Narcissistic intent? LOL ( I will have to remember that one )<quoted text>
'Every couple... with a narcissistic intent' makes it sound malicious. No. But I do think there is a certain amount (however much that may be will be vastly variable) involved. People often express having children in ways which suggest it for what it is - reproduction. To want to reproduce yourselves is a just a touch narcissistic; as is wanting a part of yourself to live on in the future as an abstract way of immortality. No, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that and wanting to do so is a natural instinct and being enough narcissistic to think of oneself as alright enough to contribute to another is very psychologically healthy. It's merely a suggestion of one (one of many) reasons people wish to have children.
There are many ways of 'depriving' a child of a parent not just SS and not just the physical absence from that child's life. It isn't a perfect world and relationships aren't perfect. With any perceived disadvantage to that child there are always (often unanticipated) advantages within the uniqueness of each persons upbringing. To say it's wrong per-se is to over generalise, I think. Sometimes unidealised conditions (within a limited reasonable amount, ie, not talking about abuse/neglect) is character building and makes for uniqueness. And no I don't see a SSM producing abuse/neglect as you seem to. I really don't imagine the two can be comparable. Like I said before, may be one of the problems of adjustment a child has with two SS parents is society's attitude to it.
My children are not me, nor are or were they ever my property, nor my wife for that matter, if my intent was to create a duplicate of myself it was a dismal failure, or better, a fantastic success that they are not me.
Of course all my children support same sex marriage, because we taught them proper values, freedom, equality and justice, they are patriots, and support those values like all patriots do.