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Im a father NOT a daddy

United States

#1 Sep 14, 2010
You know it's crazy when you try to be a father to your child and the mother can't understand that.I pay my child support and make sure my son got what he need's plus give her money every week just so they will be good.Now she with this ole nothin a$$ nicca and wanna play games with my child.Dropping him off when it's lovely for her and holdin him when i just wanna relax with my child. i tried the court, i tried being the understandin kat now im bout to be the ignorant nicca they want. bout to go on one and just start naming super sorry baby momma's
Single

United States

#2 Sep 14, 2010
Why dont u and i get together?
True Borther

Newport, AR

#3 Sep 14, 2010
Single wrote:
Why dont u and i get together?
Don't waste your time, just continue doing what you are doing now and GOD will make sure it pays off. I advise you not to give her any more money but just resume buying your son what he needs. She MIGHT be enjoying the money instead of the child. This happens in a lot of situations such as this. I am going through the same thing. Another guy is in the picture, that I am not jealous of or want her(clearing that up) but I feel like he should be a man and step up. Just keep your son's best interest at heart and you will never go wrong. Women can be dead beat mothers as well. Oh yeah, I hate the term BABY DADDY, I am a father as well. Stay strong.
jusjulie

United States

#4 Sep 14, 2010
well I wanna give you two props for stepping up and being men and wanting to help father ur children ..
as fas as the advice to stop paying her CS .. That's just silly .. 1) it can land you in jail 2) it takes alot to raise children .. The lil $200 or $300 a month you mau be paying doesn't put a dent in what it truly cost ..
however, I wish that there were more men who wanna be a father and not bitch about the money .. It takes alot more than $ to raise babies ..
OMGOSH

United States

#5 Sep 15, 2010
I am so sick of silly men saying that women will use child support for themselves just go ahead admit that you don't care about that child because if you did you wouldn't make that an issue. These moms have spent ALL their money to take careof your child, can't make ends meet, utilities cut off so you can get your freedom and get new outfits to go out. Wake up you don't really care about that childs well-being and if u did a little money wouldn't be an issue
arealbabymomma

Newport, AR

#6 Sep 15, 2010
yea money shouldn't be a issue so we shouldn't make it such a issue as well when they can't afford it everyone knows times is hard and everyone strugglin. Yall kill me I would rather a man come see his kid everyday or atleast call everyday than to send a check every week. Get off of it women them havin to give yall half they check every week while most of yall draw food stamps , hud , and alot get other checks for other kids ain't gonna make them want to be a father no more than if he wasn't havin to pay. If they want to be a daddy they will and if not step up and be a mom and a dad don't force them to do shit. I think it should be court ordered for the baby momma to have to give the reciepts to what they spend child support on. And unless its food . clothes , or any other things a kid needs to get through the week they should get introuble. Yea men get introuble when they don't pay but women don't get introuble when they spend the money on hair for them or clothes to hit the club in or get child support and don't let the daddy see the kid. Yea the mother may have to spend her hard earned money to do for her kids but thats part of bein a parent. I don't care if I got to walk barefooted as long as my kids ain't I ain't messed up. Be grateful for what god is given you everyday LIFE and stop worrin about silly stuff. Ya'll also forget that a majority of these men in newport got more than one kid to pay for each week.
arealbabymomma

Newport, AR

#7 Sep 15, 2010
I forgot to mention that I know plenty of women who got no good men layin up not doing nothing all day liven off them but they want to call the folks every time the baby daddy misses a week. Thats crazy this man liven with you and your kids call him daddy but he ain't doing nothing and you on green stuff like that. It kills me !!!!!
Da Real Chris Young

Newport, AR

#8 Sep 15, 2010
In response to (arealbabymomma) First of all, if you consider yourself to be a Baby Momma or a Baby Daddy, you're a "DEAD BEAT". There are a lot of men who want to be part of their children life. The fact of the matter is once the relationship of the two parents goes sour most ?BABY MOMMAS,? will knowingly use the children as aweapon against the FATHER. My advice to all the FATHERS who are sick & tired of going through this with your BABY MOMMAS, go back to court & file a petition for joint custody so you both share the same financial responsibility. It's not fair when the man has to provide for the woman when they are not in a relationship any longer.
jusjulie

Troy, MI

#9 Sep 15, 2010
let's take a woman who works and pays her own way (no governmet help).. Daycare $100+ a wk, rent $300-$500 (in newport) a month, car to get the child to daycare, dr, etc $200 -$300 a month, food $300+ a month, add in clothes, toys, diapers, cable, lights, water ... How much help is that CS really doing?

the poster who said that some "baby mommas" use the child as a weapon .. There are some chics like that .. Just like all baby daddies (fathers) aren't bad .. All baby mommas (mothers) aren't bad either .. The women who do use their babies to get what they want from the childs father are the ones who make the real mothers look bad ..
arealbabymomma

Newport, AR

#10 Sep 15, 2010
Da Real Chris Young wrote:
In response to (arealbabymomma) First of all, if you consider yourself to be a Baby Momma or a Baby Daddy, you're a "DEAD BEAT". There are a lot of men who want to be part of their children life. The fact of the matter is once the relationship of the two parents goes sour most ?BABY MOMMAS,? will knowingly use the children as aweapon against the FATHER. My advice to all the FATHERS who are sick & tired of going through this with your BABY MOMMAS, go back to court & file a petition for joint custody so you both share the same financial responsibility. It's not fair when the man has to provide for the woman when they are not in a relationship any longer.
I'm confused on how you got that I was a dead beat out of my post. I was simply saying that you can't make a man be a father with child support and women shouldn't make such a big deal out of it. Maybe you misread something that gave you the assumption that I don't do right by the father of my children. I have you know I do not recieve child support for them because I think it is pointless to put a man in a system that makes him be a father ( which most say is payin child support ) and if he doesn't spend time in jail for it. When you try to force anyone to do something they don't want to do that they are nervous to do or that they even dont know how to do then you most often get a bad outcome. So if he chooses to be in their life great if not I am not going to make him because that damages the relationship between you him and the child. As for some women using kids as a weapon. You are right but like julie said not all of them do and not all fathers are bad. I think it is a disgrace for a women to hold a child over a mans head to get what she wants and that is alot of why men will withdrawl from the child because of the mothers ingnorance.
OMGOSH

United States

#11 Sep 15, 2010
arealbabymomma wrote:
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I'm confused on how you got that I was a dead beat out of my post. I was simply saying that you can't make a man be a father with child support and women shouldn't make such a big deal out of it. Maybe you misread something that gave you the assumption that I don't do right by the father of my children. I have you know I do not recieve child support for them because I think it is pointless to put a man in a system that makes him be a father ( which most say is payin child support ) and if he doesn't spend time in jail for it. When you try to force anyone to do something they don't want to do that they are nervous to do or that they even dont know how to do then you most often get a bad outcome. So if he chooses to be in their life great if not I am not going to make him because that damages the relationship between you him and the child. As for some women using kids as a weapon. You are right but like julie said not all of them do and not all fathers are bad. I think it is a disgrace for a women to hold a child over a mans head to get what she wants and that is alot of why men will withdrawl from the child because of the mothers ingnorance.
You know some men and some women are lowdown. It shouldn't be solely about money but it is a disgrace that some of these men run fancy free, doing what they want while the mothers are struggling, government don't wanna help when u don't put them on support. What's the use in you and your kids starving when the daddy's brag about how much money they have to blow? Once again this doesn't mean all men but if a man don't want to come 50/50 put his butt on support and I don't care who mad. If u think life is hard and its hard to make it for that man, think about that innocent child who didn't ask to be here.
Da Real Chris Young

Newport, AR

#12 Sep 15, 2010
My BAD! I didn't mean it that way. It was just a response to the first couple of lines in your reply. I do hope that some good comes out of my post though. BIG UPS to all the REAL parents out there (Male & Female. We all sould want our children to do better than ourselves. Let's remember that a CHILD picks up on all negativity within & without the home. Let's set the example as parents no to use each other as a weapon. A child is innocent. There's no need to make thme feel like their the guuilty party, because that's usually what happens. Let's raise some Doctors, Lawyers, politicians instead of gang bangers & drug dealers. Remember as *Parents* WE play an important role in the developement of our childrens future. Make the choice.
tink

Clovis, NM

#13 Sep 15, 2010
Stop paying the extra money. It is her problem if the bills do not get paid. If your child needs clothing, something for school, food, or things of that nature then out right buy it. Your child will be better impacted by money you spend directly on them then money their mother spends on them that your child has no idea that it even originated from you. The court system has you until your child is 18... hopefully this other man is a phase. Stay positive and continue being the best you can be.
Guest 2

United States

#14 Sep 15, 2010
Here's an idea......how about keeping your pants zipped (guys) & you legs crossed (gals) until you are married & financially secure enough to be a 'baby daddy' & 'baby momma'.
ADUH

Newport, AR

#15 Sep 15, 2010
Guest 2 wrote:
Here's an idea......how about keeping your pants zipped (guys) & you legs crossed (gals) until you are married & financially secure enough to be a 'baby daddy' & 'baby momma'.
SOLVES ALL THE ABOVE PROBLEMS!!!!!!!
jusjulie

Troy, MI

#16 Sep 16, 2010
some ppl have had babies while being married and still end up with a "baby daddy or momma" .. It's called divorce ..
OMGOSH

United States

#17 Sep 16, 2010
jusjulie wrote:
some ppl have had babies while being married and still end up with a "baby daddy or momma" .. It's called divorce ..
Thank You. I was gonna say that!
blk mouth

Waterloo, Canada

#18 Sep 16, 2010
Wht the judge set is wht they get. I hate CS Iam a wmn anytime u have 2 go threw the court system b/s why mmake a man do sum he don't won't 2. It takes 2 ur a fault 2 so why call cs get real. Most wmn B mad B/c the man dosent want anything 2 do wit em. How can u ask 4 CS when u have a man living wit u an he don't work.huh I have 3 boys they don't want 4 nuthn they my every thang I jus wrk hard an do the best I can.I WIll not ask 4 CS. Member ladies it take 2
JusWondering

Henderson, AR

#19 Sep 16, 2010
Im a father NOT a daddy wrote:
You know it's crazy when you try to be a father to your child and the mother can't understand that.I pay my child support and make sure my son got what he need's plus give her money every week just so they will be good.Now she with this ole nothin a$$ nicca and wanna play games with my child.Dropping him off when it's lovely for her and holdin him when i just wanna relax with my child. i tried the court, i tried being the understandin kat now im bout to be the ignorant nicca they want. bout to go on one and just start naming super sorry baby momma's
I'm pretty sure you don't want"Single" and dont go on one that will be just another reason for her to go ham...let her and ol dude die out an I bet she get some get rite in her a$$ then...cut the money off,if you pay child support then you have the right to see your child...if you 're getting denied of that right then you should take it back to court so it'll be on paper that you can at least have your child on the weekends...that is only if you're real about wanting to c your child...Newport is bad about having f'd up baby momma's...
fam

Newport, AR

#20 Sep 16, 2010
tink wrote:
Stop paying the extra money. It is her problem if the bills do not get paid. If your child needs clothing, something for school, food, or things of that nature then out right buy it. Your child will be better impacted by money you spend directly on them then money their mother spends on them that your child has no idea that it even originated from you. The court system has you until your child is 18... hopefully this other man is a phase. Stay positive and continue being the best you can be.
Thank you for saying that because it is so true. I think thats what child support should be they give the father a list of things they need and let him buy it himself.

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