Child Molestation in Webter County

[Pam Brayfield]

I would like to begin a discussion here regarding a cse I am very aware of in this county that is in the middle of a trial as we speak; I would like your comments on this incident.
There is a small boy, that is in the custody of his mother with visitation for the father. For some quick backgrond, the mother was 14 years old when the 17 year old boy got her pregnant. She chose to keep her child and has done a very fine job of raising her child, with the help of her wonderful family. She works, she goes to college and she sets a fine example for her child.
During one of the visitation with his father, the father's GIRLFRIEND and her younger familt member, sexually abused this child by pentrating him with objects. He was 3 years old at that time.....keep reading

[Pam Brayfield]

He returned home and told his mother and family that these girls hurt him and how and what they did to him, keep in mind, he was 3 years old. The family went straight to the hotline services and attempted to get en ex-parte order against these girls, now, because the father refuses to give up his girlfriend, that abused his son, they are in court for a modification of custody. Nothing has been done with these girls, and the young one who started the abuse had been abused herself.
The family of this mother and child have went in every direction the right and lawful way to protect this child from further abuse. There are attorneys, a guardian ad litem and a counselor involved. Now keep in mind here, the guardiam ad litem, who supposedly represents this chil, has NEVER spoken to the child, or his mother and it is a known fact that she is "FRIENDS" of the father's attorney. There have been court orders by the Judge in this case pending a hearing, that have be disregarded at every point, by his attorney, this counselor as well as his guardian, the orders previously handed down by the Judge were and simply ignored and nothing has been done about that........read on

[Pam Brayfield]

I will be back with the rest of the story after church.

[Pam Brayfield]

Okay folks, sorry, but I just got tthe time to return. Anyway, as for current events, there has been a hearing and the Judge so far, has not made a decision , but the guardian has recommended that this child live with his father! Can you believe this? He allows his girlfriend to sexually abuse his son, and to continue the abuse, and they think he should go live with this man? What in the world is wrong with this system these days? Please excuse the misspelled words from time to time as my fingers seem to try to keep up with my mind and it is impossible.(HA).
Anyway, the Judge stated at the first hearing, that he believed he would get a new girlfriend if this happened to his child, but now, there is a question of the child being forced to live in this situation on a daily basis, yaking him out of his safes and bonded enviornment, and placing him with people he cries and does not even want to visit? This father doesn't even have enough about himself to soen his weekends with his child without sunbjecting him to further sexual abuse by placing him in the company of these girls. The father drinks non-stop and his father, the grandfather is an alcoholic, and in my opinion, and grandmother that would even tolerate having these girls in her home much less around her grandson while he is visiting at her home after what has happened, is just plain ccrazy. What do you think? To take sides with the abuser and defend her and allow her into her hjome after she has penetrated her grandson at the age of 3, with foriegn objects, ie.,( I hear that one item was plastic tampon covers) is beyond my reasonable thinking. What do you think here? I would like to hear your comments.....

[Pam Brayfield]

Continued.... This father has been being surveiled by the authorities for drugs as well, or so say the authorities.
The mother of this child works, attends college, has her son in private Christain school, never leaves him with anyone other than her mother or her grandmother, who I might add are very reputible in our community, and this child is loved anc cared for in this home very, very well. The family members of the mother never wanted this child to NOT have a relationship with his father, all they want is for this child to not be sexually abused any further. This mother and her family did nothing wrong in this case, it was a visit to his father where the abuse took place, not in the home of his mother, yet it appears that the system wants to punish this mother and family by taking custody from them and giving it to the father who is still with the abuser, which will only allow further abuse at any given time, and has contiued on a regular basis, every time the child visits his father. For example, the father spend very little time with this child, the girlfriend gives this child bathes, and the child states that "she HURTS" him again every time this goes on. And the Judge has to take this case under "advisement" to make a decision here? What the hell is REALLY goin on here in Webster County? Is this a county where it's not what you know but who you know that is going to determine the future of this innocent child? I have first hand knowkedge of this case as the child has told me what happened to him and I made a recording of what he told me, but for some reson, no one wants to hear what this child is saying. He also drew a picture for me of what these girls penetrated him with, now keep in mind he is now only 4 yrs. old, The picture dipicts a perfect mechanical device, used by single women if you get my drift, right down to the head of a penis. How does a child draw such a picture at 4 years old unles he has seen this item and it has been used on him, I ask you? He also stated to me in the recording that the girls told him, "it wasn't going to hurt, but it did hurt me". Now I ask you, the publice, what are your thought on the future of this child and what the system is doing to him? The DFS worker had the nerve to ask the grandmother of this child di she know that they were ruining these girls lives? She better be glad she asked her that question and not me, because I believe I would have had to slapped her face off, after all, what in the world does she think this is doing to this child's life? Making it pleasurable? Come on now, he is 4 years old and was 3 when it started. Thank you and I look forward to your comments.

[To pam]

she kinda makes it up as she goes along folks, just something else to gossip about for her.

[Pam Brayfield]

To pam wrote:

she kinda makes it up as she goes along folks, just something else to gossip about for her.

Okay Derrick, this is a cse you know NOTHING about, but I am personally involved with so why don't you get a life and get a JOB.

[To pam]

i'm still not derric but you can call me whatever you want. you sure r dumb

[Brad]

It amazes me that you are so eager to point fingers with the respectable people that you talked about in your blog and try to run down or take crack shot the boy's father and his family members. Obviously you know the boy and his mother's family and have stated your opinion about them and have your own idea of how things should be done. But i must ask why are you so sure of yourself and what you are saying if you only hear half of the story? Have you ever met the father? Or is your nose that big that you can't see past it??

[Wendy from Ava]

Obviously you need to get your facts straight Pam and read all the reports. Since the mother sends the child to a Christian school then I guess she knows that she, the mother, knows she will be judged by her maker for all of the lies she has told. Pam if you k ow this case so well why didn't, you post the fact that all alligations were found unsubstantiated it was admiited by the child that his mothers family made him say those things.
I'd like to say that I'm proud of the father for fighting for his son.

[brenda]

id like to add that i am also glad that the father is fighting for him son. i know his family quite well and i have been following this case since it has started. i have heard both sides of the story and i think that it is wrong that the mother would even think about putting their 3 year old child through this shit just to have attention for herself. as for the girls family, well you couldnt ask for a better family to care and love that little boy. they treat him as their own and would never do anything to harm him. i think the biggest problem with the mother is jealousy. she needs to get over herself and face the facts.

[Amanda]

Wow Pam you are unbelievable!!!!!! Reading your wannabe blogging made me sick to my stomach. I know this child's father and his girlfriend very well! You want to talk about REAL child abuse than lets discuss this boys mother. The girlfriend has been found innocent but the stigma of what this crazy JEALOUS mother said about her will follow her for the rest of her life, but the fact that his own mother put him through this will soon be forgotten. Her making her son lie about these crude and disgusting accusations, is the child abuse you should be writing about. Your so quick to state what you THINK you know, but in reality you look like a moron!! You said you go to church well I pray that Gods sprite of conviction comes over you. You don't know what this girlfriend has been through just because this mother is merely jealous, and than you add this? I'm not here to judge you because god will do that, but I'm here to tell you, don't talk, don't blog, don't even think about running down this father, his family and his girlfriend until you actually know what your talking about.

[Amanda]

I meant spirit not sprite but I do need a sprite after your blog!

[Nancy- Norwood]

Pam you should get all the facts before you go along with the mothers family and start making false alligations! I know that your a mother yourself well how would you feel if some woman and her family made these sick lies up about your child out of PURE JEALOUSY? It is horrible not only the things they put the girl, the father and their families through, but wow how could they do that to their own son? Pam I think that you really need to take your own advise given above to Derric and get a life, and all the facts! I have followed this story and know both sides of it, if you care for this child like you say open your eyes and see what his mother and her family have put him through all becasue of Jealousy. They have taken so much out of the poor kids childhood by making him go through this it just makes me sick to think that any parent could put their child through that! Isn't it the parents who are to guide their children on the right path teach them that lying is wrong, not to do it. SO sad that they would do this to their child for their hopes of making themselves feel better. In closing I want to say that those girls and their families are great people, as for the father you will not find a better, more involved and loving father. I am proud of him for fighting for his son and whats right! PAM you don't even know the girls, the father or the families that you have wrote all this horrible stuff about, so what gives you any right to say this?

[JustMe]

I am a huge advocate for children in this county. I also am a huge advocate for putting women in jail that make up crimes against fathers for their own gain. I have been informed of what is going on in this case and I think that it boils down to what the experts call "Malicious Mother Syndrome." You should read about it. There are too many women out there that can't stand that their former boyfriend is with someone else and they set out to punish him by taking away the child. I hope the father does get custody in this situation and that the mom gets the help that she needs so she can have a positive relationship with her child.

[Katie]

I agree with JustMe. The mother is a very distrubed person. A person that would put their child thru all this DOES NOT need to have the custody of the child. They need to be put away & pay dearly for the damage they have done.
Pam I understand you are very close to the mother's family,(like next door neighbors)so you know first hand how distrubed these people are. And by taking their side in this matter tells me a lot about you. You have made some powerful statements about the father and his family whom you know NOTHING about. Maybe you should look beyond your nose and rethink this matter.Put yourself in the middle of this mess, how would you feel if someone SICK did this to you or your family???

[Grandmother]

I usually dont comment on these things but this one got to me because people get on these sites and bash people names and dont understand or care what it does to the children well this is my opinion. I know what its like to go through molestation and have 2 grandaughters that went through it and we are still troubled by it will haunt a child for the rest of their lives. As for people using their child being molested for a custody battle is insane it hurts the children who have really been molested. Because of lies no one wants to believe them and the person that really did this horrible thing gets away with it. So people please dont put your child through this and think about all the children who are going through this and pray that the laws get tougher for those who do hurt our children. I pray that one day these monsters will not be aloud to plea to lesser charges that they pay for what they have done to all these inocent children.

[Pam Brayfield]

Brad wrote:

It amazes me that you are so eager to point fingers with the respectable people that you talked about in your blog and try to run down or take crack shot the boy's father and his family members. Obviously you know the boy and his mother's family and have stated your opinion about them and have your own idea of how things should be done. But i must ask why are you so sure of yourself and what you are saying if you only hear half of the story? Have you ever met the father? Or is your nose that big that you can't see past it??

Definately met the father, and know OF his family! I have been around long enought to know that wehn a 3 year odl child tell yous someone hurt him there in his butt and draws you a PERFECT picture of a penis with balls attached, at 3 years old, he has been molested! What the hell I would like to know is if his father and family loves him so much why do they want to try and prove him a liar and keep that tramp around? If it was my child, I would have kicked that bitch to the curb at first sight after my son told me what had happened! You must remember, 3 year olds do not know anything about sex and body parts to make up lies about it nor can they draw perfect pictures of penis' etc., unless they've seen it!

[Pam Brayfield]

Wendy from Ava wrote:

Obviously you need to get your facts straight Pam and read all the reports. Since the mother sends the child to a Christian school then I guess she knows that she, the mother, knows she will be judged by her maker for all of the lies she has told. Pam if you k ow this case so well why didn't, you post the fact that all alligations were found unsubstantiated it was admiited by the child that his mothers family made him say those things.
I'd like to say that I'm proud of the father for fighting for his son.

Let me tell you about unsubstaniated reports, they are all about shit! My granddaughter was abused physically, told the police herself, pictures were taken by the police yet the reports still came back unsubstantiated! DFS is about a bunch of idiots! 3 year olds don't tell srories of somebody sticking something up theri butts and drawing pictures of a penis with balls unlss he has experienced it, maybe a 13 year old, but not a 3 (three) old! If you think for one minute a judge will believe that little boy just made up a lie like that then you need some professional help! Furthermore he told me that he TOLD his daddy what these girls did to him and all his daady done was told them not to do it anymore!Therefore he KNEW his child had been abused an he licks that bitches ass on a daily basis, so now you tell me, what's wrong with this picture? And the child was being treated by a professional, yet the father REFUSES to go with th boy to his therapist, what is it he's wanting to hid, if he's so perfect and innocent, then he would run into the professional office with his son! Not refuse to go and take him for his appointments!

[Pam Brayfield]

Wendy from Ava wrote:

Obviously you need to get your facts straight Pam and read all the reports. Since the mother sends the child to a Christian school then I guess she knows that she, the mother, knows she will be judged by her maker for all of the lies she has told. Pam if you k ow this case so well why didn't, you post the fact that all alligations were found unsubstantiated it was admiited by the child that his mothers family made him say those things.
I'd like to say that I'm proud of the father for fighting for his son.

Let me ask you this, talk all the shit you want to but have you seen a doctors phsyical report that states he was NOT abused that he did NOT have something place in his rectum? Until you do, don't talk shit to me honey!