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someone

Beckley, WV

#1 May 22, 2011
when is the right age to tell a child they are adopted
really

Fayetteville, WV

#2 May 22, 2011
As soon as possible!!!! Don't wait until they are "older". Trust me. I would know.
messed up

Charleston, WV

#3 May 22, 2011
I think that depends on the situation. The parents and when the child is ready.
chris sanson

Beckley, WV

#4 May 22, 2011
im an adopted baby and look how i turned out,awsome
someone

Beckley, WV

#5 May 22, 2011
well actually the mother gave up all rights because she is a drug addict and baby daddy got custody and he knows me as mom,he was left by mother at birth he doesnt know anmything but me as mom i met his father when he was one yrs old and he doesnt remember that i wasnt always there,so when would a good age to tell the child
chris sanson

Oak Hill, WV

#6 May 22, 2011
chris sanson wrote:
im an adopted baby and look how i turned out,awsome
no im chris sanson and look how i turned out,awesome
someone

Beckley, WV

#7 May 22, 2011
any advise
latisha

Charleston, WV

#8 May 22, 2011
you'll know when the right time is trust your judgement.
Concerned

Summersville, WV

#9 May 22, 2011
my daughter was told when she was 6 but that was because my husband adopted her and we had to go to court she took it well but i would have waited a little longer but it just depends on circumstances
someone

Beckley, WV

#10 May 23, 2011
they should know.for health issues and if you dont they will probally be very mad that they wasnt told what do you think
fireflies

Beckley, WV

#11 May 23, 2011
you arre right
lol

Charleston, WV

#12 May 23, 2011
I think its no ones business except the child and parents no one else should be involved.
ninja

Beckley, WV

#13 May 23, 2011
YEAH well what does that got to do with the question she just wasnt advise,ibthink around age 10 is a good time
BANGO

Fayetteville, WV

#14 May 23, 2011
You had better tell them before they get to the teen drama stages. They are likely to over-react and snap to doing something retarded. If it makes you feel any better. I wish I was adopted! lol
lol

Charleston, WV

#15 May 23, 2011
I'm sure your parents do too.
yep

Oak Hill, WV

#16 May 24, 2011
i think it depends on the maturity of the child like the other person said 10 is possible a good age you def dont wanna do it in the teen years because of the drama lol
Kermit

Jayton, TX

#17 May 24, 2011
Unless other people know about it, and are likely to tell the child, I would go to my death bed with my child KNOWING I was his mother.

Children who are told they are "special" and were "picked out" like a friggin puppy feel different from all their friends. They lose their sense of security and feel inferior their whole lives.

It is in the child's best interests to not ever be told. You are his mother, period, end of story. Don't give that title to the one who gave the child away, and don't saddle the kid with feelings of worthlessness for not being wanted by his/her "real" mother.

Adulthood is the time for them to find out if they must, they are mature enough to handle it then and the danger of being made fun of is past.

Just my experience, thought I would share.
someone

Beckley, WV

#18 May 24, 2011
Kermit wrote:
Unless other people know about it, and are likely to tell the child, I would go to my death bed with my child KNOWING I was his mother.
Children who are told they are "special" and were "picked out" like a friggin puppy feel different from all their friends. They lose their sense of security and feel inferior their whole lives.
It is in the child's best interests to not ever be told. You are his mother, period, end of story. Don't give that title to the one who gave the child away, and don't saddle the kid with feelings of worthlessness for not being wanted by his/her "real" mother.
Adulthood is the time for them to find out if they must, they are mature enough to handle it then and the danger of being made fun of is past.
Just my experience, thought I would share.
kermit go back to my second post.i think it would be selfish,the child has brothers he might want to meet,the rest of the family might be peices of shit but i think it should be up to the child to decide if they want to meet thier real brothers or sisters .i think if it was me i would want to know thats what you got to think about also. they always find out one way or another and then they might hate you for not telling them. its a no win situation i guess
better than

Rupert, WV

#19 May 24, 2011
someone wrote:
when is the right age to tell a child they are adopted
the child will feel a void in their life...it most always happens...when they begin to question things...then and nly then is it time.
hellyano

Beckley, WV

#20 May 25, 2011
thats a tough issue

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