Natural hair mental breakdown

Natural hair mental breakdown

Posted in the Newburgh Forum

Nia

Evansville, IN

#1 Nov 10, 2012
Last night in the shower proved to me that i'm not about this natural hair life. i was suicidal, i was stressed, i was heartbroken, i was anxious, and my hair wasn't cooperating with me.

this natural hair thing is killing me, i can't get used to it. i don't have any hair product staples yet, i'm making all the mistakes, my hair is dry (and SHEDDING), i'm just confused and overwhelmed. all these other naturalistias (or whatever!) have this huge hair care regime that seems so time consuming.

Did anyone else have a hard time getting used to wearing their hair natural and keeping it healthy? i'm not co-washing everyday and using 59 hair products afterwards, i'm just not. i'm ten seconds away from putting a flat iron to this head and calling it a day.

oh and is using eco hairstyler gel ALONE a good idea? what about shea moisture.
natural

Evansville, IN

#2 Nov 10, 2012
Don't perm or flat iron it..she's moisture is a good line a like the hair milk and smoothie although the smoothie is thick.. yes u can use the gel alone I use water,oil, then cream...so spray your hair with water apply a oil..castor oil, jojoba, whatever u like then follow with a cream to seal i n the moisture.. hang in there cuz your hair will grow like u won't believe.. Try to embrace it YouTube has many styles also look UK Lady Key's Natural Hair Page..good luck what have you tried
natural

Evansville, IN

#3 Nov 10, 2012
You have to moisturize daily.. I co wash about 1 a week or every two weeks.. deep condition At least once a month and I promise u will get results. Rock a twa with a cute head band. And NEVER let your hair get bone dry. I big chopped in march and my hair is 8 in long. Hair grows 1/2 in a month so u will get results.
Blasian Queen

Evansville, IN

#4 Nov 10, 2012
Shea Moisture is good. If your hair is dry: increase the amount of water you drink by a couple more glasses per day. Use a MOISTURIZING shampoo that's sulfate-free. Shea Moisture has a nice one. You can also co-wash with a rich conditioner. If you have thick and/or long hair or it tangles easily, section it into 4-6 sections before you wash it so that it doesn't tangle.

I know people think pre-pooing is doing the most, but if you just put some coconut oil in your hair,bun it and put on a plastic cap for an hour or so before shampooing, it makes a world of difference. You can also try hot oil treatments. Oils do not moisturize but can help with the softness and shine.

Once you've cleansed and deep conditioned, apply a good leave-in conditioner in sections from root to tip. Detangle as you do this if need be. Then go over those same sections and apply a good moisturizing product. Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus is good. If you have thick hair, the Curl Enhancing Smoothie might be better than the Milk. Oyin Hair Dew and Curls moisturizers are EXCELLENT. Curls makes a moisturizing spray that I love.

Apply the oil of your choice to seal your hair, especially the ends and you're done. At night you can apply a little moisturizer, twist and put on a satin cap before bed.
Ms Dynamite

Evansville, IN

#5 Nov 10, 2012
Nia wrote:
Last night in the shower proved to me that i'm not about this natural hair life. i was suicidal, i was stressed, i was heartbroken, i was anxious, and my hair wasn't cooperating with me.
this natural hair thing is killing me, i can't get used to it. i don't have any hair product staples yet, i'm making all the mistakes, my hair is dry (and SHEDDING), i'm just confused and overwhelmed. all these other naturalistias (or whatever!) have this huge hair care regime that seems so time consuming.
Did anyone else have a hard time getting used to wearing their hair natural and keeping it healthy? i'm not co-washing everyday and using 59 hair products afterwards, i'm just not. i'm ten seconds away from putting a flat iron to this head and calling it a day.
oh and is using eco hairstyler gel ALONE a good idea? what about shea moisture.
Im with you sweetie, been natural for about a year now but I usually put in a weave over my natural hair. Everything that works for others doesnt work for my hair, all the youtube videos in the world didnt help me, even went to a professional and she couldn't really control it and end up asking me why don't I just straighten it. Honestly I just keep it weaved up , I'll probably put a perm back in once my hair reaches the middle of my back again. Personally the natural thing just doesnt work for me, I don't have the time nor the patience. I know natural chicks are going to give me hell for this but I just dont think going natural is for everyone.

Shoot I had a girl friend cut all her hair off to go natural dreaming of those pretty Spanish looking curls the rest of us got only to find out she had no curls naturally just naps, she was pissed, was natural for two years and going to a salon once a week and her hair still barely grew. She was pissed. Threw a perm and and been happier since. Some girls do great as naturals some dont. Whatever works for you love!
the unnatural natural

Evansville, IN

#6 Nov 10, 2012
I have been perm free and I DO get my hair ironed out..i just cant do the twist outs..i lose too much hair when im washing it afterward. my hair is healthier than its ever been. and no the heat does not harm my hair because its natural, because its stronger since i dont have chemicals.
do you

United States

#7 Nov 11, 2012
Everybody has different hair types what wrks for one may not work the next I went natural a tear and a half ago and my hair is 3 inches away from the length it was prior to the big chop. it doess take time n patience learning about ur hair if ur hair shedding u. Probably need to stop transitioning n get a big chop or add more moisture. Everybody shouldn't wash there hair everyday. My first year goin natural was whwering braids n quickweaves I only washed my hair once every 2 or 3 weeks. My hair was molded with growth protect solution so the tracks would just wash. Out but if extensions is for u like girl above said rock the teeny weeny afro with cute headbands or flower feather . Good hair products to try cantu. Shea butter products especially the one for natural hair may have to shop around not all hair supplies have it so far I've only come across one store that has it. Kinky curly c. Good luck.ustard from target. Is good for wash n goes. The two products I named wrk well for me again everyones texture is different eco styler. Gel doesn't do nothing for me I will be sticking to my brown gel when I want that sleek slick back look when iim not rockink the fro I go with that ampro pro styl its the truth. But it get easier stay away. From the creamy crack maybe look into natural hair magezines youtube. I love. My natural hair and wouldn't change it its been 6 months since. I've worn a weave but I may get some kinky twists to give my hair a break from all the wash n gos I been doing lately
CantBelieveIT

Tucker, GA

#8 Nov 11, 2012
People are getting depressed and suicidal over hair? People are taking this hair stuff way too far now.
natural2

Evansville, IN

#9 Nov 11, 2012
^^^ It can be depressing if its affecting her self esteem u never know.. It may seem silly to you but I get where she's coming from. Some people think they just just cut their off and It'll just grown it takes time to find what really works for your hair. How long is your hair Nia?? What have you tried that has or hasn't worked? Hang in there love
sasha

Evansville, IN

#10 Nov 11, 2012
I have a miracle for you
Kimmaye tube

Mix:
2 tablespoons aloe Vera juice ( health food store)
2 tablespoons wither kinky curly knot today or Giovanni direct leave in ( both at target but you have to look Giovanni cheaper)

2 teaspoons of castor oil
2 teaspoons of jojoba oil

Keep refrigerated and use after wash for twists braids wash n go
Whatever

Amazing try it and let me know ;)))
sasha

Evansville, IN

#11 Nov 11, 2012
Ms Dynamite wrote:
<quoted text>Im with you sweetie, been natural for about a year now but I usually put in a weave over my natural hair. Everything that works for others doesnt work for my hair, all the youtube videos in the world didnt help me, even went to a professional and she couldn't really control it and end up asking me why don't I just straighten it. Honestly I just keep it weaved up , I'll probably put a perm back in once my hair reaches the middle of my back again. Personally the natural thing just doesnt work for me, I don't have the time nor the patience. I know natural chicks are going to give me hell for this but I just dont think going natural is for everyone.

Shoot I had a girl friend cut all her hair off to go natural dreaming of those pretty Spanish looking curls the rest of us got only to find out she had no curls naturally just naps, she was pissed, was natural for two years and going to a salon once a week and her hair still barely grew. She was pissed. Threw a perm and and been happier since. Some girls do great as naturals some dont. Whatever works for you love!
They are not Naps I promise there is a curl pattern maybe she is a 4c?
Look up naptural 85 on you tube
shev

Evansville, IN

#12 Nov 11, 2012
Try YouTube Facebook. What have you tried? Natural hair takes patience but once u find what works for you it will all pay off. How much eco gel r you using. U may be using too much
Try this

Newburgh, IN

#13 Nov 11, 2012
okay so first got get a cup and a half of whole milk
and 1/4 cup of PLAIN oatmeal.
put that in a bowl and microwave for 5 mins
drain excess milk into a different bowl.
get one VERY ripe avacodo
gut it and put in a blender/food processor.
add a jar of baby banana food
blend again
add two egg yokes (just tell yellow)
blend again.
add 1/4 cup of honey
blend again
add 1/4 cup of extra virgin olive oil
blend again
then add 2 teaspoons of vinager
blend again
then SLOWLY add milk blending in between
after that put on hair and put a plastic bag or heating cap on
blow dry for 2 mins and leave on for 1 hour.
wash and blam
Noway

Evansville, IN

#14 Feb 20, 2013
Hmmm....pre-poo with expensive ass oil...wash off expensive oil with cheap shampoo...deep condition with expensive organic conditioner... detangle with "cheapie" conditioner...final rinse with either expensive organic acv or dolla sto apple cider vinegar...proceed to style hair with expensive leave in...seal with semi expensive organic butter concoction...spritz hair every other day with cheapie conditioner/water mix

Couldn't be me.
hair styler

Burlington, KY

#15 Feb 20, 2013
Nia wrote:
Last night in the shower proved to me that i'm not about this natural hair life. i was suicidal, i was stressed, i was heartbroken, i was anxious, and my hair wasn't cooperating with me.

this natural hair thing is killing me, i can't get used to it. i don't have any hair product staples yet, i'm making all the mistakes, my hair is dry (and SHEDDING), i'm just confused and overwhelmed. all these other naturalistias (or whatever!) have this huge hair care regime that seems so time consuming.

Did anyone else have a hard time getting used to wearing their hair natural and keeping it healthy? i'm not co-washing everyday and using 59 hair products afterwards, i'm just not. i'm ten seconds away from putting a flat iron to this head and calling it a day.

oh and is using eco hairstyler gel ALONE a good idea? what about shea moisture.
What do you mean by wearing it natural?

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