Parental Alienation: The Ultimate Hat...

Parental Alienation: The Ultimate Hate Crime

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Absolute Power

East Syracuse, NY

#1 Nov 3, 2011
Educating the public as to the nature of this inappropriate behavior by the controling parent.

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Absolute Power

East Syracuse, NY

#2 Nov 3, 2011
If Everyone cared....

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Liverpool, NY

#3 Nov 3, 2011
Family Court DOES NOT ignore this. Get a witness and have them testify.

United States

#4 Nov 4, 2011
Absolute Power wrote:
Educating the public as to the nature of this inappropriate behavior by the controling parent. =Gw3Cuo3GECQXX&feature=rel ated
The American Bar Association has found that parental alienation exists in 60% of custody cases. That finding was from a 12-year study, and comes against a backdrop of increasing awareness of parental alienation by the public generally and the mental health community. Occasionally we see a case in which a judge not only recognizes the alienation of a child by a parent, but does something about it.

This is one of those cases (Virginia Law Weekly, 9/23/11).

The parents are military people, which meant that she traveled overseas a lot. How they came to be divorced goes unstated, but suffice it to say that Ms. Canedo had primary custody of the couple’s little girl, who is now five years old. But primary custody appears not to have satisfied Mom who, according to the trial court judge’s 13-page description, went on a campaign of parental alienation of their daughter against her dad.

I’ve written plenty about parents who do the most outlandish and awful things to their children, all in the interest of coming between them and the other parent. And Ms. Canedo took a back seat to none of them in her drive to separate her daughter from her father.

Kendrick found the mother used false allegations of sexual abuse by the father as an excuse to justify shutting the father out of the daughter’s life.

“Mother has isolated the child from anyone the mother does not approve of, and has established an unhealthy co-dependent relationship between herself and the child,” Kendrick wrote in Canedo v. Canedo.

The custody battle played out in a military family, and the mother’s international travels did not help her cause. Kendrick found the child enjoyed “very little stability” as the mother moved her from place to place every other year…

The mother’s case apparently was undone by her lack of credibility with the judge.“Mother has been dishonest with father, dishonest with [her daughter’s] regular caregivers, dishonest with professionals … and at length, dishonest with this Court,” Kendrick wrote.

But Ms. Canedo wasn’t satisfied with off-the-shelf alienation. False allegations of sexual abuse? Lying to the court? Lying to mental health professionals? Hey, anyone can do those things. In fact lots of people do them every day in custody matters.

As I said, Ms. Canedo is in some branch of the armed services, and it seems she learned a thing or two there.

In a scorching opinion, Judge Benjamin N.A. Kendrick not only concluded the mother carried on an active campaign to alienate the girl from the father, he even suggested the mother used military counter-intelligence tactics such as sleep deprivation and food rewards to manipulate the preschooler…

Kendrick found the mother used tactics learned at military counter-intelligence schools “for the purpose of gaining actionable intelligence from terrorists.”

“Mother used punishment and reward tactics through sleep deprivation and food” when she took her daughter to interviews with professionals, the judge said.“These methods are not to be used to manipulate defenseless children,” Kendrick wrote.

That’s right. Canedo used tactics that walk a thin line between legitimate (albeit rough) interrogation of suspects and torture. If police did to an adult suspected of mass murder what Canedo did, the suspect would be freed in no time. But she used them on her daughter who was younger than five at the time. She did it to force the child to make false allegations of abuse against her father when mental health professionals interviewed her. Simply amazing.

The rest of the article and additional resources for parental alienation can be found here:
mike jeffries

Farmington, CT

#5 Nov 6, 2011
Not sure parental alienation is a "hate crime," becuase long-standing unresolved emotional issues, not hate, drive the alienating parent. But alienation does affect countless parents, children and extended family members every year.

We should also make clear that parental alienation is a mental health issue, and not a legal issue. While the courts to facilitate alienation, if the long-standing, unresolved emotional issues did not exist in the alienating parent parental alienation couldn't happen.

For more information, and resources, on parental alienation you can visit .
Hear Say

East Syracuse, NY

#6 Nov 6, 2011
You know what I think? I think the courts create a lot of stress in the lives of families. One model fits all children.

Trumansburg, NY

#7 Nov 6, 2011
i agree and custody should be given to the better parent not automatically the mother.
Seen it

East Syracuse, NY

#8 Nov 7, 2011
I know some grandparents that could win the prize for alienation.

Ithaca, NY

#9 Jun 4, 2013
Read the book "Divorce Poison" some states do recognize parental alienation as a crime but you need to know the right terminology so the lawyer knows which direction to go. Poisoning a child's mind against one parent in order to disenfranchise them from the parent/child relationship is a methodical strategy to cut that parent out of the lives of the child/children. It is a behavior that if you can articulate it to a judge may be recognized and corrected before their is irreparable emotional harm to the family. Don't ignore it or it will get worse. It has to be dealt with swiftly and surely.

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