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#1 Apr 23, 2008
I am looking for opinions on why you think married men cheat on their mives. I mean why get married if you're going to continue to cheat?
sil vous plait

Pompano Beach, FL

#2 Apr 23, 2008
sounds like YOUR husband is cheating on you and you are trying to figure out what to do to stop him

you take care of your man, and your man will take care of you
sil vous plait

Pompano Beach, FL

#3 Apr 23, 2008
sounds like your husband is cheating on you and you are trying to figure out what to do to stop him

you take care of your man, and your man will take care of you

“Simon Cowell of YOUR reality!!”

Since: Sep 07

New Roads, now Lafayette

#4 Apr 23, 2008
i used to always think it was cause the wife wasnt "puttin out" or really tryin to please their husbands so i made it a point in my marriage to please. whatever my man wanted, he got...whenever he wanted it..he got it...even if i was sick with fever of 104. not one time in my entire marriage did i ever turn him down...even if i happen to be so mad at him i could just spit nails at him. i was a good faithful wife...clean house...cooked supper every night...and yet my husband cheated, over and over again. i finally had enough after i found out about his 31st affair and i left him. he ended up marrying oneof the women he cheated on me with. now...he cheats on her.....i believe it is an addiction with him. i believe men cheating can go all the way back to their childhood. in my ex husbands case, he didnt get much love and affection from his parents so he is constantly looking for it...even if he already has it. thats my belief anyway.
but i would like to add...it isnt always the men who cheat. i have known men that are totally faithful and the wife just cant stay faithful...again...the shrinks say their daddys didnt love them so they seek it from men...i think that men and women view sex separately. for most men...its physical...for women...its more emotional...and if hubby isnt showing her how beautiful she is...she tries to find someone that will make her feel like she is....
Pain

Baton Rouge, LA

#5 Apr 23, 2008
I would not look at the cheating men for the answer. I would look at the wife that is cheated on. And to be fair we can reverse the situation and apply it to cheating wives. Poor mate selection would be my first stab at the problem.

Husband or wife selection is rarely made with the foresight required for successful longevity. People choose their mates usually on superficial things. Like he/she makes me feel good. Good sex. Money. Good Job. Very rarely do they consider things like. Does he abuse substances. Did he cheat before. Will he still love me after the Baby. Did he/she come from a good family. Coming from a good family doesn't always mean good things, but if he comes from a family you would not want to be like then see if he rejects it or doesn't have a problem with it. Little things early on can grow into big things later. Don't ignore them because he has a lot of money or is good in bed. Those things can run out and then the real test comes.

People choose people for reasons that only they know in the beginning.

Maybe you picked a dog and are lucky that you have seen the real man before it was too late. Wake up tomorrow and try again. There are dogs and bitch's everywhere. Move on and let it be his loss and your lesson. If its you then decide if you want to change what made him do it or be satisfied with who you are.

Just hope you wake up tomorrow morning and have another shot a life and don't make more of it that you already have. Be good to people who deserve it and leave the trash alone. It will be harder for you to be a better person than it will be for you to find a better person. You know yourself, everybody is crap shoot.

I use to say that I wanted a wife that had been treated badly by a man so that she would recognize my good behavior and humanity and not wander around later. Some men want a woman with no experience at all. The world is full of us all. good luck.

My 2 cents.
sil vous plait

Pompano Beach, FL

#6 Apr 23, 2008
sounds like your husband is cheating on you and you are trying to figure out what to do to stop him you take care of your man, and your man will take care of you
sil vous plait

Pompano Beach, FL

#7 Apr 23, 2008
Opinions Please wrote:
I am looking for opinions on why you think married men cheat on their mives. I mean why get married if you're going to continue to cheat?
dont like my OPINION? Opinions hurt sometimes
blue

Zachary, LA

#8 Apr 23, 2008
sil vous plait wrote:
sounds like your husband is cheating on you and you are trying to figure out what to do to stop him you take care of your man, and your man will take care of you
you really dont need to repeat it over and over, once its on the page people can read it more than once. It just makes you look like a douche, or like a 6 year old kid jumping up and down yelling "look at me, look at me!!!"
a little 2 late

Pompano Beach, FL

#9 Apr 23, 2008
sounds like another dead beat post. bunch of divorced bitches wishin they had done more for their ex husbands

“Simon Cowell of YOUR reality!!”

Since: Sep 07

New Roads, now Lafayette

#10 Apr 23, 2008
sil vous plait wrote:
sounds like your husband is cheating on you and you are trying to figure out what to do to stop him you take care of your man, and your man will take care of you
read my answer...i DEFINATELYYYYYYYYtook care of my man...and he cheated...so tha isnt always the reason...although i am sure it is on occasion. but taking care of or not....the cheating spouse be it man or woman has NO right to cheat. you are in a commitment. i dont care if your spouse hasnt put out for a year. i do agree with most of what PAIN IN BATON ROUGE says tho. people make rash decisions and are thinking about mr/mrs right now instead of mr/mrs right!
sil vous plait

Pompano Beach, FL

#11 Apr 23, 2008
blue wrote:
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you really dont need to repeat it over and over, once its on the page people can read it more than once. It just makes you look like a douche, or like a 6 year old kid jumping up and down yelling "look at me, look at me!!!"
bet you are wunderin where your husband is rite now. bet he aint where you think he is.
fishfighter

Ventress, LA

#12 Apr 23, 2008
People,man/women will cheat if and when there is no friendship in a marriage.Ones other half has to be the others best friend.After 28 years + being with my better half,we are best of friends.Oh,did I say anything about sex?That just gets better!
to-hot

Ponchatoula, LA

#13 Apr 23, 2008
They have more women than men giving it up around this parish.
sil vous plait

Pompano Beach, FL

#14 Apr 23, 2008
fishfighter wrote:
People,man/women will cheat if and when there is no friendship in a marriage.Ones other half has to be the others best friend.After 28 years + being with my better half,we are best of friends.Oh,did I say anything about sex?That just gets better!
fish..you are absolutely right. you have to be
"best friends" first and foremost
Bad Girl

Utica, KY

#15 Apr 23, 2008
McFarland wrote:
i used to always think it was cause the wife wasnt "puttin out" or really tryin to please their husbands so i made it a point in my marriage to please. whatever my man wanted, he got...whenever he wanted it..he got it...even if i was sick with fever of 104. not one time in my entire marriage did i ever turn him down...even if i happen to be so mad at him i could just spit nails at him. i was a good faithful wife...clean house...cooked supper every night...and yet my husband cheated, over and over again. i finally had enough after i found out about his 31st affair and i left him. he ended up marrying oneof the women he cheated on me with. now...he cheats on her.....i believe it is an addiction with him. i believe men cheating can go all the way back to their childhood. in my ex husbands case, he didnt get much love and affection from his parents so he is constantly looking for it...even if he already has it. thats my belief anyway.
but i would like to add...it isnt always the men who cheat. i have known men that are totally faithful and the wife just cant stay faithful...again...the shrinks say their daddys didnt love them so they seek it from men...i think that men and women view sex separately. for most men...its physical...for women...its more emotional...and if hubby isnt showing her how beautiful she is...she tries to find someone that will make her feel like she is....
You hit the nail on the head, Mcfarland! That is exactly how the whole cheatin' thing works! Not getting enough affection from fathers can make a girl grow up hungry for male affection and attention! Thats why I've cheated in the past, its not about the man I was with at the time, but it was the lack of love that i didn't recieve from my dad! It is sad, but it is true !!!!!

lkm

“Take a chill pill!”

Since: Oct 07

new roads, la, lafayette now

#16 Apr 23, 2008
fishfighter wrote:
People,man/women will cheat if and when there is no friendship in a marriage.Ones other half has to be the others best friend.After 28 years + being with my better half,we are best of friends.Oh,did I say anything about sex?That just gets better!
You are SOOOO right!! I give you props!
wild thang

Utica, KY

#17 Apr 23, 2008
You gotta throw that pu**y on them like they never had it! Give em' a little bit of a** action, too. They love that shit! Act like a crazy, freaky bitch in bed, and he won't go no where! He'll fear you'll throw that good stuff on someone else if he leaves! Trust me, I'm a freak, and my man ain't going no where, if he did, he would be disappointed by the low grade piece of a**, when he had a freak at home all along!! throw it on him ladies!! Do the wildest shit you can think of!! He won't even look at another women the same! Men like nasty, so sometimes you got to get that way to remind them of what they got!!!! TRUST ME!!!!
minsky

AOL

#18 Apr 23, 2008
Hate to say it, but there is a lot of truth to what wild thang says (though I suspect wild thang may well be a man). Also, truth to what others have said in the posts prior to wild thangs. The dynamics of infidelity in a marriage are usually complicated.

“Go cook some rice!”

Since: Oct 07

The Bad Lands

#19 Apr 23, 2008
OMG, can we just name the husbands that are cheating. This could be so fun. I know at least 5 just without thinking. We can use initials and occupation if you want, instead of whole names. Although I like whole names. lol Then we can do all the wives.
wild thang

Utica, KY

#20 Apr 23, 2008
minsky wrote:
Hate to say it, but there is a lot of truth to what wild thang says (though I suspect wild thang may well be a man). Also, truth to what others have said in the posts prior to wild thangs. The dynamics of infidelity in a marriage are usually complicated.
Trust me, I'm a woman! I have made it an effort to please my man and he won't stray...I can guarantee that! I'm not saying that no man will ever cheat, I just know from experiance that the men I've been with(past relations) find it hard to let go of me! I owe it all to my freakish ways!There is NOTHING I won't try, men like that when you don't fear the unknown!Take control ladies..act like the man and dominate the bedroom... I promise you, try it for yourself and see that he'll be eating out of your hands the next day! It worked for me! Never been dumped a day in my life...if anything, can't get rid of the bastards once i give them what i got!Not a Ho, but knows how to please!!! Got to get buck wild! Act like you just got out of a jungle and go ape sh*t on that sausage!!

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