Even experienced moms can be surprise...

Even experienced moms can be surprised by pregnancy

There are 47 comments on the Chicago Tribune story from Sep 29, 2008, titled Even experienced moms can be surprised by pregnancy. In it, Chicago Tribune reports that:

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Since: Sep 08

Monroe, WI

#41 Oct 1, 2008
This is bizarre. Is it really common to have blood while pregnant?(I know it's not healthy). That's the big sign I just don't get. Either you are bleeding every month or so, or you are so uninformed that you don't realize that it's abnormal to stop having a period for 9 months. Both possibilities are frightening!

Completely agree with posters who are saying that this shows a need for more comprehensive sex ed.

“Think First, Speak Second”

Since: Jun 08

Washington D.C.

#43 Oct 1, 2008
Just goes to show the power of a woman being able to deny facts and reality to the nth degree then believe what she wants to believe.

Preganancy isn't the only area where a woman "knows" she is right about the situation.

Men are from Earth, Women are not.
Sarah

Rohnert Park, CA

#44 Oct 1, 2008
MsPixie wrote:
This is bizarre. Is it really common to have blood while pregnant?(I know it's not healthy). That's the big sign I just don't get. Either you are bleeding every month or so, or you are so uninformed that you don't realize that it's abnormal to stop having a period for 9 months. Both possibilities are frightening!
Completely agree with posters who are saying that this shows a need for more comprehensive sex ed.
Most women don't realize that the "period" you get in the placebo week of taking birth control pills is not physiologically the same as a normal period. It's a symptom of withdrawal from the pill itself, not the body's reaction to ending a cycle without getting pregnant. If you are still taking birth control (which fails occasionally, even with perfect use), you should still get some bleed every month, even if you were pregnant. So a woman who assumed everything should be ok because she was on the pill would be right, 97% of the time. But they likely wouldn't have the no-bleed cue as a tipoff.
Sarah

Rohnert Park, CA

#45 Oct 1, 2008
MsPixie wrote:
This is bizarre. Is it really common to have blood while pregnant?(I know it's not healthy). That's the big sign I just don't get. Either you are bleeding every month or so, or you are so uninformed that you don't realize that it's abnormal to stop having a period for 9 months. Both possibilities are frightening!
I should also say: off the pill, it's not common to bleed regularly during pregnancy, but it does happen and it's not always unhealthy (though it can be a sign of problems). Much much more common is irregular bleeding during pregnancy (spotting or even one or two light or full periods), which can happen at any point, but usually earlier in the pregnancy.

There is a whole range of physiological variation in women. A lot of the signs women have pointed to in this discussion are *highly* variable---some women have breast tenderness or back pain as part of their normal cycle. Some women don't get PMS or cramps at the start of their period. Many women have really irregular cycles with very light bleeding. Many women (especially really thin women and athletes) rarely have a period. Some women have enough variation in their regular cycle that the date they start bleeding each month is not accurately predictable (though it comes about the same time).

Some women are just more sensitive to subtle changes in their body. I've met a bunch of women who swear that they can feel themselves ovulate, whereas I've never felt that, and have a hard time understanding what that could feel like, or how any person could feel one cell moving out of their ovary. Just in the few posts in this discussion, you have some women saying they knew they were pregnant within a couple days, some at a couple weeks, and some not for a few months. For a women with irregular periods, who doesn't get strong cramps or bad PMS, who might be on the pill or who doesn't have a lot of sex, and who didn't get bigger or gain weight, it's easy to see how it could go for a couple months unnoticed. Granted, we're not talking about a huge segment of the female population here, but this scenario is plausible enough that it could happen occasionally.
good Grief

Crystal Lake, IL

#46 Oct 1, 2008
ALL women who are 'caught off guard' by finding they're pregnant are in denial. They don't want to believe the facts, so they don't until it is 'too late'.

ALL women who experience this should go to a mental health expert - they need it.
Marsha

New Orleans, LA

#47 Oct 1, 2008
good Grief wrote:
ALL women who are 'caught off guard' by finding they're pregnant are in denial. They don't want to believe the facts, so they don't until it is 'too late'.
ALL women who experience this should go to a mental health expert - they need it.
And YOU'D be an expert on this?!?

Gimme a break. Your post is utter rubbish.

Since: Sep 08

Monroe, WI

#48 Oct 9, 2008
Sarah wrote:
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I should also say: off the pill, it's not common to bleed regularly during pregnancy, but it does happen and it's not always unhealthy (though it can be a sign of problems). Much much more common is irregular bleeding during pregnancy (spotting or even one or two light or full periods), which can happen at any point, but usually earlier in the pregnancy.
There is a whole range of physiological variation in women. A lot of the signs women have pointed to in this discussion are *highly* variable---some women have breast tenderness or back pain as part of their normal cycle. Some women don't get PMS or cramps at the start of their period. Many women have really irregular cycles with very light bleeding. Many women (especially really thin women and athletes) rarely have a period. Some women have enough variation in their regular cycle that the date they start bleeding each month is not accurately predictable (though it comes about the same time).
Some women are just more sensitive to subtle changes in their body. I've met a bunch of women who swear that they can feel themselves ovulate, whereas I've never felt that, and have a hard time understanding what that could feel like, or how any person could feel one cell moving out of their ovary. Just in the few posts in this discussion, you have some women saying they knew they were pregnant within a couple days, some at a couple weeks, and some not for a few months. For a women with irregular periods, who doesn't get strong cramps or bad PMS, who might be on the pill or who doesn't have a lot of sex, and who didn't get bigger or gain weight, it's easy to see how it could go for a couple months unnoticed. Granted, we're not talking about a huge segment of the female population here, but this scenario is plausible enough that it could happen occasionally.
Excellent points, thank you!! That certainly clears up the questions that I had.:) And I quite agree with your final statement: not the majority, but it's plausible enough to happen occasionally.:)

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