Oregon's YOUNG(18-20)Sex-Offender law's...it's a OUTRAGE!!!!!

[OUTRAGED PARENT]

I'm the Mother of 16yr old Twin Daughters, and 20 and 21yr old Son's.
The Sex-Offender Law NEED's to be adjusted!!
I personally know what young girls are capable of, and that is CRYING RAPE.....because of fear of Parents...Not the boy that she willing had sex with and got caught by her parents...or the (14) girl that wanted to get drunk and party and ended up with(having sex) the popular boy,but he didn't call back the next day!!!....I've heard it all and saw it all....these Girls need to be stopped(HELD RESPONSIBLE FOR HER ACTIONS TOO!) they are making Rape seem like a non-violent crime and these real girls that are brutally raped are ashamed to come forward because of fear of being labeled like the MANY GIRLS right here in Lincoln County...that CRY WOLF!!
Allot of young men(boys 18-20) are paying dearly for the rest of their lives over a consensual sex act they shared, Now I understand the Law was made for a good reason but they sure didn't leave room for the black and white area's.
Parents don't realize what kind of PRESSURE/FEAR those girls have against them to say "I was Raped" BY THEIR PARENTS....afraid of Dad's punishment if she just said I wanted to have sex with him Dad..
In Lincoln County alone I know of 5 young boys that had this happen to them, Now their lives are ruined and they really don't(truly) understand why????
I wonder if that 14yr old girl understands that boy she willing had sex with, may go to PRISON under a RAPE charge and be raped by other inmates every day of his sentence????????
It should be this....They Both should be held responsible for their action with counseling & classes on how to "NOT PUT YOURSELF IN THAT SITUATION"
I would love to hear other's opinion, because it's tearing me up inside watching this happen to allot of young men(boy's) and nothing is happening to these girls, I wonder how many of these so called victims of young-sex truly go to Rape counseling????
I think the Prosecutor's should follow up on how many of these victims truly get counseling!!
A girls whose been really Raped needs counseling and allot of support(rape is normally brutal)...these young girls who cry wolf need stopped...there is a BIG difference between "Brutal Rape" and "I'm afraid of my Parents....or he used me&didn't want to be my boyfriend...or I got drunk...Parents need to know that allot of this Fraudulent Rape claims are just that, and start understanding that their daughter's have sex whenever(behind your back)...and then get caught by you and cry wolf!!
Does anyone out their understand me?

[Mysterywriter86]

I agree! The way the Law was wrote has left no room for counseling or classes(Just arrest the boy and ruin his life--over his girlfriend getting pissed-off)-(they were going out for 3yrs before he turned 18), and people(LAW) just don't seem to hold BOTH teens responsible at all! It's just arrest the boy & off to jail/prison/probation/sex-offe nder classes/mental Health classes/etc/etc.
This all could be handled for first-time offenders like this: "BOTH INVOLVED IN SEXUAL ACT" attend counseling & preventive classes. Oregon just jumps right into the legal system with the boy.
The girl goes to school the next day---the boy goes to prison.Rape was never the issue, the issue was he broke up with her! So now he's labeled sex-offender for the REST of his life.
Now that, I don't agree with at all. It's a miscarriage of justice & allot of young men are just ruined!

[Jon Sanders Jr]

Sounds like all the more reason for young guys (18-20) to be very careful and take the lead and if your in question of a girls age you best leave yours hands off her! error on the side of what we used to call "Jail Bait" red flag and run don't walk away.
I am a little older now but when I was a young service guy I delt with this myself--some underage Navy brat(Chick) at a party--- looks as young as your kid sister back home? break for the door--and don't look back!
I never had a problem... Please get the message out to young guys of these underage chicks.
"YOU LOOSE GUYS" "EVERYTIME" Even if its not my Daughter.

[Cindy George]

I live in Toledo,outside of Siletz and until we provide opportunities for our youth they will continue to drink and use drugs out of dispare. No one makes good choices when drunk. And many of our youth are medicated from the beginning of there school age.Then we become outraged if they turn to medicating themselves. I have tried to get Toledo Police and our schools to reach out but yet all I see is harrassment and throwing them out to a lack of jobs, stable homes so many have no home or even food each day.I am trying to start a community garden to provide our youth with a place to grow food right at Toledo Skate park where many of our at risk touth gather. We need a community center where children can go for basic needs like a meal or someone who cares!

[Jon Sanders]

Cindy George wrote:

I live in Toledo,outside of Siletz and until we provide opportunities for our youth they will continue to drink and use drugs out of dispare. No one makes good choices when drunk. And many of our youth are medicated from the beginning of there school age.Then we become outraged if they turn to medicating themselves. I have tried to get Toledo Police and our schools to reach out but yet all I see is harrassment and throwing them out to a lack of jobs, stable homes so many have no home or even food each day.I am trying to start a community garden to provide our youth with a place to grow food right at Toledo Skate park where many of our at risk touth gather. We need a community center where children can go for basic needs like a meal or someone who cares!

Good your doing something about it; if more people did as you do we would all be better off.
Thanks and good job!

[Whatever]

if your worried about getting charged with rape... do not take your pants off!

wait till marriage...
at least a long term relationship..(1 - 3 months is not long term)
there are lots of other fun things to do they will not get you in trouble.

bottom line, i think the laws are fine...

You would not walk into a bank wearing a ski mask and holding a duffle bag... right?

guys and girls alike should just keep their pants on... dont be dumb its not worth it.

[OUTRAGED PARENT]

Thank You all for your comments!!
Everyone's opinion counts!!

[Wondering]

Well if the girl is 14 why is she at a party and why does the parent not know where she is at? In my house I have numbers and addresses and also talk to the parents before my child goes to another persons home. Especially at night. I will know where my child is! I agree however that if a girl is out and about and does these things there should be consequences as well. Teach your child self respect. If they are afraid of the parent chances are they won't be coming to them for advice or any other thing that might be going on. And as far as long term relationship? Forget that..wait until you are married. Preserve yourself for a committed relationship. not just a long term.

[Curious girl]

I have a huge problem with Oregon's Sex Offender laws...here's a story for you...
A guy I knew was just about to turn 18 and he had been dating a girl that was 16 for several months. Both parents knew about it and everything was fine...well, they find out she's pregnant a few months after he turns 18..her mother, who she lived with, took her to the welfare office to get assistance..not the girls choice, was the mothers choice. Anyhow, so, they are there filling out paperwork and in order to get assistance for a pregnant woman, you have to give the fathers name, they put his name and since he was 18, they charged him with Rape III. OMG, what a joke...these people not only stayed together while he was in jail because of her mother, but they moved in together, got married and even had another child..but would the State of Oregon see that this was NOT a case of statutory rape?? NOPE!! They didn't care and now thanks to that greedy mother, who will take a hand out wether it's needed or not, he is labled a sex offender for 10 years. He can't get a good job to hire him due to that status as a sex offender.
I understand needing laws, but when it comes to registering someone as a sex offender for 10 years or for life, it should be looked at on a case by case basis.