartford, CT

#12 Jan 15, 2008
Cancer is a terrible disease but clinical depression is also a terrible, debilitating illness. We don't judge people who have cancer; lets also not judge people who commit suicide because they have a mental illness that didn't receive the necessary treatment.
My sympathy and love to the Brodeur family.
One Voice

Overland Park, KS

#13 Jan 15, 2008
jane wrote:
Cancer is a terrible disease but clinical depression is also a terrible, debilitating illness. We don't judge people who have cancer; lets also not judge people who commit suicide because they have a mental illness that didn't receive the necessary treatment.
My sympathy and love to the Brodeur family.
Thank you so much for making this comparison. You are so right. I often make this comparison to tell people that depression and other mental illnesses are no different than cancer. It is comforting to know that other people feel the way I do and truly understand how horrible mental illness is. I have some knowledge of this field as I did some work for a company involved in research of mental illness. Great post.
think

Enfield, CT

#14 Jan 15, 2008
What cancer does to people is horribly unimaginable. It is devestating. I feel awful for this man and his family. May their souls reunite and their children find the strength to forgive him.
Michelle

Bristol, CT

#15 Jan 15, 2008
jane wrote:
Cancer is a terrible disease but clinical depression is also a terrible, debilitating illness. We don't judge people who have cancer; lets also not judge people who commit suicide because they have a mental illness that didn't receive the necessary treatment.
My sympathy and love to the Brodeur family.
My heart goes out to these children. It is very sad. I hope someone someday explains this to the children the way Jane explained it.

Since: Jul 07

AOL

#16 Jan 15, 2008
I lost my son when he was only 15. I suffered severe depression for years. One day I thought to end my life, even though I had healthy children at home. It is the very bottom. It is hell! You are not being selfish, you are ill! For others to say it is a selfish act have not been at that bottom before. The pain so strong, and the world is so cruel. Getting up each day is a chore, even if you do have so many others...children and family members that love you.
Mental illness is not talked about much and when people do, they think you are crazy. It is a horrible disease and is not controllable as easy as people think.
I sat at the cemetery next to my sons grave planning my death. I felt hope that I was going to die and this unthinkable pain will finally be gone. And I will be able to see him again. Something stopped me. An angel, a sign from my son...but I didn't go through with it. I know his pain!
Please don't say it is selfish. For some it is the only way to relieve the pain when medication and doctors cannot reach it!
I am not saying it is right...but saying why people do what they do.
God bless the family.
Rest in peace.
Kat

United States

#17 Jan 15, 2008
I am so saddened because 3 beautiful children now are orphaned. If only he could of reached out and asked for help in dealing with his wife's death.
Jammy

Bristol, CT

#18 Jan 15, 2008
His wifes death may have broken his heart and his grief may have been too much for him too handle.
annonymous

Greenfield, MA

#19 Jan 15, 2008
disappointed wrote:
How could he not think of his poor children, What a selfish man. Now the poor kids have that they have to live with now too.
He was a good father and if you knew him you'd know he was the least selfish person in the world. The most loving and giving person I've ever known. Truly a shock to everyone here.
-old saybrook
annonymous

Greenfield, MA

#20 Jan 15, 2008
He was the least selfish man I've ever known. There is more to his story that wasn't printed in the paper that would maybe give us all an idea of what he was really going through.
Bob

Buzzards Bay, MA

#21 Jan 15, 2008
annonymous wrote:
He was the least selfish man I've ever known. There is more to his story that wasn't printed in the paper that would maybe give us all an idea of what he was really going through.
You are right nobody knows what pain this man went threw. And to cast stones at someone by reading words written in a paper is not right. No one has the right to talk about pain this man went threw unless they have walked in his shoes.
puglover

Waterbury, CT

#22 Jan 15, 2008
Very sad and tragic.

Since: Jun 07

Somewhere in the World

#23 Jan 16, 2008
As much as I hate to admit it, yeah I think he was selfish in his actions too.
I can understand the grief, but doggone it..that is why there are counselors out there for this type of thing.
His children should have come first. They were depending on him to be there. They should have been the reason for his living. I feel bad for the children, but worse for him, as it seems that he was hurting more than anyone knew.
Jenna

United States

#24 Jan 30, 2008
My name is Jenna and Timothy Brodeur is my uncle, he was my favorite and he was the greatest man ive ever known, im glad some people care about these childern, i just want everyone who didnt know him as well as i did to know that he loved his three childern. Ashley his oldest and shes my age and melanie is not that far behind, same with sean. Im very close with them...they are living with my mom and dad and there safe and cared for.
--old saybrook
(jenna)

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