raising kids for the second time

raising kids for the second time

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grandmom

United States

#1 Oct 23, 2007
help... i feel so overwhelmed, tierd, resentful
talk to me
Hello

Jermyn, PA

#2 Oct 23, 2007
grandmom wrote:
help... i feel so overwhelmed, tierd, resentful
talk to me
I want you to know that I am sorry, for this to happen to you or any other grandparent..........I am a grandparent and I have told my daughter that she needs to take care of her childern for I will NOT raise her childern. Please don't get me wrong...I LOVE MY GRANDDAUGHTERS...BUT I raised my childern and sacrificed for them and I deserve to enjoy what time I have left. If she ever lost her chidern I would still be their grandmother and I would still see them...God could NOT keep me from them...BUT it is NOT my spot to raise these kids.It would NOT be fair to ask me to do so...there is good foster homes and other family members...BUT NOT ME....I did my job...NOW these kids need to raise their own.WHY do you have these kids?
Hello

Jermyn, PA

#3 Oct 23, 2007
I am also wondering is this a temp. situation or for a life time???? I know what I said earlier seems a little harsh...I am sure it is easier said then done. Everytime my kids do something to disappoint me...I wonder where I went wrong. Then I rember, that these kids did NOT come with a handbook...I did my best and it is there mistakes NOT mine. I did NOT do anything wrong SO I WILL NOT be ashamed. PLEASE rember also that these grandbabies did NOT choose to be there...they ALSO have been put in this situation...the only one to be angry with is their parents....what a shame for these kids to be put through. I will tell you that perhaps some other family member could help out...even if they took the kids to the park for an hour or over night ....anytime would be a great help, I am sure. If they aren't in school check and see if maybe you could place them in a daycare...title 20 through the state, just to give you a break.There must be some help for you to keep your sanity.There is what they call respite care through the foster care system...
Hello

Jermyn, PA

#4 Oct 24, 2007
grandmom wrote:
help... i feel so overwhelmed, tierd, resentful
talk to me
Hello...I hope today was a better day for you....AND the kids.
grandchild

United States

#5 Oct 25, 2007
I am raised by my grandparents. They do there best and I know they do my sister and I sometimes take this forgranted. They have already been through the whole raising kids thing why shoudl they ahve to do it again. I know that it isnt fair for them, it is also not fair to us kids, we also have to sufffer. We miss out on things, and have to deal with the fact that the people we live with our twice as old as our friends parents. I just wish things were normal for me sometimes, but then i think, what would my life be like if I didnt live wiht my grandparents. It is a sucky situationa dn i am trying to learn to be more understanding, I love my grandparents more then ever, and hope they realize that we do care and we do understand.
Hello

Jermyn, PA

#7 Oct 26, 2007
grandchild wrote:
I am raised by my grandparents. They do there best and I know they do my sister and I sometimes take this forgranted. They have already been through the whole raising kids thing why shoudl they ahve to do it again. I know that it isnt fair for them, it is also not fair to us kids, we also have to sufffer. We miss out on things, and have to deal with the fact that the people we live with our twice as old as our friends parents. I just wish things were normal for me sometimes, but then i think, what would my life be like if I didnt live wiht my grandparents. It is a sucky situationa dn i am trying to learn to be more understanding, I love my grandparents more then ever, and hope they realize that we do care and we do understand.
Honey I know that you love your grandparents and they love ... if
Hello

Jermyn, PA

#8 Oct 26, 2007
OOPS...I could NOT get the post to work right.... you know they love you....if they didn't you would be wherever. They may be older then your parents...BUT honey my DAD was older and he was a great parent AND he loved me... that's all that matters. You need to tell them you love them and be thankful they love you so much. Everything they do or say you should br thankful for... I know this is NOT easy but you hang in there....it will work out. Grandparents and parents are two different things BUT sometimes they just must do what is best....................... NO ONE is perfect.
Hello

Jermyn, PA

#9 Oct 27, 2007
grandmom wrote:
help... i feel so overwhelmed, tierd, resentful
talk to me
I hope you are well....please leave me know.Talking about this is a good way to get through this....VENTING feels so good. L.O.L. I raised 4 that drove me crazy and one still is...BUT I know I did my best....I am sure you also did. TALK TO ME.....please.Maybe we can help someone else, also.
Hello

Jermyn, PA

#10 Nov 2, 2007
grandchild wrote:
I am raised by my grandparents. They do there best and I know they do my sister and I sometimes take this forgranted. They have already been through the whole raising kids thing why shoudl they ahve to do it again. I know that it isnt fair for them, it is also not fair to us kids, we also have to sufffer. We miss out on things, and have to deal with the fact that the people we live with our twice as old as our friends parents. I just wish things were normal for me sometimes, but then i think, what would my life be like if I didnt live wiht my grandparents. It is a sucky situationa dn i am trying to learn to be more understanding, I love my grandparents more then ever, and hope they realize that we do care and we do understand.
I hope you are all well....if I can help please leave me know. Happy Holidays!!!
Hello

Jermyn, PA

#11 Nov 9, 2007
Are you out there???? Can I help in anyway??? Please leave me know.
big red

AOL

#12 Nov 19, 2007
grandmom wrote:
help... i feel so overwhelmed, tierd, resentful
talk to me
ive been raising my grandson for 9 years,no its not our duty, but what grandmom would not take care of her own..struggle, yes we do, but i will not see a stranger raise my little grandkid...it does get better,,if you want to talk..my email is [email protected]

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